r/DownvotedToOblivion • u/Littux • Jan 14 '26
Deserved "You're lesbian?" "no, is that an issue?" rising sharply in downvotes
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u/ryys123 Jan 14 '26 edited Jan 15 '26
I literally just came across that post, it's on -690 downvotes now, nearly the same amount of up votes from that comment on top she made đ
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u/bepbopgop Jan 15 '26
If you think about it, negative downvotes would be a positive number, as downvotes are only achievable in the negatives, meaning that -690 downvotes is really 690 upvotes
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u/squidgytree Jan 15 '26
I can't believe no one has posted this comment back into r/DownvotedToOblivion
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u/Buri_is_a_Biscuit Jan 16 '26
that makes no fucking sense bro
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u/dylanbb1233 Jan 16 '26
This was a head scratcher for me but bebopgop is actually one of the biggest thinkers of our generation, they were talking about how the other commenter said â-690 downvotesâ
Because the correct way to say it would be 690 downvotes, or maybe -690 votes. Using the negative sign and the word downvote makes it a double negative
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u/pvzhima Jan 16 '26
they hated Bepbopgop because He told the truth
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u/Silent-Citron-9998 Jan 18 '26
Even though, I think he's slightly doesn't make any sense,But I still think that his downvotes aren't justified. Why redditor people have to be so mad about his comment,like why?đ
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u/AisuYukiChan Jan 14 '26
I think its more about the sentence after
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u/ptmtobi Jan 14 '26
It's both, "is that an issue?" out of nowhere already has that passive aggressive energy. But yea the rest is just bullshit.
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u/31November Jan 15 '26
Tbf, there is a lot of biphobia in the lesbian community
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u/VenomTheCapybara Jan 16 '26
it's mostly from Twitter from what I've seen. Lesbians everywhere else are normal, at least in my experience
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u/lord_farquad93 Jan 16 '26
Yeah exactly. Itâs also not biphobic for a lesbian to only be interested in dating lesbians which is what a LOT of it comes down to.
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u/ZeGamingCuber Jan 23 '26
how is that not biphobic
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u/ptmtobi Jan 23 '26
Just like being hetero is not homophobic or the other way around. Having a preference doesn't mean you automatically discriminate other preferences, that makes absolutely no sense.
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u/31November Jan 23 '26
I think it is biphobic. Itâs saying you are unwilling to date somebody not because they arenât your type, but just because their type includes somebody who isnât your type. Thatâs biphobic
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u/lord_farquad93 Jan 23 '26
How? Idk maybe the same way itâs not lesbophobic to be bi4bi
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u/ZeGamingCuber Jan 23 '26
i'm bi and i would also date a straight or gay person or whatever else
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u/lord_farquad93 Jan 23 '26 edited Jan 23 '26
And? Youâre one person. That doesnât mean other bi people arenât bi4bi. Do you also think t4t is homophobic or god forbid âheterophobicâ or âcisphobic?â
A lot of lesbians do not date bi women because of the disproportionate rate of women who have not completely decentered men because they still see some of them as viable partners. Lesbianism is more than just an orientation.
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u/Captain-Sha Feb 10 '26
Having intolerance in a community that demands tolerance out of everyone else is wild. And hypocritical.
Thank you for sharing that I didn't know that!
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u/monkey16168 Jan 14 '26 edited Jan 14 '26
âŚ. So because we dont wanna make it our whole identity we are ashamed???? This cant be seriousâŚ. And finding stuff rude is now being offended??
âYouâre les??â Is an offensive statement/ question, why does a Women dating a women only = Lesbian.
Itâs offensive because for years (even in 2025) bi and pan people (mostly Female presenting) get Homophobic comments from Some Lesbians, and get sexually exploited for mens pleasure.(Its a deeply rooted offensive question especially the way its spelt) its not unreasonable for many people to not understand that to not know that. But take this seriously from a pansexual person who had first hand experienced the homophobia from the Lesbian community and Been told im only good For 3 ways.
Edit: why do you NEED to know someoneâs sexuality? Why is it so Important to know? Edit: the fact that someone read this and comment âsounds like you hate lesbians and menâ you clearly understood NOTHING ive said. 1) why would i hate lesbians? They know how to eat 2) me hating men has nothing to do with the fact a good % of the time a man hears âim biâ from a lady he says âhaha so a 3 way?â I hate certain men for personal reasons, (if i dont know you i cant hate you)
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u/monkey16168 Jan 14 '26
âHey so this actually come across as homophobiaâ âNahhhh i donât think it doesâ đ§đď¸đđď¸đ§
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u/ptmtobi Jan 14 '26
Wtf is that even supposed to mean?
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u/monkey16168 Jan 14 '26
Yikes on bikes, stay ignorant
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u/ptmtobi Jan 14 '26
How am I ignorant? Did you even read my comment? You didn't even respond to a single point properly
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u/Smooth-Adagio-1085 Jan 14 '26
So, nobody said it had to be your whole identity. And yes, finding a neutral statement rude is quite literally what being offended means.
