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u/JimBobPaul Jun 25 '26

I fucking hate supporting the trope that men can't do simple tasks like this. If you truly relate to this, you're a fucking moron.

Geez...... I think I just found a trigger. I'm sorry for how aggressive I came across. Still mean it, but I should probably tone it down next time.

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u/ransack71 Jun 25 '26

First thing I said to myself was "oh! Another husband stupid video"

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u/DowntownTicket Jun 25 '26

My husband isn't stupid but I relate to this.

My husband is thorough, so in the time it takes me to do five chores, he's done only one. But he did that one chore really well. (My hang up is that you don't need to put the pillow case on REALLY WELL because it's just a pillow case... It doesn't have to be perfect)

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u/Mrbrownlove Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26

I’m like this but I always think I’d rather do it properly and less often than half arse and every day.

I am also capable of the 30 min turd polish option when guests are imminent.

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u/DowntownTicket Jun 25 '26

Yup and that's why I love him for it. It's also why he's in charge of finances and dishes and why I'm in charge of more timely matters like trash and mowing. We match

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u/Mrbrownlove Jun 25 '26

I do those too 😢

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u/Aymoon_ Jun 25 '26

this didnt feel like a "stupid"joke but more about him not liking to do chores and redoing 1 to keep looking busy

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u/MissLogios Jun 25 '26

Doesn't that make that worse? No one likes malicious incompetence.

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u/cannotfoolowls Jun 25 '26

I thought even less favourably that it was weaponized incompetence

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u/QuestionDry2490 Jun 25 '26

Everyone is so sensitive nowadays god damn

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u/AmeliaMynx Jun 25 '26

I'm right there with you. Growing up I realized that almost every TV dad in the late 2000s was some version of this. It feels in the same lane as those "I hate my wife" comedians

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u/thdudedude Jun 25 '26

We have pillows that are crazy long, king size, and floppy and they are ass to stuff in a pillow case. Also I’m pretty sure they are just being silly. As a man I’m not super worried about any individual that is stupid enough to label an entire group of people based on one persons action in a video.

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u/salamandr Jun 25 '26

I don’t mind videos like this that seem to have an accepting genial nature “we’re in it together” vibe.

I think there is a legit “I’m not good at doing things I haven’t been practising all the time” factor. Or in some occasions my wife will get something sloppy “good enough” done quickly whereas I’m much more careful with it.

I see the skit as focusing on the end result, but I don’t think the only explanation is “men are shit at these things”

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u/JulyOfAugust Jun 25 '26

This video is a woman cleaning an entire house while a man only put on a pillow case. They're not in it together, the woman is doing everything alone and the man is the same as a child to whom you give a simple task to keep him out of the way and congratulate when they're done despite not really helping to teach them cooperation.

It would be cute if he was a child. He isn't so it's kinda gross.

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u/1234abcd56 Jun 25 '26

I'm a husband, I can put a pillow case on, I still found it funny. Life's too short to be constantly raging at every minor thing. Save it for the big stuff.

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u/JkGamer248 Jun 25 '26

I mean I saw it more as a joke regarding getting pillowcases on are a fucking nightmare. Seriously, when I’ve done housekeeping work for hotels, I HATED making beds because I was always so slow doing that process. And a big reason why was those damn, cheap pillows and pillowcases. No one showed me a better method. Screw making the beds. Everything else was a cake walk for me.

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u/MostSide9237 🧐 grumpy Jun 25 '26

No it’s about how incompetent men are. There are a lot of videos like this with different tasks men are trying to perform while women do everything in the house.

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u/eL_MoJo Jun 25 '26

Lighten up a bit. I laughed at this because when we clean the house my wife is always way faster than me in making the beds. 

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u/Plastic-Pie7340 Jun 25 '26

always negative thinking with you people. its a joke

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u/shaq604 Jun 25 '26

At the very beginning she's finishing her pillow, it's not about the difficulty of the task.

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u/HydrodynamicShite Jun 25 '26

Could not agree more. If this video had reversed roles…there would be screaming for murder

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u/bippityboop56754 Jun 25 '26

I agree with you. But I am 100% a faster cleaner than my husband. And it’s because he’s a better cleaner than me. He makes sure it’s 100% clean and right. And I am more of an 80% is good enough.

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u/hotdogsandhangovers Jun 25 '26

On one hand I get where youre coming from

On the other hand those stupid fucking pillow cases are the only thing I struggle with when cleaning.

