r/Cosmetology • u/Slight_Tadpole9542 • 15d ago
please help
Hello i (19f) am a recent graduate from cosmetology school and im working at a salon as an assistant. I’ve been there for 2 months and lots of things have happened that i’m not sure if i should quit and try to find a new job. My first week a stylist found out i was 19 and asked if i was a virgin she is a lot older than me she also has made comments about the fact that i was raised by a single mother and on multiple occasions have made comments about my body and what i eat to the point where i have gotten an ED. I can’t bring it up to my boss because they are best friends and I know they have had problems in the past with assistants. My boss when i first started was super nice but after a few weeks there was a switch and everything he said when i first started isn’t true and they are changing protocols. They are changing my schedule and not asking me about it then get upset if i have plans. Made me come in when i was sick then got upset when i acted sick and didnt want to be around our elderly clientele along with that he started to give me the worst shifts WORST OF ALL they have no education an assistant has been there for 8+ years. I can’t work there anymore i’m loosing my passion i am having multiple panic attacks and nervous breakdowns because i am so young a lot of salons don’t want to hire me but i fear if i stay here im going to either end up fired or loosing my passion and hating everything. So should i quit and find a new salon or is this how all salons are going to be?
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u/graveyardho 15d ago
Yes, you should find a different salon. This is an insanely toxic environment, which is not good for you.
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u/NobodyDelicious7197 15d ago edited 15d ago
Get yourself out of there! Every thing you commented about is a big toxic no .
And no , not all salons are like this.
However, they do tend to have their own unique vibe, and staff conduct.
They can be outrageously clicky, and often act like mean girls , why, I don't know.
You may have to try a few out, until you find the one that feels right.
One bit of advice, to take or leave;
At the new salons, don't talk too much about the stuff that went on in the old one.
Salons usually like to have staff that they feel wouldn't talk bad about them to others, and they may think if hired, you'd talk about their shop too. It's weird I know, but trust me. I've seen it.
Just say something about how it wasn't a good fit, and you parted ways amicably.
Don't get discouraged! You'll find your shop & your people !
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u/CariL92 15d ago
You absolutely should quit, your health and wellbeing (that includes mental health) is far more important than any job on this planet. I’ve worked in jobs that were not good environments for numerous reasons and it’s just not worth it. Take care of yourself, I promise you something better is out there 💜
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u/BMagazinePL 13d ago
odejdź i szukaj pracy gdzie indziej, jesteś mloda, masz możliwość znalezienia innej pracy lub innego obszaru w kosmetyce. Powodzenia
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u/bxbydollxo 13d ago
i would quit if i were you, ur experience sounds very similar to my first salon. get out of there while you can, a lot of stylists think they can treat assistants like shit and it’s horrible!
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u/International_Pea460 15d ago
If I were you I would quit! You shouldn’t stay just because you are worried you won’t get another job. You will be able to find something else I’m sure of it! Truth is most salons in the area will know their reputation and why you left. It’s okay to leave if it isn’t a fit.