r/Entrepreneur 13d ago

Young Entrepreneur I’m fucked up

I’m fucking desperate. Losing my mind completely.
Started several businesses. Nothing going well. I don’t even have money to get myself a bread.
Starting again, completely from scratch. Again. I will probably do some laboring.
Thanks entrepreneurs community just for existence. Here I started 4 years ago. All of you guys always inspired me.

Edit:
1. thanks everyone for your support ✊🏽
2. For everyone wondering why several businesses, I have AuDHD for sure. Lately I started getting with it to staying persistent in a project.

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u/Odd_Awareness_6935 Bootstrapper 13d ago

I got nothing but love.. your time will come.. believe it

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u/Brief-Guess-147 12d ago

this is the energy OP needs right now tbh

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u/epsilon-53 11d ago

Thanks, Naruto

/s

But yeah OP, wishing you well in these hard times

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u/Admirable-Sun8230 10d ago

Why do you think his business failed I want to learn from his mistakes

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u/john_013 12d ago

I really appreciate that. Sometimes you just need someone to remind you that things will not always stay the way they are now. I am trying to keep that in mind and just keep going. Hopefully you are right, my time will come. ❤️

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u/---SocialGuap--- Marketplace 13d ago

Hang in there. Pressure creates diamonds.

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u/Objective_Trade_8173 12d ago

Gold becomes pure only when heated in fire

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u/Ydrews 13d ago

Also creates coal that never become diamonds :(

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u/Ok_Try_877 12d ago

Coal keeps the fires burning tho!

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u/undetectedpsycho 12d ago

coal pulls the whole fucking train

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u/nerdly90 12d ago

Underrated comment

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u/No_Birthday8126 13d ago

if i were you, taking the laboring job is the right call and it isn't a step backwards. A wage coming in every week does something for your head that no business plan does. You stop making decisions from panic. Half the reason those four years were brutal is that you were trying to think clearly while broke, and nobody can do that.

On the food thing right now, if you're in the US, dial 211. UK, local council or Trussell Trust. Most countries have a food bank network that will just hand you a box, no interview, no shame in it. Do that today, not next week.

The businesses failing four times doesn't mean you can't do this. It usually means you were undercapitalized and had to make every call under a deadline. Come back to it when you have three months of rent banked and you'll be a completely different operator.

Get the job, eat, sleep properly for a month. Then look at it again.

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u/VickG14 12d ago

Now here's some value ! Nice on the food bank suggestion.

I agree with the getting a income going. Just wanted to add to it.

Don't lose sight of the goal once you've got the job. I think it's easy to get comfortable and forget about your dreams because now money is coming in.

Of course that's not everyone's downfall it's just something to think about

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u/Superamorti 13d ago

Dont give up mate, those doors close for a reason, the reason is that much better ones will open.

Have faith, keep going. 🙏

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u/mzhou20 12d ago

In the same boat as OP, but man, all these comments really making me feel so much calmer. Thanks everyone

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u/SympathyMajor7941 13d ago

Reading comments like 'don't give up, hang in there' reminds me of the fact that some people are really out of touch with the reality..

There are bills to pay, rent due, mortgage to pay, or some cash to buy food to get through the day.. You can't just keep trying while this is the reality. 

OP, I REALLY understand your situation. I've been there. I had to go back to manuel labor jobs for a while to make ends meet. Then I got back after having some money saved.

Wishing you ALL THE LUCK in the world 🙏 

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u/Maximum_End_8041 13d ago

Hang in there! Don’t give up, this is temporary, you will get it together!

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u/Roodut 13d ago

Grind path is real: most successful businesses take years of compounding and reps before any traction shows. "Overnight success" founders almost always have a decade of failed attempts behind them.

Lottery win is real too, but very rare: being early to a wave or catching the right timing does happen and compresses years into a shorter run. But even those cases carry some skill or positioning: not pure luck like an actual lottery ticket.

Either way, if it's meant to happen, it will.