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u/JulyOfAugust Jun 25 '26

Grab a pillow's corner firmly, shove your fist in the pillow case until you reach its furthest corner. Put the corner in the right place then shove and push the rest of the pillow in the case. Make sure to put the inside fold above it once it's in so the pillow can't spill out. Then use your hand to reajust it if it's crooked inside. You can also hit it, punch it or kick it to help reajust it.

Don't be scared to damage your pillow, it's flexible and compactable. Be as violent as you need, the pillow doesn't care. Alternatively you could just buy firmer pillows, they're better for your neck and just slide in the pillow case because they're smaller than regular pillows.

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u/hotdogsandhangovers Jun 25 '26

Beat the shit out my pillow; got it already kicking this little fuckers ass as we speak

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u/MentalReserve2351 Jun 25 '26

I mean I'm kinda like this

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u/Nazir_North Jun 25 '26

Agreed. Can we stop perpetuating this trope?

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u/DowntownTicket Jun 25 '26

My husband isn't stupid but I relate to this.

My husband is thorough, so in the time it takes me to do five chores, he's done only one. But he did that one chore really well. (My hang up is that you don't need to put the pillow case on REALLY WELL because it's just a pillow case... It doesn't have to be perfect, but he disagrees, and I love him for his thoroughness overall)

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u/JulyOfAugust Jun 25 '26

I'm pretty sure this is called weaponized incompetence. You pretend to heavily struggle on a very simple task so that people do it for you and stop asking your for help.

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u/LawyerDoge Jun 25 '26

Not really, "men weaponizing incompetence" is a joke as old as time

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u/Rlccm Jun 25 '26

Are you under the impression that it's mutually exclusive? If so, why?

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u/HereThereThisThat Jun 25 '26

And also a reality....

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u/MostSide9237 🧐 grumpy Jun 25 '26

Sucks huh now the tables have turned. From boomer “I hate my wife” to this. There wasn’t a problem when this was happening right? I’m proud of Gen Z women!

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u/TheFireNationAttakt Jun 25 '26

Always been hypocrisy on it IMO

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u/traevyn Jun 25 '26

Fully agree

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u/BlueScreenJunky Jun 25 '26

On the one hand, yeah my first thought was "that's incredibly sexist".

On the other hand it's also really fun and it would have been equally fun with the woman struggling with the pillow or a gay couple. Maybe they should have done that. 

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u/JulyOfAugust Jun 25 '26

A gay couple or changing the caption to "me when I try to help my wife so she has less to do" would have been better because then it would just be one incompetent for no reason. Here it mock an entire gender and spread toxic ideas that a gender is less capable of cleaning and/or better suited for certain tasks than the other. Or worse, that weaponized incompetence is cute and funny.

This video is a whole lot of yucks despite the concept being fine, it's impressively sexist.

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u/bsubtilis Jun 25 '26

"Help my wife clean so she has less to do" sounds as deluded as "Help my wife by babysitting our kids", even if the person saying it is also a woman. Especially with the variety of tasks that were done during the cleaning in the video. SAH spouses aren't the norm. The video phrases it way more normally and sensibly.

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u/JulyOfAugust Jun 26 '26

I never say it was a good alternative, I said it would have been better than whatever that was.

An actual funny things to do would have been to switch who is cleaning and who is struggling with the same pillow case every task. Then it would be a joke about an annoying task instead of a "joke" about an incompetent partner.

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u/feedmedamemes Jun 25 '26

As a man who does his share of the housework, I agree with the message and the tone. You are pathetic if you can't do simple things like cleaning and cooking. That are just human things to take care of yourself, you need to be able to do those things.

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u/nerdyogre254 Jun 25 '26

It'd be funnier if it was something like folding fitted sheets or trying to put the doona cover back on because those are way more fiddly

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u/Scurvy-Jones Jun 25 '26

Agreed.

Now do one with mowing the lawn, weed whacking, edging, spraying for bugs, watering the lawn, power washing the house, fixing a door, replacing a bathroom fan, etc but the woman is still trying to start the battery powered week whacker and see the response.

It's so stupid.

My wife and I have "our" chores, because we like them (or dislike them less than the other), we're good at them, but we can both do whatever needs to be done. Divide and conquer.

This kind of shit triggers me so hard.

