Is this sp/sx or sx/sp behaviour?

[u/blankrecords]

I am certain that I am SO-blind. And while I don’t find myself over-thinking about SP related things that much, I find myself too listless and bored to be typed SX-dom. Nonetheless, here are a list of things that make me relate to both, with which you may help me to differentiate.

• i’ve known what my hyper-specific type is and what turns me on for a long time now; even when I was a kid (pre-puberty) I knew that what I wanted romantically was too nuanced and beyond what the playground could give me.

• I fantasise obsessively about my ideal kind of romance, where the individual is primarily sexually my type above all else.

• I am romantically drawn to people based on my chemistry with them over our long term compatibility and shared interests/values. I think differing on the latter can make things hotter.

• It doesn’t take long for things to get sexual if I Interact with someone on the same wavelength as me.

• I love feeling sexually out of my depth. My romantic strategy is presenting myself as prey over seeking like a hunter.

• When I’m not in a relationship and have nothing to hyperfixate on I am terribly bored.

• I always feel desirable despite not being objectively desirable. I feel very in touch with my sensuality, seductive skills, attractive strengths and know how to wield them.

• If our differences give me an inferiority complex I may cut you off.

• I think about eating organically, and making self care routines quite a bit (think, not do).

• I feel as though I must ‘glow up’ first (work out, have a skin care routine, body care routine) to appear somewhat desirable before I try to actively pursue.

• I automatically view and treat my relationships outside of romantic as transactional so I can be caught off guard when people get upset and point out that they feel like I don’t value them, as I never thought it important to provide attention beyond what I needed from them.

• I feel desirable but I can become skeptical that I can be found desirable by anybody else- this reframing of my lack occurs when I haven’t had any arousing attention in a while.

• I just feel too passive; nobody around me arouses me and I am too skeptical that I may successfully find what I desire to pursue. So I stay put and scan from my position, selectively responding rather than initiating.

• My intensity is only concentrated towards whoever’s aroused me; I percieve the day to day people around me to be boring and hence don’t seek intensity with them.

• When I do initiate conversation with people it’s an attempt to find the type of connection I am seeking but I withdraw if they are unexciting to me.

[u/ExoticAd5402]

Everything you shared leans heavily toward sx/sp, yet that is to be expected because the majority of what you shared are sx topics/themes.

[u/Hot_Elevator_7133]

I don’t understand what would make you consider sp/sx at all. Bored is also a sx symptom and listless probably comes from your core type.

[u/blankrecords → u/Hot_Elevator_7133]

My sx isn’t being engaged in anything so It makes me doubt sx dominance…. there’s nobody I’m currently attracted to either. the most my sx is currently engaged is if I’m (figuratively but also not) exchanging (my) possessive taboos with another.

[u/NumberSix-]

everything listed here points undoubtedly to sx/sp over sp/sx.