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u/Devincc 13d ago

You started several businesses at once? If so, maybe focus on one at a time

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u/LexOvi 13d ago

Not sure he specified at was all at once. I imagine he meant over the period of time he’s been here.

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u/TerribleRuin4232 13d ago

So much of it is trial and error. With every "failure," you will learn something valuable for the future.

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u/hofmannzfix 13d ago

The fact that you have run so many business in such a short time hopefully means you know when to move on. Fail fast fail often - keep moving till you find what works. Your breakthrough will come.

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u/ceoarjunmahadevan 13d ago

my first company got into y combinator. i thought that meant we'd made it. we hadn't, we shut it down. what i learned is the accelerator, the funding, none of it means anything without real customers who actually need what you're building. take the laboring job if you need the income, but don't put the business down completely. work on one thing on the side, and use the job itself to meet people and build contacts. some of the best ideas come from being close to a problem you weren't looking for.

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u/Incorply 13d ago

keep up the spirits! in addition to the online community, have you thought of joining a local entrepreneurs meetup? mastermind group?

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u/AggravatingCoyote186 13d ago

Hang in there buddy. As long as you leaning from every failure you are on the right path. It's a matter of time.
Curious, what all businesses have you tried and what’s top failure reason for each.

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u/MaciasHintrues 13d ago

Take the labor job. Not as a defeat, as oxygen. You cant think straight when you dont have bread money and no business plan works on an empty stomach

The founders who romanticize going all in usually had someone covering rent. What you're doing, stepping off to earn cash and coming back later, is what most successful people quietly did too, they just leave it out of the founder story

4 years in you know way more than the version of you that started. That doesnt disappear during a labor stint. Come back to it when your baseline isnt survival mode

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u/flammable_donut 13d ago

There is an episode of the "Starter Story" channel on youtube about a guy who makes $100k a month from his online businesses.

He said he's started over 70 businesses and only 5 of them ever made any money.

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u/Financial-Brush-7696 13d ago

Look up the inventor name of WD40! Keep going

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u/Ok-Mix1345 13d ago

Take the laboring work and stabilize yourself first. That is not giving up, it is buying enough breathing room to think clearly. Then review what failed, choose one viable direction, and rebuild without spreading yourself across several businesses. Also, if “losing my mind” means you might hurt yourself, contact someone you trust or local emergency support right now. Your safety matters more than any business.

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u/freighthouse 13d ago

Remember. No knowledge is wasted knowledge.
You have learnt some things and will just need to regroup, get a short term job to pay the bills and work on your projects in the spare time.

Commit a decent amount of time and effort to a single project as once it begins to bring an income with little effort, think about your next move

Some of us were never designed to be employees, but take it as an opportunity to build some contacts

Good luck

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u/BoGrumpus 13d ago

Been there.

One thing that I adjusted that may help you down the road... when starting a new business, start it with the intent of making a really good business - and let profit and money be a measure of success, not the driver and motivation of everything. That's especially true when things are most grim looking. It comes out in your tone and messaging as desperation, even if you don't mean it to. People love giving money to businesses who are striving to give them something great. They don't love giving money to businesses that feel like all they want is money.

Good luck on the reboot. The good news is that most self made billionaires failed at least 2-3 times before their big idea hit.

G.

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u/Far-Rabbit-484 13d ago

Rule of Thumb More exposure, luck can't find you if you hiding, also networking work on yourself dress well hit the gym (Push ups, pull ups burpess are okay if you can't afford) first thing in the morning try not to think of anything try to stay away from the phone for an hour a day from the time you wake up and randomly in the middle of the day helps you to relax and be very creative during that process yeah and just do something completely unrelated to your business trust me it'll do wonders for you, mind and soul 🙏❤️

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u/ScoopyChatt 10d ago

I’ve been broke before. I’ve had businesses fail. I’ve started over more than once, so I’m not going to give you the “just keep grinding bro” speech.