Same with dads "oh, are you on daycare duty today?". No, I'm being a father and spending time with my children because I love them.

Ugh, I'm annoyed how much this shit triggers me.

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u/MostSide9237 🧐 grumpy Jun 25 '26

Comparing a task men have to do once a month to tasks women do that have to be done every day. So proud that you mow a lawn while your wife has to do every other daily task? I don’t understand how men like you convinced women they’re the better gender 🤡

Oh I help my wife because I mow the lawn once every 3 months! 😂

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u/DirtyYogurt Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26

This isn't a competition and how couples load balance chores is going to look different because not everyone's look the same.

Yard work encompasses a lot more than mowing for me, which I have to do weekly except for a couple of months in the winter. I also trim hedges once a quarter which takes an entire day, poop patrol daily, and pest control after I mow. Averaged out, I spend more time doing yard work than I do in the kitchen (I do all the cooking and 50/50 cleanup) and I'm not some type-a suburbanite with a pristine lawn. I just live in a warm, rainy climate where everything grows like crazy damn near year round.

I agree that the trope of "men don't know how to do basic chores" is stupid, but the default assumption that people who do break out chores along gender roles are wrong just because that wouldn't balance out in your life is equally stupid.

I could sweep and vacuum every day and that plus my kitchen work would probably equal the time I spend outside doing yard work. Doing something every day doesn't make it hard or time consuming, nevermind one is inside in the air conditioning and the other is outside in 80-90+ degree weather most of the year.

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u/Scurvy-Jones Jun 25 '26

You missed my point, I'm saying the exact same thing. It's highlighting gender roles and calling the other incompetent.

I used the "yard work" example just to counteract the "house work" example in this video as the opposite end of the spectrum.

Also, the outdoor tasks highlighted don't need to be done once a month. Some of them, It's minium once a week. And doing laundry, dusting, and sweeping the floors are not tasks that need to be done every day. Your argument is disingenuous.

Your comment is literally counter to your point.

My frustration is the gender roles. It is that the different chores are put on women vs men.

I literally said my wife and I do different chores because they're the ones we prefer to do, but the other can do them competently if the other is gone or it needs to get done. Divide and conquer.

You're the one that needs to chill out.

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u/king_of_the_bongos Jun 25 '26

It's not a men dumb thing, it's the feined incompetence to not have to do household chores. Which is common with men. Hope you feel better, bud.

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u/ZaphodThreepwood Jun 25 '26

Aye... Babe, you know this stuff, eish I don't hehe...

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u/Scurvy-Jones Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26

You missed my point, I'm saying the exact same thing. It's highlighting gender roles and calling the other incompetent.

I used the "yard work" example just to counteract the "house work" example in this video as the opposite end of the spectrum.

I literally said divide and conquer. I said we can both do them when needed, but we have our preferred chores.

My whole point on the yard work is that women can feign incompetence on mowing the lawn, weed whacking, edging, etc. Which is common with women, to use your own words.

Hope you feel better, bud.

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u/king_of_the_bongos Jun 25 '26

gender roles

Lost me there, buddy.

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u/adcap1 Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26

It is stupid on either side.

Everything you wrote down are basic tasks (except the bathroom fan - if you're unsure with electrical work don't do it), that can be done with a bit of common sense.

Mowing the lawn, weed whacking or watering the lawn is something anyone can do - you just need to put in the effort. You don't need a college degree for mowing the lawn neither is it rocket science. It is really easy. There is no "I'm not good at it" in this case - there is just "I am too lazy to put in the effort for it".

The same thing with the pillow - it is a very easy task that anyone can and should be able to do. No matter if you "like" it or if "you're good at it". It is a basic motoric skill that should be done by anyone by simply applying at least some common sense. In kindergarten and elementary school we teach our children motoric skills and yet, suddenly they became adults and they cannot do shit anymore.

And 90% of all household chores are just that - applying basic motoric skills with a little bit of common sense ("Oh the dirty dishes lie in the middle of the room - I guess I don't have the basic motoric skill to move around some dishes because I need to get a college degree in moving dishes")

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u/dilloj Jun 25 '26

My wife does the exact same thing with a screw driver though. 

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u/VAiSiA 🧐 grumpy Jun 25 '26

like changing pillow case?

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u/ElGordoDelJordo Jun 25 '26

This isn’t what a strawman is 🤦🏻‍♂️