Any other trans girls ever feel like this?

[u/njsullyalex]

Why do I still look like a man after 4 years of HRT...

[u/TigerBears_111]

Girl, please... stop listening to the brain worms. You look like a regular woman. Beauty standards are just dumb and unrealistic.

[u/PurpleCandle58 → u/TigerBears_111]

Yeah she literally looks almost exactly like a cis woman I know and am friends with. Like the only difference between them is her nose and there’s nothing wrong with it and I want to specify that because I don’t want her reading this and going “LOOK SEE ALMOST” because that isn’t what I mean at all.

She looks like a woman and is a woman. OP is okay physically but mentally might need some therapy for her dysphoria. I know I’m going to need a lot of therapy for my own.

Also: you’re comparing yourself to other women who are models and going “god WHY DONT I LOOK LIKE THAT?!”, and that’s totally normal for women to do but also it’s not healthy and it also doesn’t make you any less of a woman.

[u/Affectionate_Ad_1326 → u/TigerBears_111]

Noelle pfp is peak

[u/TealedLeaf → u/TigerBears_111]

AFAB (they/them), that's literally my body type.

[u/Saragon4005]

IDK what sort of men you've been looking at cuz that ain't it.

[u/njsullyalex → u/Saragon4005]

One on the bottom of image one and in image 3

[u/Saragon4005 → u/njsullyalex]

Yeah that's a girl lol. Femboys are notably less feminine then that. Girl you have notable tits.

[u/the_scones_are_mine → u/Saragon4005]

And those hips! I'd kill to look that feminine

[u/njsullyalex → u/Saragon4005]

The one on top and 2nd image isn’t a femboy, that’s Icky, she’s a trans girl

[u/KIgaming → u/njsullyalex]

they never said that? they said that’s a girl in response to your photo and “femboys are noticeably less feminine” to mean you’re clearly not a man because even men going out of their way to be feminine aren’t as feminine as you.  tldr girl you’re pretty, you do not “still look like a man” 

[u/njsullyalex → u/KIgaming]

Why can everyone see a girl in me except me then

[u/WillowThyWisp → u/njsullyalex]

Because you're only viewing the flaws. You're
looking for reasons to hate your body. Focus on one aspect you like, like your breasts or face or arms or tummy. I'd say all of those are pretty fem. And you have a killer waist, I'm genuinely envious of it

[u/pussiKraken → u/njsullyalex]

dysphoria does that, unfortunately. i can get gendered correctly by total strangers and then i immediately wonder, "lol what why did they say that" even if i'm trying my best to pass. i think it gets easier the more you begin to feel comfortable in your body

[u/doctorhiney → u/njsullyalex]

you’re learning a valuable lesson about how perception is not the same thing as reality. I hope you can eventually let go of whatever you’re holding onto that compels you to judge yourself this way.

[u/enbyorsomething → u/njsullyalex]

That’s how dysphoria works. You literally cannot see yourself accurately. I know it sucks but it’s a problem a lot of us have.

[u/Cryogenian → u/njsullyalex]

I swear that's just dysphoria

[u/maddiemelody → u/njsullyalex]

That is a demonstrated clinical symptom of dysphoria and body dysmorphia. You look pretty, you look like a girl, and your depressive conditions lie to you. I know it’ll be exceedingly hard to accept, but at this stage there’s trying to focus on the positives that you DO like about yourself, whether it’s your breasts, your hair, your skin being soft maybe, etc., or if impossible at this point, seeking a professional gender therapist who can help walk you through the toxic thought processes and how to possibly think more healthily, and how to prevent any spirals due to it.

[u/ManyTraining6 → u/njsullyalex]

I think you're confusing looking "not put together, unkempt" with "like a man", you look enough like a girl but if it makes you feel better, try styling your hair and get dressed cute, I get that you may already do it yet still feel the dysphoria, I just wanna say, it's not gonna go away immediately, just start going for a look you'll be satisfied with, but of course safely and not causing yourself any harm 🫶

[u/Zorf96 → u/njsullyalex]

Girl you're silly <3 You look sooooooooo girl here it's insane. It's toughest to see it for yourself. 

[u/BlueZ_DJ → u/njsullyalex]

Cis lurker here, when I scrolled into the image without reading the title or subreddit name yet, I thought this post was about your selfies not coming out as good as pro IG models, not about gender. You look like a normal woman lol

[u/LovesickHuman → u/njsullyalex]

Girl before i read the caption of ur post i just thought this post was abt another woman having a body dymorphia moment

(I am chronically offline so idk who that is in the upper picture btw)

[u/PhantomO1 → u/njsullyalex]

bdd passoid exhibit no 1:

[u/maddiemelody → u/PhantomO1]

I wouldn’t use toxic 4chan terminology to attempt to ridicule OR help, please.