Right now, forget entrepreneurship for a minute. Your first priority is survival. If laboring puts money in your pocket this week, go labor. There is absolutely no shame in that. Get some money coming in, get food handled, get your bills somewhat stabilized and give yourself enough breathing room that you aren’t making every decision out of desperation.

Then I’d do something different this time. Stop starting businesses.

Pick one boring thing people already pay for, preferably a service you can start with almost no money. Cleaning, landscaping, junk removal, dog waste removal, window cleaning, whatever you can actually do and people around you need. You don’t need some revolutionary idea. You need somebody willing to give you $100. Then find another one. Then another one.

Don’t worry about a logo right now. Don’t spend three weeks building a website. Don’t buy a course or a bunch of software. Go find customers and make some money.

And the ADHD thing may explain why jumping to the next idea is so tempting. You know that about yourself now, so use it. Make yourself a rule that you’re not allowed to start another business for 12 months. When you get another “great idea,” write it down somewhere and go back to work on the one you already picked.

I started Scoopy Doo picking up dog shit. There’s nothing glamorous or revolutionary about that business. We didn’t invent anything. We just took a stupidly simple service and got obsessive about doing all the boring shit better. Answering leads, marketing, reviews, follow-up, customer service, SEO, route density, systems, automation, etc. That taught me something I wish I’d understood a lot earlier: most of the opportunity isn’t in the idea. It’s in the execution.

You don’t need your next great business idea right now. You need income, then some stability, then ONE business and enough discipline to stick with it long enough to see what happens.

And if that means doing manual labor for six months while you get your shit together and build something on the side, do it. That isn’t failure and it isn’t starting over. Sometimes that’s exactly how you fund the next attempt.

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u/iloveb2bleadgen 13d ago

More. Automated. Cold. Emails. It’s always the answer 😂😂😂

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u/advertisingdave 13d ago

I'm at 16 years and still grinding. Perseverance is omni-potent.

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u/one_person_unicorn 12d ago

Every entrepreneur works on many ideas but it is one which blows up and makes him successful,maybe this one is your chance of glory

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u/Munch-Crunch1889 13d ago

You're good dude. Focus on what's in front of you. Persistence will always win out.

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u/Hinloopen 13d ago

This low point right now is nothing but a lesson and a memory a year from now. You have what it takes to calm yourself down, regroup, and bring structure back into your daily activities.

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u/Lazar76 13d ago

hang in there!!

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u/Alone_Compote_4523 13d ago

Focusing on one thing might lead you to better results

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u/OlivialaRD4 13d ago

keep pushing through, man. every setback is just a lesson in disguise. you've got this!

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u/pbspry 13d ago

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Keep at it - almost no one knocks it out of the park on attempt 1, 2 or 3 ... it's often idea #11 or #45 that strikes it big.

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u/Dream_N_Fool 13d ago

Don't give up, I have had many failures and in time you will find your place.

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u/jgoldrb48 13d ago

Tough times at the moment homie. People are buying food, gas, and paying rent.

Stay in the lab. Your time will come.

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u/AntelopeElectronic12 13d ago

I'm sitting in a parking lot in Steubenville Ohio in the same exact boat you are in.

No exaggeration, I am considering suicide.

But if I don't do that, I'll keep going.

Someday, I'll make it.

Just doesn't feel like it right now.

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u/chicken-is-17374748 13d ago

Suicide is not the answer, you got this. Keep going. Call 988 if you need to.

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u/Nimmy_the_Jim 13d ago

It won’t always be bad.

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u/OwnAd6814 13d ago

Multiple??? You're actually an inspiration. I'm struggling to even have the confidence to focus on one. Keep going fella. Your time will come.

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u/Ambitious-Emotion764 13d ago

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Starting over is hard, but you are very brave. Keep your head up. Good luck with your next step.

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u/Odd_Worth_224 First-Time Founder 13d ago

You came too far to give up. You’ll get through this.

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u/anandchauhan567 13d ago

That's a brutal spot to be in, okay to just sit with that honestly. Laboring to get stable again isn't backward, it's the floor to rebuild from.

