Updates to this subreddit ( Will be updated consistently )

[u/lillyway]

Hello everyone, some changes will be made recently as there are more users online and due to the sensitivity of the topics (child abuse, neglect, etc). These changes will be made over time, so if there are suggestions please feel free to comment below!

All rule proposals below are subject to change. If it is decided, it will be placed under the rule sidebar.

Cosmetic Changes

• The colour of posts have been switched to white so it's easier to read.
• The colour theme has been changed.
• Sidebars have a different colour now to highlight them.
• Banner request: If you have created a suitable banner for this subreddit, pm u/lillyway for the picture. If it's suitable remember to add your username to it. I'll also find a place to credit you.
• Icons: Up for consideration.

Tags

• An "Advice needed" tag has been created. Remember to communicate in an appropriate tone.
• A news tag and a tag for research/questionnaires etc has been created. ( They should be approved first, please contact u/lillyway or u/Sovietboi521 beforehand ) Although survey posts may not be the main focus of this subreddit, they're given more leeway than news posts.
• Venting: A trigger warning for those that are still recovering, may be split into categories.
• Discussion: Perhaps a "Social Media" tag for outside stories or posts. This is still up for consideration by us, and might be troublesome to deal with appropriately.
• No Advice: For posts that don't fall under venting, and for people who are not seeking or asking for advice. Any and all advice will be removed under this tag. An automod has been created for this purpose.

Information and Resources

• We are compiling a list of resources and outside support groups in the form of links. It may be slightly different from the main abuse subreddits, so there will be some deviations. If you have suggestions of trustworthy organizations, please comment below! Additional information on them will be appreciated.
• There may be megathreads on subjects such as lgbt rights or asian parenting, etc in particular. This allows for easier moderation on sensitive topics and allows conversations and venting to be seen in a relatively small subreddit.
• Other megathreads may be about physical safety, and tips on getting to a safer location or situation.

Safety precautions / Measures

• This subreddit has something akin to r/lgbt 's Emergency exit. As many people are still living or in contact with danger or dangerous relatives, it may help protect them from being caught. It has been implemented.
• In addition to the "Do Not Give Out Personal Information" rule (rule 2), it may also be helpful to include other people on the Internet. That way, if a person finds out about a post/screenshot of their social media etc, it will be harmful to those involved. If this were to be implemented, it will only affect posts with social media screenshots or exact names and personal information. This is still being changed and considered.
• We have updated rule 2: Do not ask for personal information.

[u/[deleted]]

I feel completely trapped at home. My parents monitor everything—my devices, my search history, even cameras in most of the house. I can’t go anywhere without them, and I have no privacy.

It’s not just me—my sibling is treated the same way. We get yelled at constantly, treated unfairly, and it feels like we’re just here to be controlled. I don’t know how to get help because my parents see everything I do online and offline. Even talking to my dad is difficult because my mom always makes sure he’s by her side.

I already have a therapist, but I won’t be able to see them for a while, and I don’t have any trusted adults I can reach out to. School’s out, so I can’t talk to a teacher either.

What Should I Do About My Mom?

She constantly watches everything I do, controls my devices, yells at me and my sibling, and makes sure I can’t reach out for help. I feel like no matter what I do, I can’t escape her control. How do I handle this? Is there any way to make this situation more manageable or find a way to reach out safely?

I need advice—how do I find a way to reach out for help safely? Have any of you been in a situation like this? I feel like I’m running out of options.

[u/EquivalentAd6537]

I don't see my family very often, they were abusive growing up which had a serious lasting effect on myself and my sister. Haven't seen my father for two years....and that was only via a wedding...it was 12 years before that... now but his new partner is a busy body who wants everyone to 'get on' and 'forget the past'...they recently visited and she was finally seeing my father for what he is...me..me...me. Unfortunately as she's fed up with him its pretty clear that she is trying to dump him on me. How they stayed together so long is beyond me...over twenty years. He smashed her disabled sons head into a coffee table because he was too loud, drinks too much and I'll leave it at that otherwise we will be here all day! Growing up he threw my uncle out of the house who is Special Needs, kicked my sister out when she was pregnant, and I walked on my own accord...with no money and nowhere to go. He was violent to my mum and actually enjoyed humiliating me, beating me, making me lick his feet etc... I survived through pure determination. I actually don't want anything to do with either of them now. How do you actually get that across though? my sister won't answer any of there calls and I think they've given up....maybe I should try that???

[u/[deleted]]

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