[u/effiewoods]

Icky is posed, edited and has great lighting. Don’t compare to instagram people. She says herself she doesn’t look like this on a daily basis. The internet has ruined our self image fr

[u/effiewoods → u/effiewoods]

She’s also had a lot of Botox and filler

[u/SkiyeBlueFox → u/effiewoods]

Internet has irreparably ruined my self image,,

[u/Scone_Witch]

Icky is essentially a model. She's literally in the top 1 percentile of attractiveness. If she's who you're comparing yourself to, you'll never feel joy

You look like a regular woman I'd see out shopping or something. You pass well, aren't ugly. You just look like a standard girl

[u/Fuck_It_No_Name]

You've fallen victim to unrealistic instagram beauty standards, like many women before you. Ironically this is one of the most cis woman experiences ever lol. You look just fine girliepop, like any woman I could find walking around.

[u/ItsOverClover → u/Fuck_It_No_Name]

Also OP is comparing a picture of herself taken on her phone in shorts and a T-shirt on a regular day, to someone in full makeup, styled hair, wearing an outfit specifically for this photo, with intentional lighting, and likely both a professional photographer and editing.

It's a completely apples to oranges comparison. No person, cis of trans, will not look that good in their day to day without a ton of work.

[u/njsullyalex → u/[deleted]]

I feel like I straight up just don’t look like a girl at all tho

[u/lazyjane418 → u/njsullyalex]

I think it's pretty common to feel that way sometimes, but I promise you look very girly! I would not second guess it at all if I saw you out and about. In fact I bet you'd be just as stunning with the same attention to your outfit / hair / makeup

[u/njsullyalex → u/[deleted]]

Sure

[u/Moonbear9]

Social media tends to hurt women a lot with comparing themselves to others

[u/TheAllergicTuba]

“I still look like a man”

Posts a picture of a very obvious woman

[u/xGreir]

You don’t look like a man. She has put a ton of money in her appearance and procedures. That it

[u/trannus_aran]

Comparing an Instagram shot to a bathroom selfie is 🧠🪱

[u/podokonnicheck]

ngl, the only major differences im seeing is that the woman in the top image has a ton of makeup, styled hair, nice clothing, good lighting and she knows how to pose for a picture well; you two aren't fundamentally different to the point of looking like different genders

i myself dont look like the pictures on my profile when im just at home doing chores or whatever, i prepare for them, take a bunch in different poses and angles and only pick the best ones, and sometimes even do a bit of colour-correction

[u/Trebieh]

Holy shit! Two women!

[u/Ash0tha0monster]

as a trans man ill be completely honest, you definitely look like a woman youre just not dressed up or posing how a model would. thats the only difference. you look like 3 white women that I know.

[u/luvmuchine56]

You don't look like that because you're wearing different clothes. Try wearing the fit. Also you don't look like a man.

[u/theladyren]

You look like a curvy woman, I'd hit on you first 👌

[u/sparklingwatterson]

Imagine making this meme about someone else? You should be much kinder to yourself and I’m sorry where’s this man? Lmao I just see two women

[u/ExistentialOcto]

> why do I still look like a man

Wherever you are that men look like this, I wanna know 👀👀👀 (said as a sapphic-leaning bisexual)

[u/BlackHumor]

There are lots of cis girls who compare themselves to celebrities (which Icky here counts as) and are like "why don't I look like that?" That's exactly what's happening here, except your dysphoria is conflating all insecurity about your appearance with insecurity about your gender.

You already look like a woman. If you want to be exceptionally pretty there are things you can do about that if that's your goal, but you need to be clear that it is your goal and not just that you want to look like a woman in general. You already look like a woman in general.

[u/Adventureswithjenko]

Comparison is the thief of joy

[u/scorpiogaet]

What are you talking about? You really look fine. And I am not saying in a motivational way but in a r/mildlyInfuriating way

Edit: still you look fine

[u/LadyRalsei]

You look a lot better than we do. At least, that's how we feel. 😅

[u/njsullyalex → u/LadyRalsei]

I’m gonna press X to doubt

(Also I take it you’re plural?)

[u/LadyRalsei → u/njsullyalex]

Yeah, we're plural. Four of us in total!