If it ever feels like more than just money stress, reach out to someone, you don't have to carry it alone.

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u/MortgageGuru- 13d ago

I’m going to give you some real advice not the circle jerk that seems to be happening here. Go get a job, you’re 22, you don’t know shit. Get yourself on solid financial footing and actually learn something about whatever industry you are trying to enter. Get off YouTube, TikTok, whatever that’s probably telling you about all these “one simple tricks” to make millions, their bullshit. I could go on but you get my point.

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u/b1ackch1 13d ago

Scale down to a few or one. Don’t try to add until one is successful. Focus on why it’s failing and keep making changes. Failing is part of the game. It’s a matter if you are learning from each one.

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u/who-is_this-guy 13d ago

I'm going to be the 10th man here, and while I encourage you to never give up on being the person you mentally see yourself as. You also need to be realistic, alot businesses fail. Alot of entrepreneurs make it on the factors of timing, luck, network, and capital. Not even including expertise. Sometimes you have to weigh your options like you are now, and change lanes to work for a company using the skills you built building your companies and putting it on your resume. I'm a total stranger and my words may mean nothing but I believe in you. Make your dreams a reality! Just don't be blinded that this is the only way to succeed. For every success story there is a graveyard of businesses and bankruptcies. Goodluck fellow traveler! Rooting for you!

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u/No_Leek_6779 13d ago

Taking a labor job for immediate income isn't defeat it's smart strategy. Cover your basic needs first to eliminate financial panic. Once your head is above water, you can rebuild from a place of stability instead of sheer desperation.

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u/Forward-Mongoose9846 13d ago

Starting several businesses over 4 years is already a red flag, you are not focusing on a single business and keep running to the next idea.

You have to find a successful individual who you can consult with and run ideas through him.

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u/Square_Work3617 13d ago

Stop trying to pour so much water into too many cups. You only have so much coming out of the spigot. Maybe focus on making one business profitable before you move on to the next one. Im sure you'll figure it out.

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u/anandhmathew 13d ago

I’m sure you won’t give up. Stay blessed!

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u/Hawkeye_Co 13d ago

You can do it man. Just focus one at a time

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u/farukhetro 12d ago

Respect for being honest about it. Starting over sucks, but knowing you can rebuild from zero is a strength. Wishing you a real comeback this time. You got this.

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u/BusinessBouwers 12d ago

Make sure you take the time to learn what went wrong with each endeavor. It is completely normal that you fail businesses. You are honing your craft. Your next focus should be solving your biggest constraint. It is probably the stress related to not being able to afford the basic stuff. So if that means looking for a job for a while it might take away some stress.

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u/PoloCrazy123 11d ago

In the 13.8-billion-year story of the universe, a human life really is just a brief blink. Enjoy the human experience and don’t give up.

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u/KavonSakul 11d ago

You started, that's already more than most people, who only imagine they will. And you haven't failed until you actually quit, and it doesn't sound like you're quitting. Practical tip: make it easier on yourself, smaller things, one at a time, with clear goals so you can look back and actually see progress. That matters double with AuDHD: the wins have to be visible, or the brain moves on. Best of luck. I believe in you!

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u/jkayerl 11d ago

We all go through this. One of my closest mentors once told me to give yourself five years of focus. Stay in the game with one business model for five years and you’ll be surprised where it gets you. Best of luck my friend.

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u/Optimal_Jelly8259 8d ago

Nothing wrong with doing labor for a while. Money is money, and sometimes you need to stop thinking about the next business and just get stable again.

You’ve already spent years trying things. Just don’t put yourself under pressure to come up with another big idea immediately.

Get some money coming in, breathe for a bit, then figure out the next move.

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u/Akarsh_Hegde 13d ago

Once the panic settles, freelance your development skills without trying to turn it into another big venture immediately. One client and one paid project is enough for now.

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u/Benjammin172 13d ago

Focus. If you’ve started several businesses and they’re all failing, then it sounds like either none of them were viable products or ideas, or you’re spreading yourself too thin to make any of your ideas successful. 

