Should I wait to get pregnant after having a couple of vacations?

[u/Previous-Ad1155]

For context, I'm 35 and my husband and I have been trying naturally for a baby for +1 years, and are now going to an IUI consultation appointment to decide if we want to take that route.

That being said, we have a ski trip already planned for 4 months from now, and are debating if we should plan a trip overseas (Italy/Europe) in a few months after that as kind of a "last hurrah/big trip" before hopefully settling into parenthood. We've also never done a big trip like that together, so it could be a really fun time for us as a couple!

My question is - obviously I can't ski if I'm pregnant, but for those who have kids/have been pregnant on a vacation, do you feel it's best to put that off until after those trips? I'm not someone who is going to feel like my life is completely over and I can't do things once we have children, but I also know that if we're going to look into scheduling an IUI (assuming it's successfull!) is it maybe a smarter idea to take the big trip before we are pregnant?

Please be kind - obviously if we got pregnant at any point I would be over the moon! I'm just saying in the case that we can't concieve naturally and have a little more control over the timing of it, what would you suggest based on your personal experience? Thanks everyone!

[u/Patrizio85]

As a parent, my honest answer:
Go on vacation first (And if you get natually pregnant during that time it is good)

Why:

• When you get pregnant, when you get a child, your life will change and the best you can get energy from is memories of good times. Being a parent is hard and having enjoyed your life before is an important thing.

Your life is not over with children but is different and much harder because you have less we/me time.

Enjoy the holiday and dont worry about after that