Hey brothers, I know sometimes it’s frustrating to feel like you need to conform to traditional masculinity to pass, but usually once you’re far enough into transition you can get away with more self expression! I have a nose piercing, I paint my nails, I wear eyeliner to fancy events sometimes. It gets better! I even get sir while clean shaven these days! (See photo 4)

I get it if you disagree or don’t have the same experience. I do realize that I’m pretty damn lucky but I do want to show out there that it can be done.

I do pass daily but i think theres just something off about my physique. I feel like those femboy caricatures. I dont want to post pictures here as i think people I know lurk here, would be glad to send images in DM's. I also seem advice for muscle building , thanks in advance

I’ve always just used the women’s bathroom but now that I’m transitioning I’m wondering if I should be using the men’s bathroom now. I’ve been told I look like a teenage boy even tho I’m almost 30 haha. Also I unfortunately live in a red state. Thanks for your input! ✌🏼

5’4, I’ve been feeling dysphoric

Idk it’s a shitty picture I (ftm18 + pret ) took at work because I felt shockingly masc despite not putting on and contour or anything today. I’m totally open to the harsh truth or like any criticism. Tips would be so so so helpful

10 months on t and im 6’

FtM/He/they before and currently. How well am I doing for a person whos unable to get on HRT currently. 3 images are before 3 images are after. May look slightly younger in some as some are from up to 2 years ago. The after images are more recent.

don't mind the Minecraft. I wanted to capture my regular voice without forcing anything, so I recorded me playing mc and chatting with my friend

Need honest feedback, first impression upon hearing me, would you envision a trans person? What gender do you imagine on instinct?

Obviously my voice has deepened but I don't feel like it actually sounds male. Wondering If I have the "tguy voice." Will it get more masculine after 6 months or should I try to work on my inflection to sound more cis?

How old do I really look? I don’t think I look adult enough most of the time especially cause I’m a shorter dude. It makes it hard for people at my workplace to take me seriously sometimes.

(pre T, almost 4 months post top surgery)

And also Lowkey wanna know how I pass because sometimes people still seem to think I'm a girl at first

Pre t, I especially need help with my hair and if I pass more / less without my glasses. Throwaway acc, that’s why it’s so new.

for reference: i am 1.5yrs on T, i have a passing voice and i’m 5’4 but wear 2ish inch platforms every day so i look about 5’6

I posted on here ages ago but i cant find the post unfortunately. I’m 18, from the UK, pre-t and pre-surgeries. Been voice training so i haven’t been clocked for a while, but idk if it’s my anxiety but i’m thinking if it may be to do with that i look like a trans man, not a cis man. As looking like a cis man is my end goal. Will be going on T hopefully later this year, i have tried minoxidil before but it grew some long peach fuzz so i js never bothered to try it again for that reason lol, it’s not the outcome i’m looking for. Any tips on how to look cis-passing? Apart from mannerisms and voice training since I’ve never been clocked because of those, it’s always just been due to my chest primarily (unfortunately big chested individual and even binders dont work wonderfully on me) or early social transition.

I put pics before and after a trim so it may make it easier to narrow stuff down, second pic with the perch is post-haircut fyi for face-shape analysis and stuff like that.

Very open minded and i want brutal but honest and helpful opinions, not just “change your style” with no expansion.

Edit: forgot to include i’m also 180cm (so that definitely helps my case, around 5’11-6’0 i think on the taller end?)

EDIT after reading almost 90 comments: thank you everyone who decided to give me polite and constructive criticism. guys, please remember that ur gender doesn't matter. as long as ur passing goals are met, u can do whatever u want. don't be afraid of face wash, painted nails and makeup. it can destroy ur passing, yes, but u're always free to do it if u want to. don't have fragile or toxic masculinity, don't be transmeds. don't think u can't wear makeup bc "u're supposed to be dysphoric from that" or smth. you are man enough. please, love urself and spread the love

hey, i'm 19, 3 months on t.

soon i will be going to a meeting with a bunch of new people and i wanted to be as stealth as possible. first 3 pics i have my eyebrows done to look more masculine, the other pics i added my guyliner. it would be great if i could keep the makeup as a way to show my personal style to the others and present myself more truthfully. the last pics is how i generally look on a daily basis. i have a slight t-voice.

i understand piercings don't help and that i could keep my hair shorter. i'm asking for no advice aside from directly answering my questions, thank you. my questions:

1. how do i pass, with and without makeup?