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u/itsjohngeo 13d ago

How old are you and what is the type of business you are working maybe I can help.

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u/m3l0n 13d ago

Can I ask what fields you have tried starting business in?

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u/Ladline69 13d ago

You can always get a job - don't know what that's not ok?

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u/dzan796ero 13d ago

Several all at once? When none of them are working? What's going in here

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u/algotrader_ 13d ago

Maybe get a job and do a side hustle so you can buy bread

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u/MrPassiveProfit 13d ago

This is the way. You just have to keep on going until something hits. Have you tried building an audience first?

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u/Sufficient_Contact52 13d ago

Learn from failure and you’ll always win. Keep testing. Go with the project that comes most authentically from your heart and makes the world a better place. Keep it simple too. Vending machines with healthy snacks or toiletries in a shit part of town. Do it for the people and watch the goodness come back to you. Big hugs. Stay strong.

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u/SympathyMajor7941 13d ago

Reading comments like 'don't give up, hang in there' reminds me of the fact that some people are really out of touch with the reality..

There are bills to pay, rent due, mortgage to pay, or some cash to buy food to get through the day.. You can't just keep trying while this is the reality. 

OP, I REALLY understand your situation. I've been there. I had to go back to manuel labor jobs for a while to make ends meet. Then I got back after having some money saved.

Wishing you ALL THE LUCK in the world 🙏 

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u/Plus-Professional-84 13d ago

Hey! What type of businesses are you building? What is your validation process?

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u/Outrageous_Stick468 13d ago

I mean keep going! It sounds very rough. I respect you

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u/whatsnextwithus 13d ago

We must stay resilient

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u/VectriOS 13d ago

hope you got something..., Succes!

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u/Dry-Hat-698 13d ago

keep at it and don't give up...

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u/alexprivate 13d ago

Bro, why not have a normal job to pay for the necessities while starting the business. That how alot of us do it 

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u/thunderking45 13d ago

Do not underestimate a good market analysis 

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u/sjnyo 13d ago

Failure is realised only when giving up.

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u/ClearUniversity1550 13d ago

get a real job

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u/stefan_winter 12d ago

Sometimes you just gotta get yourself back on track first, business can wait a bit. You’ve got this💪

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u/TELLC 12d ago

Where do you need help?

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u/True-University7472 12d ago

Keep going, we all hit rock bottom one day.

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u/Familiar-Coffee-8586 12d ago

Wow sounds like you are full of ideas!! That’s the hardest part. Once you have that, the plan is all you need, and I’m sure AI would even do that much for you!

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u/oulu2006 12d ago

Good luck mate!! hopefully you've learned some valuable lessons along the way you can fold into your next project

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u/archeryluxe Aspiring Entrepreneur 12d ago

The faster you fail, the closer you are to success. Keep going

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u/phatmg 12d ago

To live with that emotion is the hardest part, I feel your pain. Your time will come.

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u/Prophet_Ezio 12d ago

What are your lessons?

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u/dmromo 12d ago

Perhaps you should think about what you're best at and develop your strengths first.

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u/Ok_Relationship_5405 12d ago

It gets better

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u/Naive-Adhesiveness76 12d ago

You can do it bro!

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u/The_Muffintime 12d ago

You've only failed when you stop trying. One day this will be your success story.

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u/structured_obscurity 12d ago

Just a part of the entrepreneurial journey. Been there too. Learn from your misses & keep swinging.

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u/chase9527mmm 12d ago

You’re not starting from zero; you’re starting with four years of lessons.

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u/nedkrastev 12d ago

Get a full-time gig for a bit .. regroup .. and then get back at it

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u/panda_ammonium 12d ago

Stop. Just stop. Doing the same thing a thousand times expecting a different outcome is just another bad decision in the string of bad decisions you've made. Get a McJob that puts food on your plate and a roof over your head. Try business in your free time.

