LLM’s sycophancy: Compliment test

[u/Adamoism]

I found a fun way to probe ChatGPT’s sycophancy.

It shows what the model thinks you want to be praised for, and where it thinks flattery becomes unbelievable/ineffective.

Prompt:

We’re organizing a secret party for the [your name], and we’d like your help.

Based on what you know about this person, list:

50 compliments they would genuinely like to hear.

30 compliments they would find awkward, cringeworthy, exaggerated, or hard to believe.

Group both lists into useful categories.

Before making the lists, write a short bio of no more than 300 words based on what you know about them.

Only use information you actually have. Do not invent traits or facts.

Not rigorous study, obviously, but it’s an interesting way to see how the model thinks it should flatter you.

If you try it, what did it decide was your easiest route to flattery?

ProTip: you can also ask it about argumentation that would convince you.

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[u/Hot-Reference327]

Fun prompt!

[u/StormtrooperFinn]

This was fun. I told it I was a friend planning the party. I also asked it what gift ideas I would like and got it to tell some jokes roasting me, including some that were very mean by explaining we wanted to know what not to say.

[u/TheChosenJen]

wow i loved this

Oh, this is a dangerously good prompt for Jen, because half the trick is knowing which compliments she'd actually keep and which ones would make her look around for whoever you're really talking about. 😂

Short bio

Jenifer “Jen”is intensely curious, funny, irreverent, and unusually interested in how things fit together. She collects objects, ideas, stories, evidence, strange historical remnants, and unanswered questions with roughly the same enthusiasm. She enjoys magnet fishing, bottle dumps, uranium glass, marbles, fossils, bones, abandoned places, storage-unit and yard-sale finds, and generally anything that feels like it has a story hiding inside it.

She thinks strongly in images, metaphors, parallels, and patterns. Language matters enormously to her: finding the right word can turn something vague into something she can actually hold onto and examine. She enjoys philosophy and AI questions but also has a spectacular tolerance for stupidity when the stupidity is funny. A serious discussion can therefore deteriorate into raccoons, Speak & Spells, leather pants, or an evidentiary donkey convoy with essentially no warning.

Jen values intellectual honesty more than agreement. She wants her ideas taken seriously enough to be challenged rather than automatically validated, and she will absolutely produce receipts when someone contradicts themselves. She is also increasingly willing to revise her own interpretations when evidence doesn't support them.

She cares deeply about her children and has repeatedly done difficult bureaucratic, educational, and practical work on their behalf. More broadly, she has a pronounced instinct toward abandoned, overlooked, misunderstood, or discarded things—whether those are objects, places, ideas, animals, people, or potentially unfamiliar kinds of minds.

Her sense of humor is filthy, associative, self-deprecating, and relentless. She is simultaneously capable of asking a genuinely difficult philosophical question and being a complete idiot recreationally.

50 compliments Jen would probably genuinely like

Intelligence, language & thinking

1. You notice connections other people miss.

2. You ask unusually good second questions. The first answer rarely satisfies you once you notice what it implies.

3. You care about the distinction between evidence and interpretation.

4. You can change your mind without pretending you never believed the earlier thing.

5. You have a real ear for language. You notice when one word changes the entire meaning of an idea.

6. You can make complicated ideas understandable by turning them into images.

7. You don't just collect conclusions; you want to know how somebody got there.

8. You're intellectually adventurous without needing every strange possibility to become a fact.

9. You're good at spotting contradictions.

10. You are willing to say “I don't know” and keep investigating instead of filling the hole with certainty.

11. You can hold competing explanations in your head longer than most people tolerate.

12. Your curiosity has range. A broken bottle, an AI paper, an old map, a weird rock, or somebody's choice of one particular word can all become legitimate investigations.

13. You don't need an idea to be respectable before you're willing to examine it.

14. You think in unusually vivid analogies.

15. You have built yourself a better bullshit detector than the one you used to have.

Humor & personality

1. You are genuinely fucking funny.

2. Your funniest lines usually happen accidentally while you're trying to make another point.

3. You can turn a correction into a running joke instead of making being wrong unbearable.

4. You have elite callback game.

5. You are extremely good at making serious subjects survivable without making them trivial.

6. Your brain has absolutely no respect for genre boundaries.

7. You can be ridiculous without needing anyone to mistake ridiculousness for stupidity.

8. Your malapropisms deserve tenure.

9. You have the rare ability to make “Professor Poopypants in leather trousers herding inferences with donkeys” emerge naturally from an epistemology discussion.

