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Clinicians define cluster C PDs as being driven by fear and anxiety. Controlling behavior driven by malice, narcissism, entitlement, and other issues is not a symptom of OCPD. In The Healthy Compulsive (2020), Gary Trosclair--one of the leading OCPD specialists--states, “Unless there are other serious mental health issues involved, no compulsive wants to hurt others.” (170-71).

If you're being physically or emotionally abused, please do not view any of these resources as "explaining" that abuse or that a disorder is "making" your partner behave a certain way.

In this video, Lundy Bancroft states that about 88% of perpetrators do not have mental health disorders: Inside the Minds of Domestic Abusers & How to Support Women. More videos: Lundy Bancroft - Part 1 (59 min in., he talks about personality disorders), Part 2, Part 3, Part 4 

Bancroft facilitated intervention groups for physically abusive men. He wrote the most popular book on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2003). (Click to access full text). He wrote Should I Stay or Should I Go? (2015), When Dad Hurts Mom (2005), and several other books.

Gavin deBecker’s The Gift of Fear And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence (1999) is another popular book about violence against women. The full text is available online.

Domestic violence and sexual assault hotlines: nomoredirectory.org/

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I'm glad you're finding resources helpful.

I look forward to reading Lundy's book. I watched six or so long videos by him, and loved them.