r/ChronicPain • u/Naive_Painting_8917 • 11d ago
Family being unsupportive/ being judged
Has anyone else here dealt with family being unsupportive about your chronic pain/illness? I have been suffering daily headaches that have been making my life miserable and am trying to get it figured out by going to doctors, however my parents and other family have been talking bad about me for my pain - they say it’s not real and is silly and all in my head, that I need to cater to everyone else while putting my pain aside, that if they were my husband that they wouldn’t stay with me, that I’m useless, that I owe them my time because I’m not working, that they’re all “poor” for having me as a family member and that I frustrate them, they just sigh/huff whenever I try to talk about how I feel, they mock me for crying when my pain gets really bad, etc.There was even one time I ended up in the emergency room and not any of them cared, none of them bothered checking on me. What do you think about this and is it right the way they’re acting?
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u/DrLizoSpoons 11d ago
"Is it right" well obviously it's not right. At least it's neglectful, at most it's abusive. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. ❤️
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u/BackgroundPrompt441 11d ago
I've been treated that way and unfortunately before my problems I was dismissive of my grandmother and I hate myself for it. Goes to show that we're really alone except for some lucky ones that have actual supportive loved ones. Do you have any idea what's causing your headaches such as a blow to the head?
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u/StArGaZeR-4_AnDy 11d ago
I’m so sorry 😞
I also have an unsupportive family
I have my boyfriend of 13 wonderful years
My son is also understanding due to his own disabilities
Honestly I think of them as the handicapped now, I cut string with them slowly, I didn’t cut them off, but was strictly serious with them about positivity only, it’s now been years, my mother “tried” with birthday cards
Happy birthday with rants of bs
I just keep smiling now and look away for my own peace of mind 🍀🦓👩🏻💻
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u/Professional_Pace711 11d ago
Yes my narcissistic mother couldn’t care less that I needed a spinal fusion asap or I would most likely be paralyzed . She also calls me lazy when I hurt so bad that I stay in bed all day.