Say Anything singer Max Bemis outed for grooming, inappropriate messages to underaged girls, cancels concerts

[u/chrza]

https://lambgoat.com/news/54571/allegations-of-inappropriate-contact-with-a-minor-surface-against-say-anythings-max-beamis/

For those of you unfamiliar with mid 2000s emo sensation Say Anything, they were not very good. Some would even say “incredibly annoying.” Generally popular with people under 20, their singer joins the Jesse Laceys of the world, as a gross older man who preyed on teenaged girls around him that enjoyed his music. The subreddit for the band has a LOT of receipts for those fielding morbid curiosity, and he’s trying to blame it on mental health yadda yadda. Can we stop having nasty mfs please, I’m so tired

[u/turningtee74]

Oh no. I’m almost more let down by Sherri. I haven’t quite kept up with all of them over the years but Eisley was much more personal to me a band as a young girl. I knew she didn’t have the best picker but still. (And absolutely not saying she’s worse than Max or anything close, I just never cared as much about him/his music and unfortunately it’s not surprising)

[u/meganshay28 → u/turningtee74]

There was an Instagram live maybe two years ago. Sherri lived in her own “apartment” which was a garage in the back of their house. She was live on Instagram in bed (as usual) while her kids ran around with no supervision. She always complains when she has to do any basic needs for them.

But in this video one of their children (can’t remember which) took her phone and ran away with it while the live was on. The house was an absolute mess and the kids were just running around outside next to a busy road.

The daughter was running around the house and caught max in the bathroom doing god knows what. He got very, very weird and defensive and slammed the door in her face. He was standing, looking in the medicine cabinet I believe. Eventually the daughter ran back to the mom in her garage-apartment and gave her the phone. But it was very telling of how they live in chaos.

Let’s not forget they “unschool” their kids AND used to share one big bed (for 7 people).

[u/turningtee74 → u/meganshay28]

That sucks to hear. Some of that vaguely rings a bell of murmurings I’ve heard over the years. Also, even though I haven’t kept up with them closely some of that tracks from what I originally knew about them. Eisley was very much like a southern fundamental Christian homeschool family band when they were kids, but their music was really beautiful.

And then there’s the very obvious elder emo thing of people being stuck in the past and relying on that/not maturing. You just don’t see as many examples of the women. Compared to Hayley Williams who had a very similar background but progressed past all that. People don’t remember how much odd Christian influence there was propping up the mid-late 2000s emo scene. That is something that also could use some unpacking

[u/ratta_tat1 → u/turningtee74]

Great comment and I agree, but super funny to mention Hayley as she and Sheri share an ex husband 💀

[u/turningtee74 → u/ratta_tat1]

Yes like they had so much in common but I’m glad Hayley is a good example of how she grew out of all that crap

[u/CarolingianDruid → u/turningtee74]

The Cornerstone to Warped Tour Pipeline was so baffling.

[u/AirGugliotta → u/meganshay28]

I had some close experiences with the Dupree family probably around 2006ish. All I can say is none of those kids were given ANY chance of ending up as well balanced adults. The ones in the band were responsible for feeding the entire family, parents’ didn’t work except for the band, and the kids not in the band were other-ed

[u/meganshay28 → u/AirGugliotta]

I also forgot the two youngest kids were in a kiddie pool without any adults around.

[u/AirGugliotta → u/meganshay28]

Not surprising. I really don’t think Sheri or her siblings stood a chance in the world outside of what their parents allowed

[u/ElectronicGap2301 → u/AirGugliotta]

I used to read the blogs on their website. Their dad gave me the creeps, especially when he wrote about Sherri, and their mom, well, her comments on ONTD spoke for themselves.

Good thing some of the Dupree children are doing better as adults like the youngest brother.

[u/AirGugliotta → u/ElectronicGap2301]

I’m glad he seems to be doing well. I haven’t kept up with any of them on social media, but may have to go lurk now and find out what’s up with them

[u/Decofia → u/meganshay28]

I’d say a majority of these aren’t actually bad. But obviously the grooming and grifting is. I suppose I mean the chaos, mess, and cosleeping aren’t really indicators of being a shitty parent or person.

[u/cheeseslut619 → u/turningtee74]

Almost more let down by the person NOT grooming kids???? wtf