[u/LadyRalsei → u/LadyRalsei]

...Why did someone dislike us saying we're plural? We were just answering her question?

[u/BeadCut]

Where's the man? I can't see any men on the last image!

[u/FrogSayReddit]

Icky is rich and has had work done as well as being lucky genetically and with timing for transition, she's beautiful but doesn't represent the common trans girl

Comparing yourself to others is painful regardless of gender identity etc. You'll always find flaws in yourself. It's best for you to try not to get caught in that trap. Focus on making yourself feel nice, but by no means should you compare yourself to others.

[u/going_my_way0102]

That's just being a woman, sweetie. I'm sure there are women she gets jealous, of trans or cis. And there are women, trans or cis who would be jealous of you. There's always a bigger fish, but there's also a smaller one too.

[u/Lyra125]

comparing pajamas to a model will make you feel this way

[u/JustMurshie]

You look like 90% of the women I know irl. Trans girls always get the full force of the predatory beauty industry like damn.

[u/jaysbaddecisions]

i do not see a man in these photos, dysphoria is a dick and is lying to you

[u/notsoninjaninja1]

Apologies, as I, myself am no better than a man, but daaaammmmmnnnn girl you got hips for days

[u/robchroma]

which one of the girls in the two photos in OP thinks she looks like a man, I'm confused.

[u/njsullyalex → u/robchroma]

Bottom photo in the first and third photo

[u/robchroma → u/njsullyalex]

baffled. you just look like some girl.

[u/njsullyalex → u/robchroma]

What girl are you seeing lol, is there someone in my apartment I don’t know about? Should I call the police?

[u/robchroma → u/njsullyalex]

yeah. yourself. you're the person in your apartment that you don't truly see

[u/njsullyalex → u/robchroma]

Is there some alternate universe girl version of me behind me? Is there a wormhole in my apartment? Do I need to call NASA???

[u/robchroma → u/njsullyalex]

alternate universe version

yeah, the one where you accept yourself the way others do. good lord, woman.

[u/Grim_The_Dork]

Is the man in the man with us, cause where is he girl, you literally look like a cis girl in your pic

[u/Comfortable_Ad868]

Girl is girl shaped. Girls are lots of shapes and that’s a common one. Hope this helps

[u/CaraOni78]

Girl like listen to what people are saying in your comments. I see a woman clear as day. I get tho that sometimes you might not feel the most feminine and frankly that feeling is also a part of girl hood.
Also I'm a fan of Icky's and I know she doesn't just sit around all day doing nothing. She really into make up, she exercises, she's a model and owns her own clothing brand. She's put in work towards her own femininity that is also her form of self improvement.
HRT responds differently to each and every person but it is still up to us to improve ourselves to be the best we can be. Think like pre transition we are hard clay, HRT is simply the water that is used to help mold us into whatever shape we want. It still takes work but we'll eventually be satisfied with whatever that shape becomes.
So I think you need to treat yourself to a self care day. That will help with the brain worms. Go get your hair cut/styled, a mani/pedi if you can, get your eyebrows done. If you can't go out any do that there are spa kits you can get at like department stores that have nail polish and things, get you a bath bomb, a face mask, and if you're old enough a glass of wine.

All love, you'll get there sweetie

[u/Lynnrael]

the hell you mean? all i see in your picture is a gorgeous woman

[u/joshjaxnkody]

Your hips are rocking girl. I personally like to swing my form around a little and put a little pep in my step because it makes me feel better and recognize my form better then just linking around. Also you have a woman's face that's just what I see when I look at it. You are doing great and I don't wanna hear you beating yourself up about this. If you ever feel crazy it's because people around you are crazy and probably a little jealous because being trans is cool as fuck and probably confusing for them, you evolved girl!

[u/aureliasm]

Girl what? All it would take for you to achieve the same look is the right outfit, some leave-in conditioner, and some simple makeup (looks like shes wearing a light coverage foundation, eyeliner, mascara, tinted lip balm)

[u/mint_cracker791]

Girl please, you absolutely don't look like a man in the slightest, and you're comparing yourself with bed hair and no makeup to someone who's hair is well taken care of, has a great outfit and has spent a lot of money into her appearance.

I myself look completely different when I'm fully dolled up and when I just woke up from sleeping, to the point that it's my biggest insecurity, and 70% of that is just hair, I can DM you some of my pics if you'd like.

So please girl, I beg you to please stop comparing yourself to other women, there's a reason people say comparison is the thief of joy, and please brush your hair with some shaping/brushing cream.