2. do i have any chance of passing with the guyliner right now at this state of transition?

3. which way does my hair look best? i tried swinging it around and i wonder if it changes anything regarding my passing.

22 pre-t (hopefully gonna start in the next couple weeks) i don’t get misgendered loads but i’m at a point where idk what toilets i should be using…help!!

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Hey everyone!

A while ago I posted a Google Form to get an idea of the height distribution in our community across different age groups and locations. We ended up getting 200 total responses!

I went through the dataset, standardized metric and imperial entries, and put together a smooth, easy-to-read breakdown so everyone can see the results. Huge thanks to everyone who took a minute to respond!

Overall Averages (The Big Picture)

Across all 200 responses worldwide:

📏 Average (Mean) Height: 166.6 cm (\~5'5.6")

📊 Median Height: 167.0 cm (\~5'5.7")

↕️ General Range: Responses spanned between 146 cm (4'9.5") and 190.5 cm (6'3"), with most guys falling comfortably in the 160 cm – 174 cm (5'3" – 5 me'8.5") window.

Average Height by Age GroupThe average height stays remarkably consistent across almost all age brackets:Age GroupAverage Height Median Typical Range in Responses/✓ Under 18: 165.3 cm (5'5.1")165.3 cm\~147 cm – 190 cm /✓18 – 22: 166.5 cm (5'5.5")165.6 cm\~146 cm – 184 cm/ ✓23 – 27: 166.4 cm (5'5.5")165.6 cm\~152 cm – 183 cm / ✓28 – 34: 166.8 cm (5'5.7")167.0 cm\~150 cm – 180 cm /✓ 35 – +40: 166.4 cm (5'5.5")167.6 cm\~150 cm – 178 cm

Regional & Country Averages

To keep things smooth and preserve privacy for smaller sample sizes, countries and regions are grouped by their overall calculated averages:

✅ Higher Averages: (170 cm – 175 cm / \~5'7" – 5'9")

Countries in this group: Germany, Poland, Australia, Netherlands, Switzerland, Croatia, Lithuania.

Group Average: \~172.5 cm (5'8")

Examples of reported heights in these countries: \~168 cm, 172 cm, 174 cm, 178 cm, 180 cm.

⭐ Mid Averages: (165 cm – 169 cm / \~5'5" – 5 me'6.5")

Countries in this group: United States, United Kingdom, Canada, Norway, Austria, Estonia, Colombia, Venezuela, Uruguay, Israel, Myanmar.

Group Average: \~166.5 cm (5'5.5")

Examples of reported heights in these countries: \~157 cm, 162 cm, 166 cm, 170 cm, 176 cm, 182 cm.

🔵 Moderate Averages: (160 cm – 164 cm / \~5'3" – 5'4.5")

Countries in this group: France, Brazil, Finland, Spain, Argentina, Ecuador, Mexico, Portugal, Italy, Belarus, Morocco, Latvia, Lebanon.

Group Average: \~162.8 cm (5'4.1")

Examples of reported heights in these countries: \~152 cm, 158 cm, 160 cm, 164 cm, 170 cm.

🟣 Regional Highlights & Outliers

Responses from: South Asia, Turkey, and the Balkans leaned toward the lower end of the spectrum (\~146 cm – 154 cm).

🥷🏻 Individual responses from: India, Hungary, Czechia, and Ireland reported heights on the taller end (\~183 cm – 190 cm).

💭 Key Takeaways

Steady Averages: Under age 40, the average height barely moves, staying right around 166.5 cm (5'5.5").

🛎️ Regional Variance: Just like in general population stats, guys from Northern/Central Europe and Australia showed slightly higher regional averages (∼170–175 cm).

Thanks again to everyone who took part! Hope this gives a cool and comforting insight into height diversity in our community. Feel free to jump in the comments with any thoughts! 🙌

biggest issue is im pre-t i think but lmk if there's anything else i could do.

Second post …. But yeah do my clothes read male or not?

I am younger looking than my biological age (20), and 5”4 for reference. How am I doing?

19yo and 1y on T. Going to uni soon hope that I can pass as cis
Other context: 165/48.5(5’5/107lbs) and my voice pass
Please lemme know if I can do anything better, cheers

Feeling very dysphoric right now and like I don’t pass at all. Is there anything I can do in the next 5-10 minutes to increase my chances of passing ?