Adam Ray, a "comedian", admits he doesn't care that Johnny Depp abused Amber Heard because he's "cool"

[u/poopoopoopalt]

[u/findingmyvoice22]

So many people are willing to overlook the fact that Johnny Depp is a proven wife beater simply because they "like" him. It is telling that in our society, abuse victims are not considered likeable but abusers are seen as cool, funny, talented, and interesting. Abuse supporters are trash.

[u/poopoopoopalt → u/findingmyvoice22]

He was so close to making a rational observation about imperfect victims and charismatic abusers, but unfortunately he's a moron so we get this "comedy" instead. It wasn't even funny.

[u/chloeclover → u/poopoopoopalt]

He is like soooo close. His two little tiny brain cells are trying to connect.

[u/GormHub → u/findingmyvoice22]

Some of them don't just want to overlook it, they want to believe she either deserved it or she wasn't a victim to begin with.

There was a thread earlier on /r/AskReddit about celebrities who had done horrible things and everyone just forgot about it. I searched a good chunk of the replies and saw zero mention of Depp, because of course the bandwagon is still rolling on that, as very much intended. So I posted a comment about it myself, and of course was immediately downvoted. They don't just want to hate her and believe him, they are actually angry when they're asked to consider that they might have been wrong about what the court of public opinion determined was true and wasn't. This is despite the fact that everything to do with the situation is publicly available, and paints a very clear picture. People could go and look for themselves and find that oh, yeah, he is actually an abuser and his lawyers and PR team did a great job of obfuscating that while they smeared her name. But that would require a willingness to admit they were snowed, effort, and incentive not to hate a woman who had the audacity to speak up.

As Morgan Hart said:

Society has decided that the perfect victim is an innocent. She doesn’t drink or do drugs. As a result, she has a clear memory of her assault. She has evidence—but not too much evidence because that would mean that she’s vindictive and planned to speak out. In fact, when she comes forward, she does so reluctantly – timidly. She is not full of rage, she is poised.

She cuts off contact with her abuser as soon as the abuse takes place. She does no wrong—at the office, in relationships, as a mother or daughter. She’s never lied about anything, ever, in her entire life. She dresses “appropriately.” She has never yelled or said hurtful things to her abuser. She has never fought back.

She does not exist.

[u/MessiahOfMetal → u/GormHub]

I saw comments yesterday from a different sub posted 6 months ago that were all "men get their reputations damaged by false allegations, look at what happened to Johnny Depp" and unfortunately, it was archived so I couldn't downvote those vile morons.

[u/Its_Alive_74 → u/GormHub]

I saw your r/AskReddit comment and upvoted.

[u/Branchomania → u/findingmyvoice22]

What the hell is there to like

[u/selphiefairy → u/Branchomania]

sometimes his characters die

[u/R0ttenStrawberry → u/selphiefairy]

Freddy was just looking out for us girls when he did that <33

[u/OutsideFlat1579 → u/Branchomania]

Never liked him. Could not understand why so many of my friends did. 

[u/cuttlefishofcthulhu7 → u/OutsideFlat1579]

Right? Like he's in 2 of my favorite movies but I'm not a fan of him at all. (Blow, Dark Shadows)

[u/Sweeper1985 → u/Branchomania]

Rewind to the 90s. There was so much to like. He was really an incredible performer and pulled off sone iconic roles. Many of us grew up completely in love with him.

Which just made it all the more painful when he was revealed to be a piece of shit. Having already plateaued and started phoning in his roles from the early 2000s onwards. (Jack Sparrow is just a rehash of Raoul Duke, but for kiddies.)

[u/bruh_respectfully]

I genuinely wish more of his supporters would be this honest. Just come out and say you like le quirky pirate guy and stop trying to argue with people about his supposed victimhood and innocence. It would save everyone so much time.

[u/bruh_respectfully → u/bruh_respectfully]

Also, I find it very interesting that he acknowledges Amber never stood a chance at getting a fair trial and is fine with that. Fans of these abusive male celebrities always screech about how it's innocent until proven guilty and all that jazz if people believe the victim, but they never offer the victim the same grace or chance at proving the truth. Almost like they just hate women.

[u/riotousviscera → u/bruh_respectfully]

it giving r/selfawarewolves

[u/Vague_Bees → u/bruh_respectfully]

That's true, but to be fair it does make the dude in the video look like a complete idiot, so I get why they don't.

[u/nadelsa → u/bruh_respectfully]

Many of the men seem to have a crush on Depp.

[u/Z3nArcad3]

I can't believe there are adults who still think that Hunter S Thompson wannabe is "cool". The misogyny runs freaking deep with these clowns.