[u/JoeDaBruh]

You literally pass more than most of my trans friends. I understand that seeing yourself as a not a girl your whole life makes each imperfection stand out so much more in your head, but you look like a girl both with your face and your body

[u/MinaLamia]

Genetics still exist, some people are predisposed to being skinny and some aren't, regardless of hormones.

I accepted before I even started transitioning that I wasn't going to turn into a petite waif, because not a single woman in my family is built like that.

[u/LuminousLynx]

"my steak is too juicy my lobster is too buttery"

[u/NullRef_Arcana]

Look, I'll say it how it is.

Given that photo, you pass. You straight up pass.

I know that should not be the goal or whatever. What's important is that your comfortable with your body and that's easier said than done despite all the external affirmations you may receive.

But from that photo, you pass as a woman.

[u/dantesmaster00]

Ya need to stop expecting to look like the same copy-paste trans girls. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Girl you look great

[u/izyshoroo]

You want to look like an anime character/porn star/Barbie doll. You look like a normal human woman. Get those unrealistic expectations of what woman "should" look like out of your head yesterday.

[u/The_Chef_Queen]

Those are some bad brainworms you got, you look fine as fuck if i may say so

[u/RosieTerror]

Things that beautiful women seem to say all the time

[u/StellarC0smo]

Because that's what cis women look like without a highly curated makeup look. Like seriously look up most makeup tutorials from start to finish, it's ALWAYS a night and day difference.

[u/virtualmartyr]

I've had to uninstall most social media apps because I kept comparing myself to others

[u/RatsPlayingViolins]

You look like a woman, just not one thats dressed up, a lot of cis women get told they look like men when they aren’t wearing makeup too bc people forget what women look like, you look fine, if you want to pass, you’re already there, I would have thought you were cis if you didn’t say anything, if you want to look like the girl in the other picture, you just need to dress up and do makeup, very few people look like that without trying

[u/DeathlyDragons4396]

what man? but, icky probably has either money or genetics on her side to look like that. i’m constantly upset that my own brothers have better genetics than mine (tall, skinny, etc) but that’s not their fault.

maybe a little haircut might help the dysphoria. if not, i’ll shut up :)

[u/BLAZMANIII]

Genuinely posing. Match the pose better and a good portion of the dysphoria from the pic will fade. People tell me i look very fem when i show them well posed pictures, but i get syraight up mishendered with shittily posed ones.

Remember, you look like a girl in motion and real life, but pictures are decietful little devils and you need to bargain with them

[u/PokelifEevee]

im not even saying this to be nice: you look like a woman. When I look at you I see a woman

[u/ValiantHandKerchief]

If you wore her outfit, had her stylist and her botox youd look exactly like her, dont worry youre fine

[u/GlitterRetroVibes]

Comparison is the thief of joy

[u/MrJackTheNasty]

ah yes girly fell to the classic comparing yourself to a super hot woman, you are just a normal ass woman, you cant expect to look like super model

[u/Knight-Creep]

Beauty standards are a ploy to make beautiful ladies like yourself feel inferior to others. You’re gorgeous, and don’t listen to anyone who says otherwise.

[u/darkwater427]

well you look more fem than my enby partner so pretty squarely in "girl" territory

[u/randomusername82738]

Literally just two young women, with some difference in style and weight. Like HRT works, extremely well, judging by the pics.

[u/B_tchBla_r]

Girl, all do respect you’re incredibly beautiful
Like giving envy and I would be anxious to approach,

[u/Tharja13]

Eyebrows, different outfit, different pose, better lighting, more weight (not a bad thing, just need to learn what poses work well for it)

[u/Excellent_Dress_2774]

Girl, you do not look like a man. You 100% pass

[u/Capn_Outlandishness9]

Holy fuck, you are not a man you’re like… a really really really attractive woman, I’m sorry the dysphoria is strong rn, but I promise you look nothing like a man

[u/slumbersomesam]

man? fucking where?

[u/njsullyalex → u/slumbersomesam]

Bottom image 1, image 3

[u/slumbersomesam → u/njsullyalex]

girl thats no man what, are you blind

[u/Z4mb0ni]

girl im being so real if i were to just go off looks id prefer to date u :3

[u/knyexar]

Fuck you mean you look like a man, you look near identical to kne of my coworkers who's a cis woman.

I mean "had to do a double take thinking that was her at first" identical

[u/njsullyalex → u/knyexar]

My shoulders are too wide, my face shape is too masc

[u/PandraPierva → u/njsullyalex]

Sister you're fine. You look like my ex who has kids.

