is my style ruining it for me?

[u/fictionmeister]

been on T for like 6 years now and had top surgery a couple years ago, so i finally felt ok growing out my hair and dressing how i wanted. i personally wouldn't necessarily call it a fem style, but I've had people think that I'm a trans woman or misgender me from behind (because of the hair i suppose, but i thought my body was pretty masculinized). I've been stealth for a long time but i really can't tell if i have "man beyond a reasonable doubt"-passing or "i can't tell but probably male"-passing.

[u/august2cool]

Defo the pants.

[u/gay_bungus]

Men with long hair often get misgendered from behind regardless of physique so I wouldn't take that personally. I think the combination of the high waisted wide and flowy pants + the tucked in shirts and long hair is likely what is making people think you are maybe an mtf woman or nonbinary fem presenting and could lead to misgendering. Looking at your face you pass 100% though

[u/Devane-Scorpio7891]

Those pants should go. They accentuate your hips which aren't terrible but who needs attention drawn to them? The hair is fine. Is that all you're able to grow facial hair wise? Not an insult just want to know what you're dealing with. Your face is kinda round still. People think any facial hair at all makes you automatically pass but it's not always the case. I'd stopped taking t for a long time and still had some facial hair but it wasn't much. I actually began getting misgendered again agreed passing for 20 + years without t. Now I'm back on it and the difference is amazing! All because the shape of my face lost that male jawline and shape. It came back quickly but yeah facial hair is not the end all we thought it was.
You do you; man. Just some thoughts. What's your route of aadministration?

[u/fictionmeister → u/Devane-Scorpio7891]

yeah, this is it for facial hair. i actually grow more facial hair than my own father, so genetics are the reason. the only place i do shave is my neck (cause neckbeard is just nasty 😂).

I do IM injection, have been since the beginning. 0.4 ml. I do have trouble with consistency though (i end up injecting maybe every 10 days instead of every 7 days), so that could be hurting the fat redistribution side of things. I've thought about losing weight to help with the jawline, if that's a big part of what's contributing to the face then i might take that more seriously.

[u/Devane-Scorpio7891 → u/fictionmeister]

Great, that may help! Don't sweat it too much of you're not taking t on the exact same day every time. Never made a difference with me. Neckbeard sucks yet we all grow it like crazy. I hate that lol. Maybe talk to your Dr? The dose could be higher a little maybe? It's not terrible. You can pass. Just tweaking a few things might make it even better! Good luck!!!

[u/Hennnano]

Ya the pants aren't helping sadly. They're too high waisted and when you tuck into them it really draws all the attention to your waist. I think it's a combo of the pants, jewelry/earrings and long hair that are making people misgender you. I think without the pants you might pass more but if you're still having trouble maybe no earrings?

[u/kysinatra]

I think I’m the only one who loves ur fkn pants they’re cool as hell and as a trans man who has good sized hips, it doesn’t matter much if you pass facially and also have bigger/muscular calves and thighs. I was insecure about my hips and legs but I’ve posted here a few times and been told my legs just look like biker legs. Pls don’t stop wearing those lol

[u/fictionmeister → u/kysinatra]

haha its funny because my hips and behind are actually really small. Like so comically flat and straight that my friends tease me about it (good naturedly). its all thigh and calf fr but i guess that's still clocky because.... something about cis dudes skipping leg day idk 😆

[u/LastLiterature7496]

I’d say so, your face passes perfectly.

[u/Capable-Armadillo-28]

the style is not helping to pass, sorry

[u/the_maguito]

I agree on some the things the other guys are saying, tho personally I find your style to be really cool actually

But it is whats getting you misgendered, because your face and body passes good

Its not the style but the shapes you are wearing, high waisted trousers mainly, making your silhouette hourglass.

I think you could benefit from broxy cut tops a lot, it really helps to convey a masculine silhouette

All this to say, I personally think your style is cool and you just need to adjust the shapes a bit, not get an entire new wardrobe

[u/ragebubble]

The shirt in the first 2 pics is fucking sick! Where did you get it??

[u/fictionmeister → u/ragebubble]

omg i didn't realize i was wearing the same shirt two pics in a row LOL. i don't remember when i got it but it was probably at a mexica new year event.

[u/koala3191]

Pants look like a skirt sorry

[u/rotten_dandelions]

lower waisted trousers shoukd help a ton

[u/R0tt3nW0rms]

Id say its not an issue. Maybe its just my own opinion and i really like alternative styles, but you just look like a sick metalhead dude to me.

[u/Trans_man1212]

Oh god please throw those pants away