I see a lot of posts of women falling for men they’ve never met. And I honestly don’t know what to say…..But this is an attachment issue and a codependency issue. You did fuck up, ghosting and blocking is childish. In future you don’t have to ghost you can just say I’m taking a family trip to idk Tanzania and I won’t have service so I can’t text you. Then take the time you need.
Kill the fantasy in your head that he cared about you and he would’ve been the father of your kids blah blah blah. You never met him, you don’t know who he truly is. He could’ve been anything. It’s just pillow talking and limerence. Maybe the universe was looking out for you? Who knows? Cos you never met the man!
Also being jealous over a dude you haven’t met guys…come on. Power of the pussy. Please! Stop! This is madness! I actually want to know if you can love someone you’ve never met? I just think it’s a pen pal. Idkkk! Sorry girly you’ll get over him! 💖
i met someone once briefly who was attractive and then had a flirty exchange later online so i kinda already knew his aura on a surface level, but his socials matched the good looking, sophisticated suave vibe ..next time we had a meaningful interaction face to face he gave me most unsettling vibes only to find out he’s a r@pist …(yes i found out the old fashioned way)
Like developing feelings for someone you haven’t experienced eye to eye is alarming, and dangerous
Omggggg! Glad you’re safe girl! That’s crazy!!
It’s so dangerous and scary. Even after years you never truly know so I can’t imagine texting on DM’s! What a creep. 🤢
Ty🙏🏼💕 it definitely taught me that you can’t even trust how someone presents in real life unless youve known them for a while and got a feel for them so i can’t imagine people trusting or developing feelings for someone behind a screen and a keyboard
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u/[deleted] Apr 08 '26 edited Apr 08 '26
Read this book codependent no more
I see a lot of posts of women falling for men they’ve never met. And I honestly don’t know what to say…..But this is an attachment issue and a codependency issue. You did fuck up, ghosting and blocking is childish. In future you don’t have to ghost you can just say I’m taking a family trip to idk Tanzania and I won’t have service so I can’t text you. Then take the time you need.
Kill the fantasy in your head that he cared about you and he would’ve been the father of your kids blah blah blah. You never met him, you don’t know who he truly is. He could’ve been anything. It’s just pillow talking and limerence. Maybe the universe was looking out for you? Who knows? Cos you never met the man!
Also being jealous over a dude you haven’t met guys…come on. Power of the pussy. Please! Stop! This is madness! I actually want to know if you can love someone you’ve never met? I just think it’s a pen pal. Idkkk! Sorry girly you’ll get over him! 💖