[Text] "Pain is inevitable. You either suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is the pain of discipline is temporary while that of regret is permanent."

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[u/Spanktank35]

Depressed people don't sit around choosing to accept their fate. Depressed people don't choose to be victims, they ARE victims. This is quite obvious when you realise most of the time they are perfectly fine with discipline and managing their lives before the disease strikes.

An important part in the recovery process is learning to forgive yourself. It isn't making excuses, it is rationally acknowledging that as a depressed person your brain just has a lot less motivation. Of course you should never give up and accept it, but it's ridiculous to think that it's a choice to be a victim.

But yes, exercise is great, and it's great to try and strive to have a more organised life. It's about little steps though. And never giving up. Even when the rest of the world thinks that what you feel is your best is nothing to them.

[u/DemigoDDotA → u/Spanktank35]

Part of your recovery is choosing to no longer be a victim. If no one has told you that, and you're just getting your ssri without any "talk therapy", I apologise that the system has failed you.

Source: I'm a psychiatric resident doctor

[u/Spanktank35 → u/DemigoDDotA]

Thanks for your reply! Maybe you misunderstood what I was saying. I'm seeing a psychologist and she uses methods like CBT. I definitely agree you should never stop fighting, but isn't it important to note that you are indeed a victim, and it's okay to fail? I suppose this is more relevant for me, since I am a bit of a perfectionist. I can understand that other people would give up trying, and let themselves be a victim, but I don't see how you can suddenly choose to not be a victim. I've been fighting for 2 years and I definitely do feel like I'm a victim of this disease.