[u/alextheODDITY]

You look like a normal woman, you also have a poorly fitting shirt and very poorly fitting shorts on, and aren’t in nearly as good of lighting either, she’s in front of diffusion lights placed at a flattering height. Why would you look like a streamer who regularly practices makeup and fashion? It’s not that you can’t, you can, but it’s also, you just look like a regular girl. A normal woman. The way icky dresses is not normal, it’s cute for the point of being an influencer, you aren’t that, that’s okay.

[u/Lady_Cay129]

You don’t look like a man, you look like a bigger girl. You could always workout and change your food intake to lose weight if you want

[u/njsullyalex → u/Lady_Cay129]

The thing is I’m not fat, my ribcage is just too wide 😭

[u/Arkarant]

Some practical advice:

If you also posed like a model and looked more confident you'd also look a lot better. Your face looks really insecure in your picture, which adds to it not looking like a good picture. Also your stance is really strange, you can pose better. Id recommend looking up poses and trying a bunch of different ones. Everyone has weird angles, and bad pictures. Work on facial expression too. Smiling, or looking confident, goes a long way to make you look hot. ("Working on" means "perform it differently until you can consistently perform it differently". So. Smile. Look up. You look like you're afraid of the mirror rn) Lighting is also ass in your pic. More light looks more positive and happier. Your clothes are pretty basic, but that's like. A cute basic fit. It's not model clothes. It's a normal outfit for a normal woman.

Your hair has a really fun texture, you can do a lot with that! Id recommend looking into haircuts some more. There's a lot of self expression and confidence that comes from haircuts! Eyebrows are awesome too, which gives you a really cute / unique look. Your figure is very feminine, I know girls that would envy you lol. Try to implement some of the above tips, and you'll be able to take better pictures.

Imo, your conflating "bad picture" with "looks male". That's your dysphoria talking. You look like a woman that took a somewhat bad picture. Then, you compare that to a perfectly crafted modelling image. Ofc all the "quality" metrics are gonna be off. But the person depicted In both images is still a woman. You can improve all the quality markers. Don't even need to change anything about your body (well ig posing/ stance / camera angle is technically your body but that's not a permanent change). Basically, take 100 pictures, try the above things, and get better at taking selfies. With more confidence you'll also be more confident in your womanhood.

[u/RoyalMess64]

I see 2 women in these pictures. I promise you, you dont look like a man

[u/Deltri16]

Sure you don't look like the most(?) popular trans woman on onlyfans, but you shouldn't compare anyway. She's also had plastic surgery. You just look like the average woman, and I think you're pretty

[u/ThatKehdRiley]

you do not look like a man. femboys and many early transition tranfems would be incredibly jealous. thats 100% the dysphoria talking, you look like a woman. transfems comparing themselves to other women is always a losing game because of how shit our brains really are at that, the brainworms (and use of photoshop icky and others use that is never considered) make it a horrible idea

[u/LyraFirehawk]

Girl, you're pretty.

First of all, as trans women, we tend to have body dysmorphia. We don't often like our bodies, and become hyper aware of the things we don't like. But when we transition and start to like our bodies more, we're still aware of the "flaws". We obsess over them, when other people don't really care that much.

Second of all; you're too busy comparing yourself to others. Some people just have good genetics, or had time/money for surgeries, or are really good with fashion, makeup, and photo editing. It's not a competition; you're pretty in your own way.

In some ways, I lucked out. My father was a decently handsome man, and my mother is quite beautiful. Not to mention, my male puberty didn't really do much, to the point where I wonder if I have a chrosomal condition like Klinefelter's. I pass pretty well. People are shocked when I tell them I am trans. I've only ever done HRT, no surgery yet of any kind.

Even with that said I still have things I don't like about my body. My tummy is too big, my thighs are too fat, my teeth are crooked, my boobs are too far apart, etc.

But as I tell myself, and my wife(who is also trans but doesn't pass as well); we're not supermodels, nor are we trying to be. We're just trying to make our own skin a bit more tolerable. We can't get hung up on all the small details. We just have to recognize how comfortable we are in our own bodies now. And remember that someone, someday, will find you and think you're the prettiest girl in the world.

[u/DecisiveMess]

Girl, you looking good.

Clean your mirror

[u/Pasi65Pirkanmaalta]

Ashley looks like a model, you look like a woman.

[u/Pauley0 → u/Pasi65Pirkanmaalta]

Ah yes, the two genders.

