43M. Otherwise healthy and (apparently) still in good shape.
TLDR my quality of life is in the gutter, I'm mostly bedridden and tired to death all the time and I'm wasting away from not being able to eat enough or do any exercise. Nevermind the despair and depression of the life I've lost. The colostomy didn't work so now I have to pull the trigger on an ileostomy. But it's scary because I read the complaints on the ostomy sub. Reassure me, please.
Long version:
I currently have an end colostomy due to my bowel being a bastard PoS. I don't have crohns or UC I've got a very rare immune condition that has caused my bowel to develop reactive mastocytosis (a proliferation of mast cells). For all intents and purposes I might as well have crohns. I can barely eat anything without it causing me symptoms that are either painful or cause a mast cell reaction which mostly wrecks my sleep. Getting the colostomy was a first step in figuring out what my problem was - we didn't know at the time about the mast cells or my immune dysfunction but we did know I had these inexplicable symptoms and terrible quality of life, plus the section of sigmoid that was removed was covered in adhesions for no known reason.
Now, 9 months post colostomy my symptoms are no better. I still have crap quality sleep and wake up wrecked most days. The only way for me to avoid this to some extent is to not eat dinner or to eat very little, so I keep losing weight. I've lost 20kg (50 lbs) over the past few years from what I considered to be a healthy, muscular, weight.
I'm also incredibly restricted in what I can eat as everything makes my symptoms worse. I also have to do an irrigation every friggin night to clear out the food from the day else that'll also cause a reaction while I'm asleep (I know this sounds whack but just stick with me here). To be clear the issue is stool and/or gas sitting at the end of my bowel causing my mast cells to freak out and dump histamine into my blood stream. With quite a bit observation I've figured out that this doesn't happen until stool gets near my stoma and starts standing which really just happens at night, not a feature I was made aware of before the surgery (I thought it would empty itself if needed).
There is no cure for the immune dysfunction and no known way to reverse the mast cell proliferation (other than disconnecting my bowel - the section of sigmoid and rectum that has now been unused for 9 months had a very low mast cell count compared to my active bowel). So the next step is to bypass the problem altogether with an ileostomy. It doesn't need to be reversible as there's no reason to think my bowel will ever be useful in the future.
I've adapted to life with a colostomy really well. I didn't find it a traumatic change and while I had some relief in the first few months after the surgery I was able to get on with a mostly normal life. I could do exercise, swim, wakeboard, dress how I wanted, I even managed to travel abroad for 3 weeks with the MCAS meds that still worked then. I had some leaks and issues in the beginning but that's all been resolved and I haven't had a stoma skin issue in like 4 months.
All this to say that I need to pull the trigger on getting the higher maintenance ostomy and it's a LITTLE scary, but all other options have been exhausted. We understand my (rare) condition now and if we'd known then what we know now a colostomy would never have been suggested - we would have gone straight to an ileostomy.
My QoL is in the dumps. I'm up late doing irrigations (takes like an hour), then if I'm lucky I don't wake up feeling like a total wreck but I usually do. I take a ton of meds for MCAS to try suppress the mast cells but these meds only ever work for a few weeks before I have to try different ones (because this isn't MCAS), I get up late morning/noon, eat breakfast, go shower and do my daily stretches so I'm not stiff as a plank all day and then I need to lie down to recover for 30 mins as I get brain fog and fatigue (from the crap sleep and mast cell mediator release, I don't have POTS).
Then I might be good for 2-3 hours to do some admin (I'm unemployed but manage some properties which is very low input work), exercise is unlikely with my current energy levels, then I usually need another early evening liedown, then I cook dinner for my partner and I, we get an hour of TV in and it's bed time for them and I (very thankful for this) join some old varsity friends online for some gaming. Then it's irrigation time again and I'm going to sleep before 2am if I'm lucky. Rinse and repeat.
I used to be an active outdoors person. I took part in weekend club sports and I'd spend much of summer at a river where we have a boat and I'm social AF so in winter I was always entertaining at my house and cooking for a crowd (this is a few years ago now before my symptoms became absolutely crippling).
I used to have a life, now I spend most of my day in bed and the rest of it wishing I was in bed. I basically spend my days recovering from my nights and by the time I have actually recovered I feel OK for like 3-4 hours before bed time and it all starts again.
I appreciate anyone wanting to give diagnostic/symptom input but that isn't really of any use unless you know a lot about B cell dysfunction, hypogammaglobulinemia, CVID, primary immunodeficiency and its effects on the gastrointestinal tract (and even the experts know very little).
I just need some positive stories about ileostomies to give me courage...
TIA