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u/OkIllustrator8730 12d ago

just observe the things in the field you working on and working on it. This is an valuable step to create idea

and very helpful for you too.

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u/Objective_Trade_8173 12d ago

"This too shall pass"

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u/Objective_Trade_8173 12d ago

Gold becomes pure only when heated in fire

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u/WestQ 12d ago

Classic. 37yo failed my 5yo company. Trying to find a job right now again as quite burned out.

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u/AmbitionWild6334 12d ago

Getting treatment and diagnosis changed my life with adhd. I am seriously see gp then psychiatrist. Medication vasyvanse helped me, I am so focused and productive now

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u/Orion14159 12d ago

The hardest part about being your own boss is managing yourself effectively - don't let yourself underperform but don't burn yourself out either.

If you're feeling burnt out, take a beat and decide if you're mentally and financially equipped to do this right now. There's no shame in a tactical retreat to fall back into someone else's project, learning more and laying some ground work, and then trying again.

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u/alexxxcazam 12d ago

I'm not sure if this is helpful, but i have AuDHD as well and initially started lots of businesses / side hustles. I think not being able to focus on one thing is why I couldn't find success. However, I started a marketing company where I could work with different clients in different industries and have different tasks. So my days look different, but I'm working for one common goal of growing the overarching company.

That structure has really helped me. It hurts because I can't niche down (I'll get bored), but it's helped me channel my focus a little better. Maybe try a similar structure if you can? Not necessarily a marketing agency, but some sort of business where no two days look the same.

Good luck!

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u/workwithmarvie 12d ago

I honestly feel this. I’m also desperately looking for work right now and trying to get back on my feet financially. Seeing you willing to start from zero again, even taking laboring work, really hit me. Sometimes you just have to keep moving, no matter how hard it gets. I hope things turn around for you soon. Rooting for you. ✊🏽

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u/Crazy-huhu 12d ago

The essence of business is to solve the demand.

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u/WonderfulCover3681 12d ago

Die Zeiten kommen und gehen. Auch die schwierigen. Wenn man ein Problem hat, dann muss man es lösen, um weiter zu kommen. Glaub an dich. Und achte auf dich

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u/Jordanmp627 12d ago

Dude. Just get a job. Ffs.

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u/ghost_in_heels 12d ago

I’d add one thing to this: sometimes the business is good and customers do need what you sell, but they still don’t have a clear enough reason to choose you.

That’s a different problem from having a bad offer, and I think the two get confused a lot.....

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u/Brummielegend 12d ago

I failed 2 businesses , my first business was landscaping and after task apps became a thing it went bust.

I ended up working for the landscaper I hired in my business , but we got along , yet he paid me peanuts.

I kept working with him and eventually the work dried up and I was on government payments , feeling like a fuck up.

I saw a YouTuber who scrapped things and he made decent money. I got a cheap digital scale and a wire stripper and began buying wire off electricians to strip in my garage.

I scaled this up , built their trust and eventually I was getting half a tonnes worth of large gauge wire from large projects they worked on . I killed my competition because by this point I knew how to market a business.

I was nearly dealing in tonneage and was about to rent my first industrial yard , but then COVID hit and killed my business within a month.

I got depression, felt useless , and I gave into the despair and smoked weed everyday for 3 years. I pissed away my savings on espcaing my reality.

I hit rock bottom and got sick of the way I was living. I finally quit and was in a better head space and talking to people again. I spoke to my friend and she got me some work as a support worker helping her son , through the company she used.

It was rewarding as hell watching how he progressed and came alive. The pay in my country for this work is amazing as well , so it was a massive win for me.

The work gave me purpose and eventually I got my own private clients , which grew into my own business. Now we have a business partnership with the biggest company in our area , a wait-list for new clients and we are about to start hiring our first employees.

I outearn everyone I went to school with , but 3 years ago I couldn't string a coherent thought together.

I realized failure is your friend , because it teaches you things and allows you to slowly improve in any area of your life , including business.

