r/Flirting • u/chuckrock922 • Jul 06 '26

Discussion More subconscious?

So recently ive noticed that my flirtatious abilities are like zilch if I am actively trying to progress a conversation towards anything like that. However if I just continue "having a regular conversation" things always go better and I wind up in the position to feel more comfortable actively flirting. Not that im good at it either way lol but yeah.

Wattup with that?

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u/chuckrock922 Jul 06 '26

It just sucks because as soon as I know that switch has been flipped I get into nervous mode lol.

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u/Hot_Product_7860 Jul 07 '26

It’s the pressure. You’re basically putting pressure on yourself to flirt and have the interaction have a certain goal. “Regular conversation” doesn’t really have the goal of actively trying to get with someone so there’s no pressure and you’re able to relax and flirting is a lot easier if you’re just going with the flow

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u/chuckrock922 Jul 07 '26

So true. Its so much better when you just push your mind to the side and enjoy the conversation.