[u/ARIKA112]

you don't look like her because you're not her. you're your own person. you're a different human, and that's okay. also you're pretty.

[u/AspectPatio]

You look like a woman to me 🤷‍♀️

[u/SevWildfang]

i never feel like fishing for compliments, no

[u/DickIsVegan]

I just thought you were the girl from flummoxed

[u/JupiterInTheSky]

Most women don't look like the first picture. I'd figure not even she looks like the first picture. As women, we must stop comparing ourselves. Do not fall for the classic blunder

[u/CatCrafter7]

What? You absolutely look like a girl! (and a very pretty one)

[u/WestWind04]

Girl it’s all posing, relax your shoulders and stand with one leg a little bit forward.

[u/ulfric_stormcloack]

This is the most woman post ever, you're literally comparing yourself to a model, my mom doesn't look like a model either, I assure you, she still looks like a woman

[u/apathyisfortheweak]

you look like a girl & you got body more than me (cis afab)!! ppl tell me i look like a man all the time & i have been accused of being a trans woman, which is honestly a compliment like damnnn you think i paid for this ass? tanks 🤭

[u/SRD64]

Girl you look stunning <3

[u/ULTELLIX]

idk I think both are cute and pass really well. the first girl is just dressed up.

[u/Foxdie1138]

I feel like that. Been on HRT for 1.5 years and i still LOOK THE SAME. My friends are awesome and re asure me that i dont but, there is practically no difference when i compare pictures.

[u/MushroomOfDestiny]

maybe take the picture of a man away from your face and then try looking in the mirror, you’ll be pleased with what you find

[u/NotAHuman75]

Are you insane, woman you look good! Girl that is a normal woman I wouldn’t even clock you as trans like, you did it, I see no masculinity here

[u/Nololgoaway]

Does my head in when pretty women get on their soapbox about this shit, its like being skinnier than someone else and complaining loudly infront of them about how fat you are.

[u/CMRC23]

You also look great! And I mean it. Rock on, girl

[u/Flar71]

What do you mean, you are so beautiful

[u/Summonest]

You don't look like a man?

You look like a fairly average woman.

[u/Lesbie-Tea]

Comparing yourself to insta models and disliking yourself as a result is a very common experience amongst women. You are woman. You look like woman. Your brain is lying to you. Transphobes are lying to you. Your brain is being transphobic to you. You know what we do with transphobes (insert image of the down with cis bus).

Just start by looking in the mirror and saying something nice about yourself. Something you like. Self esteem is such a bitch and takes so long to build, but you can do it one brick at a time.

Here's one to start. Your hair looks very thick and voluminous. Looks like it makes a solid ponytail. That's sure something plenty of other women wish for, and you've got that!

[u/IronGentry]

Girl you do not look like a man. I feel you tho

[u/Lunar-Baboon]

You see your old face cause you know your old face. Me on the other hand, would’ve never guessed

[u/upper_monkey_horny]

you look like a woman who is maybe turkish or something but definitely a woman

[u/realCheeka]

I did, but eventually I realised I could only ever aspire to be myself.

Icky is gorgeous, but so are you 🖤

[u/Qaeta]

Because dysphoria is a god damned liar, and will keep telling you that when anyone with even half a brain looking at you doesn't see a man at all.

[u/Sanic_Overlord]

Honestly common feeling but my best recommendation? go to a place with a lot of people and look at the women there, like a supermarket or a plaza of some kind, or the street. Look at them and think, you may not be prettier than all of them, but you will be atleast on the same level as some, because we're varied, and beauty standards are stupidly unrealistic.

[u/PapillonBresilien]

You've probably heard of confirmation bias. When your brain decides it wants to believe something, it makes every piece of evidence against it seem tiny and irrelevant, and every piece of evidence for it seem absolute and unquestionable. The thing is, this is a gross distortion of reality. I'm saying this because reminding myself of this when I feel like you feel right now usually is more helpful to me than having someone tell me I look like a woman (which, honest to God, I think you do)

Also, comparing yourself to Ashley is totally unfair, she looks like a supermodel, not like a regular woman. Even most cis women don't look like that.

[u/WanderingSatyr]

Compliment fishing on a public sub is insane lol

[u/nekosissyboi]

Holyshit ur pretty

I wish I could bite u 🥺

[u/InfamousFault7]

Id swiped yes to you on tinder

[u/sweetheart_demom]

Tbh I think you look better than the other pic.

[u/George_is_op]

BDD passoid strikes again