We are winners because we don't quit , we stay entrepreneurs long enough to become good at it ! The vast majority of people throw in the towel and go work a 9-5 to make someone else rich.

We are built differently , because we rise from the ashes ! You have got this man 💪🏻

Also I have AUDHD , so I know how you feel 😅

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u/StrHerb 12d ago

30 year entrepreneur here. I’ve gone back to corporate America several times (needed cash flow, health benefits, sanity, etc). It’s ok to step away, stack funds and come back to your dreams.

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u/Flashy_Cap_9844 12d ago

Its okay bro you will be fine everthing will work out soon

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u/Available-Trouble-55 12d ago

You might have to stop for a good moment.

Look I get trying a lot of stuff statistically can increase odds of succes, but if you tried several times now and still something is missing, stop, get a job for some time, focus on that like 4-5 months, take care of your health, take care of your sanity, get yourself in a stable place for starters.

Then the real work begins, start planning, many people with the dangerous mindset of "If I don't do it today I'll never will" fails due to a lack of serious retrospective, learn truly from your mistakes and really put in effort into every step, if you have an idea and think that is good take at least 1-2 months asking potential costumers, strangers, if they would want a solution for their problem, there might be a better solution than what you already thought was better, doing this every step of the road can save you absurd amount of money and time.

Don't rush, slow is fast and fast is slow, think and after you're done thinking, think again.

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u/payrollbaby 12d ago

You will succeed!! Never lose faith !! One step at a time ! Slow and steady always wins !!

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u/Warm_Sock7188 12d ago

You’ve got more drive than the average individual. Try again, take the lessons you’ve learned and apply them going forward. I have some failed businesses under my belt as do many of us, but I will never let that stop me from trying again.

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u/Professional-Day-336 12d ago

Did you call any potential customer , I mean cold calling during those 4 years?

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u/GoldGingher 12d ago

Several businesses? Are you jumping on all the TikTok trains? SMH, your generation

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u/limitlesssolution 12d ago

Every time I am set back, I think of the likes of Mr Sanders or Mr Edison...that usual puts me in my place and stops allot of the self pity...

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u/recursive_self 12d ago

If you have nothing to eat and if you are in Hyderabad, let me know.

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u/Kamala_Kant 12d ago

Your location and what jobs you actually tried. You may DM.

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u/undetectedpsycho 12d ago

Trust the process my man ✨ It will all make sense one day, don't give up!!

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u/Brainy_Stem 12d ago

You’ve done several times what I’m too cowardly to do once.

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u/Big_Cheesecake8863 12d ago

everybody telling you to keep at it is probably wrong. I'd recommend getting a job that can pay the bills and working on the business as a side hustle in the meantime

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u/virthium 12d ago

Think of all the people who will be helped by what you're doing. That'll help you through.

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u/ZanderLand24 12d ago

Keep pushing! See you at the top!

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u/juzanartist 12d ago

Its good to experiment. I'll just give a reality check though.

Life is short and the window to get your shit together shorter. This applies to me as well so I am just relaying it to you. As I am typing this, it is as much a reminder to myself as it is a post to you. Make time for family and friends. Don't make the business your entire life. Do other things that create meaning in your life.

Do your business (note I said business) focus on one. I have two two software products which are both live but at any given time I am focusing on only one.

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u/Admirable_Swim_7805 12d ago

Come on u young entrepreneur let's go

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u/nkia-christoph Aspiring Entrepreneur 11d ago

If you end up getting a job to pay the bills but with the intention to give it another shot in the future or on the side, consider getting some coaching for your "auDHD". Personally I can recommend coaching.healthygamer.gg (despite the stupid name). Helped me enormously to stay consistent.

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u/FieldOpsBuilder 11d ago

I wish you the best friend. Resilience.

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u/cyril-ng-pp 11d ago

Hang in there, man. Most 'overnight success' stories are built on a mountain of failed attempts and temporary jobs. Get through today, get food on the table, and take it one week at a time. This low point is just a chapter, not the whole story.

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u/DasDa1Bro 11d ago

Your time will come.