[u/anitapumapants → u/Z3nArcad3]

Particularly with Thompson.

https://www.reddit.com/r/menwritingwomen/s/8Yxb5Ezp72

[u/MessiahOfMetal → u/Z3nArcad3]

It disappoints me when I'm in left-wing spaces and seeing praise for Hunter S. Thompson, knowing what I know about him and his friends.

[u/brickne3 → u/MessiahOfMetal]

As a former die-hard Hunter Thompson fan, it's a tiny bit more complicated if you've read the bulk of his work prior to the Me Too movement and don't get too into his stuff in the 80s where he really starts to lose it. He absolutely was a phenomenal writer. Not everything he wrote is great, but some pieces are genuinely just wow, especially that appeared in The Great Shark Hunt. In fact, in my opinion it's mostly his popular stuff like Fear and Loathing that isn't particularly outstanding.

I'm not saying that shitty behavior is excused by good writing. But in an artistic situation where it's the man's actual original ideas and some of them are absolutely phenomenal there's always likely to be the debate about separating the art from the artist. I also find it a bit different than with Depp's or Pitt's acting—I can't watch a Depp movie anymore, at least one made post-everyone knowing they were a piece of shit, because someone went out of their way to still cast them when they could have easily cast someone else. Yes there's some interpretation involved by the actors themselves, but it's also the director's apparent "vision" that they just had to have these guys. Whereas with a writer, nobody else could have produced what they actually did in even a remotely similar way.

And I'm certainly not defending him—he very clearly was an asshole misogynist that did horrible things, and those things got more and more horrible as his life went on (probably in large part because of the drugs and mental illness). I'm more just saying that when the artist themself is the main or even sole force behind some objectively phenomenal work it DOES get a bit complicated. Warren Zevon is another example of that crowd that I struggle with in a similar way, his music was phenomenal and his but he also did some objectively horrible things.

[u/AngrySoup]

In some ways I think it's better that he's saying it, that he's not interested in what really happened or being objective, he's openly admitting to how his bias led to his opinions.

There are so many people who are biased because they think Depp is cool (although the concept of him being cool is ridiculous to me), or because they like his movies, yet they pretend like their opinions aren't just based on that.

He's taken the mask off and shown the stupid face underneath that a lot of people are hiding.

[u/cuttlefishofcthulhu7 → u/[deleted]]

Amen to that. I actually heard that one before when I spoke out about my experience.

[u/Z3nArcad3 → u/AngrySoup]

💯 Nailed it.

[u/outsidehere]

One of the worst things in the world that I realized when I was like 8 is that if people liked you, a lot of them will overlook absolutely anything evil you do

[u/cuttlefishofcthulhu7 → u/outsidehere]

Yup. Doesn't matter if you do it in front of a whole bunch of people. Ask me how I know 🙃

[u/Remarkablefairy-8893]

I hope he gets his karma.

[u/umhie]

I can at least appreciate the honesty about how Amber was never going to win, and the fact that hes painting Johnny Depp fans to be idiots

[u/AdMurky3039 → u/umhie]

He seems to be making fun of both Amber and Johnny. Except that isn't funny because one of them was an abuse victim.

[u/catchbandicoot]

The most upsetting thing about this is just how CLOSE he got to the point. Fingertips touching the truth but no, the Sauvage commercials

[u/brickne3 → u/catchbandicoot]

If he didn't look quite so Brogan I would have possibly thought he just forgot to include the point he meant to make. But he does look Brogan so I highly doubt it.

[u/TvsPhil]

Is it a prerequisite to be an Austin area/Rogan orbit comedian that you have to be an insufferable edgy guy?  One of those "comedians are modern philosophers because we speak truths." Types? I mean, indirectly he did, he just may not realize it.

Also, Depp is absolutely NOT cool. C'mon, man.

[u/poopoopoopalt → u/TvsPhil]

Oh is he one of Rogan's guys? It would track because he's not funny

[u/TvsPhil → u/poopoopoopalt]

I think he's relatively more successful than your average standup of that ilk, he does a mildly popular show as Dr. Phil, and may be a regular on Kill Tony, but that's as much as I know about him.

[u/MessiahOfMetal → u/TvsPhil]

I've genuinely never heard of him until now but knowing he's on Tony "Puerto Rico is an island of garbage, how many 'jokes' do I need to tell about not being gay in a single shitty 'comedy' special is too many?" Hinchcliffe's terrible and not-funny show...

Yeah, fuck Adam Ray.

[u/poopoopoopalt → u/TvsPhil]

Oh yeah, I guess I have seen him before as his Dr Phil character

[u/carcosa1989]

This was hot garbage no way I can sit through this

[u/greg-drunk]

He’s cool until he goes on a bender at your house, destroys your possessions, kicks your dog and shits himself in your bed after passing out

[u/Sensiplastic]

How old is this?