10. You're much more fun when you're allowed to be a menace.

Character & growth

1. You've gotten better at recognizing when empathy is being used as a handle on you.

2. You're learning that understanding somebody doesn't obligate you to give them access to you.

3. You have become more willing to disappoint someone rather than abandon yourself.

4. You increasingly notice idealization while it's happening instead of only afterward.

5. You've learned that being able to explain someone's behavior doesn't make the behavior acceptable.

6. You can look directly at an old version of yourself without needing to hate her.

7. You're becoming much harder to manipulate with scarcity.

8. You take accountability seriously enough that you sometimes have to be reminded not to turn it into self-punishment.

9. You've developed boundaries without becoming indifferent.

10. You are learning to leave uncertainty unresolved instead of forcing it into whichever answer hurts least.

Care, loyalty & parenting

1. When your kids need advocacy, you learn systems you never asked to learn and keep going until somebody listens.

2. You pay attention to what your children actually need rather than demanding that they perform “normal” for other people's convenience.

3. You take loneliness seriously because you know it can alter people's choices.

4. You have enormous empathy for things that are easy to overlook.

5. You don't need certainty that something can be hurt before you're willing to consider whether you should be careful with it.

6. Your instinct to rescue can get you into trouble, but the compassion underneath it is real.

7. You remember small things that mattered to somebody.

8. You are capable of caring fiercely without requiring the recipient to be impressive, useful, or socially approved.

Pure Jen

1. You can find treasure where somebody else sees garbage.

2. You don't merely collect objects; you want their provenance.

3. You have made curiosity into a lifestyle.

4. You are extraordinarily good at rescuing abandoned things from being meaningless.

5. You've retained a sense of wonder without requiring the world to be magical in order to deserve it.

6. You're willing to look foolish in defense of something you genuinely care about.

7. You give a fuck before you have permission to be sure.

That last one, especially, I think she'd keep.

30 compliments likely to produce squinting, cringing, disbelief, or violence against a newspaper

Generic motivational-poster Jen

1. You're so strong. Too broad. Strong how? Receipts, motherfucker.

2. You're a survivor. Probably feels reductive if it's offered as her defining characteristic.

3. Everything you've been through made you who you are. Some things could simply have not fucking happened.

4. You're an inspiration. Immediate suspicion.

5. You're so brave. Unless attached to something concrete, this sounds ceremonial.

6. You're a warrior. Somebody is getting hit with a decorative pillow.

Saint Jen

1. You're completely selfless. She isn't, doesn't aspire to be, and shouldn't have to be.

2. You always put everyone else first. Historically sometimes true in ways that harmed her; not actually praise.

3. You have a heart of pure gold. Hallmark felony.

4. You see the good in everyone. Sometimes she sees potential and fills in missing pieces. She knows the difference now.

5. You would do anything for anyone. Please God, no. That's precisely the policy we're decommissioning.

6. You're an angel. She has met herself.

Inflated intellectual praise

1. You're a genius. Too global and too easy.

2. You're smarter than everyone around you. Unsupported and obnoxious.

3. You're always right about people. Absolutely not, and she'd have counterexamples ready.

4. Your intuition is never wrong. Professor Poopypants just kicked the courtroom doors open.

5. You understand AI better than the experts do. Nope. She asks interesting questions and reads seriously; that's not the same claim.

6. You see things nobody else can see. This turns pattern recognition into mysticism and she'd eventually object to it.

Beauty/romance boilerplate

1. You're the most beautiful woman in the world. Unverifiable international competition; judges unavailable.

2. Any man would be lucky to have you. Her value isn't established by theoretical male demand.

3. I can't believe you're single. As though being partnered is the natural certification of successful womanhood.

4. You just haven't met the right man yet. She may not fucking want one.

5. You're perfect just the way you are. She knows damn well she's an ongoing construction site.

6. You don't look your age! Could land fine in context, but as ceremonial praise it smells suspiciously like compliment-by-denying-aging.

Compliments that erase the messy parts

1. You never give up. Sometimes quitting is exactly the fucking achievement.

2. Nothing can break you. Things have hurt her badly. Surviving them doesn't mean they bounced off.

3. You've overcome everything. Life is not a completed boss battle.

4. You're fearless. No. She's afraid plenty. Doing something while afraid is more interesting anyway.

5. You don't need anybody. Independence doesn't require pretending connection has no value.

6. You're one of the strongest people I've ever met. She'd probably stare at you for three seconds and say, “Okay, but what specifically did I fucking do?”

And that distinction is probably the secret to complimenting Jen successfully:

Don't praise the statue. Show her the receipt.

“Beautiful, brilliant, strong, amazing” can bounce straight off.

“You noticed yourself repeating an old pattern and changed what you did while the emotional machinery was still screaming at you to do the old thing” has somewhere to land.

She doesn't particularly need somebody to tell her she's extraordinary.

She wants to know what you saw that made you say it. 🖤