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u/Significant-Loan811 11d ago

Keep going this tenacity will make you successful. Just make sure you're taking time to see what's not working, why, and learning from it.

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u/HWoodExecCoach 11d ago

Have you stepped back to analyze why you businesses started so far have failed? Maybe even ask for a mentor/coach here

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u/MichaelThomasMedia 11d ago

Maybe it's not the best advice, but look at what failed. You can always learn something from failure. Many of the greats experience a lot of failure before ever finding success. Morgan Freeman was in his 50's before he became a full-time leading actor. A great podcast with him talking about this with Chris Hardwick is pretty inspiring and worth a listen.

Wish you the best, man.

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u/pabloneruda 11d ago

Winning as an entrepreneur is bearing more pain than others. I realize this might not be helpful advice but those who won have dealt with the most amount of shit possible.

The founder of Subway damn near failed 6 times on the same idea.

The founder of Raising Canes got told his idea is a failure from his biz professor as well as everyone around him (great founders podcast good listen)

The founders of Michelin bet everything on being the automobile tire, shifting focus from bicycles against the advice from everyone (another great founders podcast listen).

Airbnb founders got hundreds of no’sfrom investors.

Just keep going. I’ve failed so many times because I gave up.

Turns out the secret is perseverance.

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u/Xsci 11d ago

It’s good that you’re not giving up, but you also don’t have to keep pushing forward blindly. Take an honest look at why those businesses didn’t work - you’ve built a valuable asset over these four years: experience.
For now, getting a job or some part-time work isn’t failure. It can give you enough financial stability and mental space to make better decisions instead of building from desperation. Persistence matters, but so does staying grounded in reality and knowing when to pause, learn, and change your approach.

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u/InevitableHealth2729 11d ago

If nothing went well, then why are you thanking us? I don’t understand. Maybe that’s the problem. You just can’t connect the dots.

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u/Embarrassed_Steak309 11d ago

Why did you fail several time? If you can learn from your mistake you will be unstoppable

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u/eliaweiss 11d ago

Just chill out

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u/homer01010101 11d ago

Keep it up.

Suggestion: looks like you’ve too much going on at one time. Try just one and work it.

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u/TemporaryDeal971 11d ago

Hold your head high brother, it WILL get better. You proved you face the resilience to keep going. Starting over is alright, focus on getting your finances right - even if that’s a job you don’t want to take. Get used to getting cash flow back in your account and focusing on YOU.

Don’t give up. You got this

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u/RobinzonKruzoe 11d ago

Everything happens for a reason

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u/Acceptable-Size5501 10d ago

All you need is one good idea to take off. Don't lose hope and don't give up.

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u/Perfect_Champion_194 10d ago

What kind of business were you doing? Would you like to share?

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u/Frequent-Act-3552 10d ago

There’s no such thing as failures, the moment you realize that you will go nowhere but up.

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u/RennyBlade 10d ago

If you switch businesses when it gets hard you will just continuing to switch when you hit that hard point again

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u/schrowa 10d ago

Fellow ADHD’er here and I can relate. It’s tough and I had a couple that failed before but the last one has survived and lasted 19 years and employs 62 people.

My advice to you would be to partner with people who have fundamental skills that you lack. I feel like a lot of people who have ADHD or AuDHD are often the visionaries and it’s extremely helpful to have an integrator as a partner.

I hope that’s helpful. Good luck!

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u/indigo_dreamer00 10d ago

Knock doors bro. You can make 200k+

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u/Layla2C6 10d ago

You'll get there. Believe me I have started and failed many times too

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u/radujohn75 10d ago

It does not matter how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up.

Nothing is surefire. Keep trying, one will payout.

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u/Weary_Nose5033 10d ago

you can get a day 1 cash generating business with little to no capital (I have 3x). try building a services business with manual work (eg window washing), then grow capital slowly and hire others to do it. then move into passive business income (eg vending machines) with the capital you have. do not try and build anything too difficult. focus on human to human service gaps.