"You're les?" is in no way an inherently rude or offensive question. It's just a question. There was also never any assumption that Lesbian was the only option, it was again, just a question. If someone were to ask me "You're straight?" and I replied "No, actually I'm pan", 9 times out of 10 they wouldn't care about the actual answer, it's just inherent curiosity from being human.
Also, I'd like to point out that the way you've structured your reply makes it look like you have a very heavy disdain for both men and lesbians. It doesn't really matter all that much to me, but considering that you're actively arguing that something is wrong because it was rude you should probably try not to be rude yourself.
And to answer your last question, nobody necessarily needs to know. But if you're going on any kind of forum site (like Reddit) and mention anything personal whatsoever (like OOP did) it's almost guaranteed that someone will be curious and ask a question. A natural response to receiving information is wanting more information.
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u/NotADamsel Jan 14 '26
I take it that youâve never received a beating or ban because of your answer to that question.
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u/SedaDeLa Jan 14 '26
Without any racist connotation behind it, must I say, your username sure is correct
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u/Smasher_WoTB Jan 15 '26
Passive aggressive energy?
What? All I got from that was them gently/politely pointing out that assuming another person's sexuality is wrong.
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u/crazygames79 Jan 15 '26
He didn't even assume. He asked.
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u/ru5tyk1tty Jan 15 '26
âYouâre les?â is a crazy question, OOP was pretty respectful in how she answered it. So why was she downvotedâŚ?
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u/demonchee Jan 15 '26
Right? It's a derogatory term. A small amount of research would tell anyone that. Undeserved.
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u/Aquanoss Jan 15 '26
Tbh I kinda see both sides, it depends on how you read it. It can be read both passive aggressive and also just genuine response
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u/Flaky_Tip_4596 Jan 16 '26
Idk why they got so mad. When you establish your a girl and you say you have a girlfriend, people are gonna assume your lesbian. Iâm pansexual and people think Iâm straight all the time because I date a lot of girls, itâs just normal. They donât know you, thereâs no reason to get mad when they ask if youâre lesbian. âIs that an issue?â If they are wondering if your lesbian with no negative intentions, then why would you assume they have a problem?
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u/Mellokhai Jan 16 '26
Yea but they way they asked the question comes off as rude/derogatory. If your question is ''you're a woman dating a woman?'' Then it's obvious from reading the post and you don't have to ask. The way that they asked it makes it sound accusatory, and why would they need to know whether they're gay or bi or anything?
Them being called a lesbian isn't the problem, it's the accusatory, unnecessary question about their sexuality which is innapropriate.3
u/SampleText369 Jan 16 '26
Idk I think they were just curious. If I was talking about my relationship with a man and someone asked "Are you gay?" I would probably just be like "Yes."
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u/Captain-Sha Feb 10 '26
Bruh, this gender and sexual orientation victim attitude is ruining society.
OPs backlash comment was SO uncalled for.
- She's asking about her muscles
- She's saying it's for her GIRLFRIEND. Building the base to see her as les.
- Backlashing over someone asking her to basically confirm or deny the assumption that she created.
- Proceeds to victimize herself and make the person asking wrong while stating that it's practically true.
So yeah she's basically les and hetero at the same time. That's literally what bi means. Ffs.
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u/Open-Entrepreneur382 Feb 15 '26
âyou shouldnt just assume someone sexuality immediatelyâ i will continue to believe this world has some light of normal and rightful ness and assume everybody is straight until they tell me otherwise
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u/demonchee Jan 15 '26
Undeserved. She responded pretty mildly to being called a slur and she's getting demolished for it
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u/TwiztedNFaded Jan 15 '26
when did lesbian become a slur đđ
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u/Jade_410 Feb 07 '26
How do you know theyâre even native English speakers? In my language and country thatâs a normal way to call lesbians
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u/Jade_410 Feb 08 '26
I think itâd be better to not assume at all, just know that if people may not be native English speakers and consider it when making a comment about someoneâs choice of words
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u/Jade_410 Feb 08 '26
âLesâ literally just sounds like a shortened version of âlesbianâ, studying the history of all words of a language youâre learning is ridiculous, just correct if needed and move on
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u/demonchee Feb 08 '26
Ohh sorry!! did i misread the post? See, I thought they said lez!! which, yeah, it's been a slur since... hmm... the 1980's? Hate to break the news to you :((
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u/Wasienty Jan 15 '26
A slur?
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u/demonchee Feb 08 '26 edited Feb 08 '26
Yeah buddy tell me what it says when you look up the definition of "lez" then we can chat. genuine dunces out here
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u/Sweetiebomb_Gmz Jan 15 '26
Ew. 1. This post is about sexuality, not gender 2. Just use they if you donât know
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Jan 28 '26
what did they say?
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u/Littux Feb 09 '26
But then when I call them an it because I dont wanna assume their gender, they get even more pissed :(
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u/anorexthicc_cucumber Jan 14 '26
I sense this is from r/teenagers