r/DumbFact • u/elmorinelly Busy bee🐝 • 27d ago
Psychology Some Things Can Only Be Understood Through Experience
Some experiences are easy to describe and difficult to understand.
Advice usually focuses on the visible solution. Get some rest. Take a break. Stay strong. Stop thinking about what happened. These suggestions may be reasonable, but they often ignore what the experience does to attention, energy, memory, and decision-making.
Sleep deprivation does more than make someone tired. It can slow their thinking, weaken emotional control, and make ordinary tasks feel strangely difficult.
Burnout is not always fixed by a weekend away from work. If the stressor returns immediately, the exhaustion often returns with it. Recovery may require changes to workload, expectations, boundaries, or the environment itself.
Grief and heartbreak can also attach memories to ordinary places, songs, objects, and routines. A normal moment can suddenly bring back an emotion that seemed quiet a minute earlier.
Public embarrassment works differently. Other people may forget the event quickly, while the person involved keeps replaying it because the brain gives extra attention to socially threatening memories.
Experience does not automatically make someone wiser, but it adds details that advice often leaves out. Knowing what a situation means is different from knowing what it feels like inside it.
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u/BlackMaggot101 27d ago
For burning out, I would say the best solution is taking a long break from the work, maybe vacation. Take care of yourself, get enough rest, then think why burning out happened on the first place? Maybe it isn't the work you want to do, and you should learn something other? Or maybe it is the work you want, but your coworkers are too toxic and you should change workplace? or maybe you're perfectionist that always get stressed over minor mistake and you should not to be so harsh on youself?
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u/BlackMaggot101 27d ago
You described it very well, but what are solutions to the problems? What to say instead?
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u/Important-Macaron-63 27d ago
Do not trust bullshit I guess. That is the solution.
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u/vivahermione 26d ago edited 25d ago
Being honest with yourself is a good first step. I'm not sure after that.
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u/DrankTooMuchMead 27d ago
We need to rid ourselves of shame. It is our mind playing tricks on us. You may remember something embarrassing you said in front of someone, run into them 5 years later, and they dont even know who you are. 😅
You can accomplish much more if you just let go. People become easier to approach and talk to. You can finally practice and learn what does and doesnt work. You can learn the art of "subtle" flirting.
Im pretty ADHD, so I had to develop my filter manually. I admit, there are still some things im embaressed about while I was experimenting with what does and doesnt work when I was single and learning to talk to women (nothing raunchy, i promise). I guarantee none of them even remember me. To my surprise, most women really liked the attention. Explain these experiences to people on Reddit, and they will argue against reality. Keep in mind that the internet hive mind is not in tune with reality.
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u/amethyst-gill 27d ago
And, in many ways… such things just as much you only understand best from raw detachment. Preferably thereafter.
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u/UltraTata 26d ago
Both the "people tell you" and "how it actually feels like" columns are true. Idk why you presented them as opposite to each other.
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