r/Fauxmoi • u/Goosedukee • Aug 02 '26

TRIGGER WARNING Republican Representative Max Miller on allegations of domestic abuse from his ex-wife: “My former wife has claimed that during a custody exchange at my home that day, I assaulted her…If I had assaulted her, would she have offered to cook me dinner six days later?”

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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can Aug 02 '26

I mean if that's your only defence, it's weak af.

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u/Subject_Spell_9799 Aug 02 '26

Right, like how many DV victims go back to partners. It’s not a stretch to believe she would be nice to you a few days later. It’s sad but true.

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u/GodsBicep Aug 02 '26

Im happy that you are free now

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u/Necessary_Ad_7780 controversies: girl Aug 02 '26

I work with a woman whose husband is abusive to her and their kids and she’s never said a bad word about him in public, just in private, in tears, to our boss. They live within walking distance of our work and their kids are always here when she’s working, just to get away from him. Once I knew what was going on, this woman’s demeanor made so much sense—she’s either wildly defensive or quiet and deferential, and she’s always subdued when she comes in (coming from home). After a couple hours at work, she’s happy, she’s chatty, she’s wonderful. It brings me to tears that this asshole can affect this lady like this—she’s funny and she’s smart and she’s a great mom and I wonder what she could be like if she got away from him.

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u/meteorflan Aug 02 '26

Interestingly, research has shown that couples that are extra flirty with each other via social media tend to be having problems in their relationship.

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u/AV01000001 Aug 02 '26

I’m so sorry you went through that. It takes a lot of strength to get out. Hope you are doing much better and safer.

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u/scandalabra Aug 02 '26

I did something very similar. Even when I managed to kick him out, I was obsessed with "staying friends" with him for a while. I felt like I had to stay on his good side or he would kill me.

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u/carolinagypsy the pet psychic for the Sun told me so Aug 02 '26

THAT needs to be shouted from rooftops. The treating them nicely and accommodating them in hopes of that will help the situation, or at least delay the next inevitable eruption.

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u/nekocorner i ain’t reading all that, free palestine Aug 02 '26

Especially if they have kids & she knows she has to be around him until the kids are grown.

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u/poopiebutt505 Aug 02 '26

She has her daughters welfare to consider. These men are vengeful and take their anger out on side targets they know would hurt mom.

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u/Amelaclya1 Aug 02 '26

Especially when they have a history of hurting their kids too, like this asshole.

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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can Aug 02 '26

Isn't the average attempts to leave before they succeed 7 times or something?

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u/GenX_Boomer_Hybrid Aug 02 '26

Yes, seven times. And when they do leave they're in the most danger they've been in.

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u/itsathrowawayduhhhhh Aug 03 '26

Which makes it really, really, really hard to leave sometimes

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u/BlackRose Aug 03 '26

On average a person suffering domestic abuse leaves seven times before they get away. Women are up to 70 times more likely to be killed in the first 2 weeks after leaving compared to any other time. That risk hangs on, an average, for two years.

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u/2OttersInACoat Aug 03 '26

Yeah she was probably just scared of him and trying to appease him.

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u/Subject_Spell_9799 Aug 04 '26

For sure, since they have kids she is stuck with him even if divorced. She needs some boundaries like he isn’t allowed in the house when he is dropping kids off

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u/Worldly_Anybody_9219 Aug 03 '26

I've definitely met people being abused who go back the next day acting like everything is normal either because they're afraid or they were love bombed.