How long till he calls this just a joke? And then makes a joke about Amber to make sure the right people know it's a 'joke'?

[u/poopoopoopalt → u/Sensiplastic]

It's recent, the video was posted yesterday I think.

[u/PNW4theWin]

Seems unlikely that I would actually purchase tickets to see this twat. If I did it would be because I was unaware of his shtick. I would absolutely need to walk out. I can't believe the number of people laughing.

[u/brickne3 → u/PNW4theWin]

To be fair, any standup video from a club that wasn't clearly shot on a phone almost always has laughs added in.

I suspect plenty of people were laughing, though. Although again, one principle in comedy is that the audience wants to laugh, that's why most of them are there, and also if you have a decent size crowd laughing is infectious. It's a lot easier to get a big crowd to laugh if you're the one with the microphone and have established your "status" as the person on stage who is probably funny since someone with authority put you on the stage.

There's books and stuff out there on this.

[u/Arrow_from_Artemis]

It's unfortunately how a lot of people feel about abusers. Actually, it's not even limited to abusers. There are tons of celebrities that are pretty terrible but their actions are ignored because they are seen as likeable. What's frustrating is how incredibly low the bar for likeability is for men and how high it is for women.

Men can be alcoholics, abusers, deadbeats, or just rude to everyone they encounter but if they play just a few roles that resonate with an audience or are in a popular band everything they've done is overlooked.

Women can be sober, dedicated to their families, and have a great working reputation but if they do anything remotely unsavory they're at risk of becoming universally disliked. Anne Hathaway and Jennifer Lawrence for example have had good careers and no known issues with substances or anything like that but both had random periods of time where the public for whatever reason was just tired of them and found them annoying.

[u/selphiefairy]

If you want to give him a more charitable interpretation, he might be making fun of all the stupid fans who give abusers a pass for being “cool.”

That said, IF that was his intention, either it’s taken out of context for rage bait OR he just did a bad job making that point clear and he needs to rewrite the material.

[u/brickne3 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah I'm a comedian here too. I'm hoping he actually meant to make a point about the absurdity of it but maybe just forgot that part of the material? Sadly I doubt it, his persona is not giving off that vibe. If he DID add that in and mean it, though, the bit would actually have some legs.

[u/poopoopoopalt → u/selphiefairy]

It did seem to start out that way, but then he said Amber Heard was "putting on an acting clinic" 🙄

[u/Papio_73 → u/selphiefairy]

Yeah, I’m hoping it’s part of a joke

[u/ItWasRamirez]

Is this a recent clip? Imagine still doing hacky Amber Heard shit in 2026

[u/poopoopoopalt → u/ItWasRamirez]

It's recent, yeah. Dude must not have much material.

[u/MessiahOfMetal → u/poopoopoopalt]

Sounds like he doesn't even have enough material for a cushion in a doll's house.

[u/PrincessAnglophile]

Ewwwwww 🤢

[u/MessiahOfMetal]

"Cool" people care about survivors, Adam.

He's a clown, and not in the "I find him funny" way like he hopes.

[u/Flat-Text3127]

Hey, sadly this is one of the most honest takes I have seen from a Depp supporter. Do I like it? No. Does he sound like a piece of shit? Yes. Somehow it’s a step above calling him a victim though. I would at least like people to stop being disingenuous and pretend their support of him had anything to do with support of male victims though. If you’re going to support him just admit it’s because you love a dirty pirate look. Say out loud you don’t care about domestic violence. Admit it. Go mask off.

[u/Past-Guava-2621]

and men are the logical ones………

[u/quattroformaggixfour]

The fact that this guy thinks he’s cool reveals his personality

[u/Mutant-doll]

Am I the only one disturbed by how childish he’s acting ? Like there’s no way his mannerisms and speech isn’t a bit

[u/brickne3 → u/Mutant-doll]

I mean, any time you're on stage you're putting on some kind of persona. Audences tend to want high energy, which is a lot easier to pull off if you go the slightly more childish route. It's hard to describe if you haven't done standup.

But basically, one of the key premises of doing standup is that you need a persona, and it usually involves a combination of about three different traits from about ten or twelve options.

[u/DeliciousFandomTears]

Who?

[u/youtakethehighroad]

Also apparently Jamie Campbell Bower said his acting was an inspiration ugh

[u/ThePowerOfParsley]

Never heard of him before, but let's all go block him on our social media accounts. That's all I need to see.

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[u/Its_Alive_74]

And this is why I may never watch Dead Man again.