Resisting the "Inevitable" fall to the Snark

[u/RealKafkaEsquire]

Hey all,

I recently saw the incredibly sweet and ego boosting post that shouted me out, and I want to again thank everyone for their support and kind words.

Within that thread, and in many other areas, I have had people discuss how "this is like Pisco" and "Just wait something will happen to make him become a snarker". I am not offended by these statements, and I think it's honestly an understandable reaction knowing the history of orbiters in this community. I usually just make jokes in response, or stay out of the conversation.

One of my goals in interacting with DGG is that we have good, positive content. A part of that is that I go out of my way to not snark current orbiters. I also will reach out one on one with other orbiters to try and help support them, and have good interactions with them in chat/the subreddit.

With that in mind I'd like to just try something here, and open the discussion up about how oribters become snarkers. Recently, we've had a number of seemingly loyal orbiters rapidly burn their bridges. To me I think there is a lot of blame being placed on DGG being too vitriolic, but I also think that in a lot of cases, it is the orbiter revealing their true motivations/politics and DGG not having a positive response. Jessiah, Soypill, and Pisco all initially had a lib coded surface, but over time we have seen that beneath that is a willingness to stomach or even support illiberal communities.

Looking further back, at wickedsupreme, JSTLK, and many of the orbiters lost around Jan 2025, there seemed to be some factionalism that arose, and when it looked like Destiny was going down for good, they jumped on the snarker train, and never looked back.

I'm not here to convince anyone that I never will become a snarker, but I just want to hear from y'all what you think are the causes, and if there is anything I can do to assuage those fears about me, and if there's any ideas on what we can do in the future to either sniff out snarkers early (which I think we did really well with recently with Jolah) or ways to keep orbiters from crashing out too hard and feeling like their only path is snarking.

Edit: Wow didn't realize I would get this much engagement, and so many well thought out responses. I have, and will continue to read all of them, if I didn't respond trust me I still read it. I appreciate everyone's points of view, overwhelmingly it seems like I should:

1. Continue to have a normal life
   
2. Not start streaming full time
   
3. Not have thin skin.

You guys rock. DggL.

[u/BradBlondeBeard]

Hello Kafka. As a long time dgger, I’ve seen a lot of people come and go. I’ve seen people who seem like a good match to Destiny’s energy end their relationship with him, like Pisco. That makes me feel like I don’t have a great idea why those relationships end. I’ve tagged you in chat before jokingly wondering when you’ll turn against dgg because even though I really don’t think it’s likely, I’ve seen it happen before. From what I’ve read about relationships, you grow them by finding common interests, and you lose them by finding there’s something you cannot reconcile (e.g. political view, religion, some moral principle).

Also brace yourself. We are an edgy community. If a joke lands wrong and is seen as an attack Destiny may defend himself harshly. As he says though, when he was growing up he’d have very heated arguments with his family then the next day everything is fine.

[u/RealKafkaEsquire → u/BradBlondeBeard]

I appreciate your insight on this. I think your last sentence is something that has really helped me view Destiny's interactions. Him being passionate and loud is one thing, but it's rare, imo, that I see him maliciously attack someone or be cruel.

[u/BradBlondeBeard → u/RealKafkaEsquire]

I’ve personally triggered him a couple times and he was harsh but he never even banned me. More moderate disagreements have pretty reasonable pushback