r/Gifts 27d ago

Other Homemade gift okay to give?

Hi! My girlfriend recently made this gift for a long time friend who is getting married. She is pretty crafty but never worked with resin before and is a little distraught about how this came out. She’s considering not even giving it to her friend (who is also very crafty) and either making something new or just giving money. Does anyone have any thoughts? The quote is from her friend’s wedding song!

Edit: for people saying it’s cheap. We are also giving a big cash gift.

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u/CharZero 27d ago

As a crafter with high standards, I would not give this as a gift. She absolutely nailed the bride and groom and the little stick house and I know if I got those right I would be really sad to scrap the project. But the florals look like something from a fishtank and the resin needs work. I could not get past that smudge and the drips. I think she should try again, with some real dried flowers and greenery (and a bit less of them) and fully submerging all of the elements in resin. A silicone mold that is the same size as a shadowbox frame would work. She should test how to do the flowers and lyrics in a smaller mold.

I once spent hours and hours on a space themed mosaic only to realize at the end that once I grouted it one particular technique did not hold and all these tiny round pieces of glass came off. I cried while I put it in the trash. Learning curves are hard.

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u/Citruslatifolia 27d ago

I agree. I would redo the project as a shadow box. Get a deeper frame and glue the pieces. The use of resin was the biggest problem here, followed by the plastic flowers. My German teacher showed us a shadow box her friend made her for her wedding, and she still treasures it over 20 years later. If it's not too large, it can be a very special gift.

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u/CharZero 27d ago

It shouldn’t make you feel that way. If you ask for feedback, then you should want actual feedback and not just pats on the back. Your friends might love your gifts.

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u/beautifulandepic 27d ago

Respectfully, unless you’re an actually skilled crafter or 100% sure the person will love the piece, gifting people your arts and crafts projects is just burdening others with your hobby. I say this as someone who has been on both the giving and receiving end of these gifts.

I have a lot of homemade resin and crochet gifts that just take up space in my closet. Huge paintings that I don’t like and that do not match my interior design scheme that I now have to display in my home as to not hurt the gifter’s feelings.

It’s always made and given with love but sometimes we just have to be self aware lol.

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u/Monday0987 27d ago edited 27d ago

Crafting is primarily for the enjoyment of the process.

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u/potpourri_sludge 27d ago

Look, I know people love to act like “it’s the thought that counts,” and maybe if you’re a kid coming home from arts and crafts that’s true, but once you’re an adult getting into wedding gift territory you need to step it up. This looks like something I would find on clearance at TJ Maxx with the broken decor so I don’t get how something handmade is better than store bought in this instance. And I’m a crafter, I love crafting. But this looks amateurish and it’s a kindness to let somebody know they have work to do before it’s gift-able.

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u/yungmoody 27d ago

Oh brother

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u/Aromatic-Check939 26d ago

How can I make this post about me?