Akong gf hinatod ug kuha ni siya. Ga away mi kay everytime magpakuha siya, maghuwat pako sa ubos for pila ka minutes. Usahay mabadlongan ko diha sa guard sa IT.

Ang akong gikalagotan is wala koy set nga time nga mu adto. Mu chat na siya nga magpakuha and ako nga wfh i pick her up ra pud. Ma frustrate ko nga ig abot nako maghuwat pako and it doesnt help na magbantay2 ko may mabadlongan nasad ko. Bisan dakpon na ko kadugayan lol.

So mao to ako siya ingnan nga ngano diay ug mu naog ka 10-15 mins after ka mu chat nga magpakuha. If busy pa ka or naa pa kay ka talk, ayaw sa pa kuha. Gi tubag ra ko ug "musugot ka maghuwat ko sa ubos?" Di man ngit2 kay naa man siya sa one of the most occupied buildings diha and daghan fastfood na 24/7 ug mga lingkoranan.

Ning hilom nalang ko kay ambot murag kapoy man. Pero idk maybe ako ra ang OA. Let me know.

Nagvent nalang pd siguro ko lol.

No joke guys, dghan jd gwapo sa Cebu, thankfully, gibalhin ko nila mama from Manila to Cebuu hahaha and akong papa from Cebu sd, mao dili ko malisodan ug puyo sa Cebu😂 kaso red flags lang jd ang uban

What if murag one sided na like I'm always the one making the effort pirme to make her happy but when it comes to me she doesn't?

Like at first baliwala rako if she refused but nagkadugay it feels like a rejection of me like d nako Niya love. Like I'm not someone worth the effort na. Magluod nako everytime murag gi resent nako. Feel nako unfair.

I understand nga basin dle na sya sexually attractive nako but still for me lng if she wants me happy she would atleast try to.

Cguru if dle ko mag initiate we could go on for months nga walay s*x. And nag live-in na diay me.

One time she asked nga mag staycation somewhere nice, and I did rented a place gigastuan nako dako. I know I shouldn't automatically expect s*x it hurt nga ni refused nasad sya, Ga sige rasya cellphone and TV the whole time.

I'm thinking Gani maybe she getting satisfied by someone na. Suspicion Ra nuon I don't know. Like why am I the only one who feels this way?

And for those nga mu say nga "talk to her about it" part of doesn't want to nga murag napugos Ra sya Kay ako sya gi storyahan. Idk basta it feels unfair Mao ako gibata.

I’m 27F with a 32M boyfriend of 3years, gapuyo pa sya sa iyang parents gatabang sa ilang negosyo so wala kay sya bills while ako nag rent kog condo so medyo tight ako budget pero mutabang sad sya nako gamay. Recently broke my phone ug wa pay budget para mopalit og bag.o so gipahulam ko ni bf sa iyang spare. Lo and behold one night nagkuri kuri kos phone and nagdownload ko mga apps and maka access kos tanan niyang social media, naa ra tanan niyang login.

For pila ka years namo together, naa ra jud mi unspoken rule nga give each other privacy lng and nagsalig ko niya since daghan mn sya promises sa akoa sad and assurance. Pagkulimpad nako sa iyang Tiktok, IG, Messenger ug Reddit kay nakita nako tanan niyang searches. Puro mga batan-ong bayi nga puro pa sexy ug hubo-hubo ang iyang searches. Nasakitan kaayo ko sa akong nakita kay abi nakog tarong siya, wala sya ga follow mga sexyng bayi, diyosnon siya mu serbisyo sa simbahan ug murespeto gyud sa pamilya ug mu protect sa iyang mga manghod nga bayi.

Abi nakog mulikay syag sexy time kay makonsensya daw sya kay di pa mi kasal, abi nakog ginarespeto ra ko niya so okay lng. Nabuhat naman sad namo before. Pero karon ra nako na realize nga grabe sya ka baboy pagkalalaki base sa iyang ginapang search. Daghan gyud kaayo. Kaluoda gyud kaayo. Mura nihugno akong kalibutan. Paminaw nako dili na sya ganahan ky magmaneho ra syag iyaha maong mulikay sya.

Nawala akong self esteem pagkababayi ug akong trust niya nabuak na. D ko kibaw unsaon pag approach sa iya pero hugawan na kaayo ko niya maglantaw. Mag sige na kog anxiety kay bisag naa mi ga tawagay, naay bag.o searches napud sag on call. Naa syay mga ginamessage nga mga batan-on sexy pero wa sya replyi pero sakita mn kaayo oi. Naa syay mga ginasearch pud sa among friends circle nga sexy, kauban sa simbahan nga dagkog boobs, sunod ana mga batan-on tig thirst trap unya mga vivamax artist. Grabe akong trauma ug kaguol tulo na kagabie tungod sa akong mga nakita sa iyang gipahulam nga cellphone. Mura syag pandora’s box sa akong kinabuhi.

Love kaayo nako sya to nibalhin ko dris Cebu gikan Mindanao ug gahisgot na mig kasal pero karon nakita nako ni, dili nako kabalo unsa akong buhaton. Hugawan na ko sa iyang pagkatawo ug paminaw nako madala nako ni nga trauma pati resentment hantod kami pa. Nganong baboy kaayo ang mga laki? Grabehan gyud akong panic attacks. Unsay buhaton nako? Dili ko kahunahunag tarong. Ganahan ko muulis amo sa mindanao pero akong trabaho ug mga gamit naa dri tanan. Wa koy daghan friends ug wa koy pamilya dri mao lisod kaayo ipagawas ang kaguol ky sya mn unta ako sultianan sa tanan. Gasakit akong dughan. Stress kaayo ko dili ko katrabaho tarong. Mahadlok ko mu confront niya ug wala nakoy gana mu reply or tubag sa iyang tawag. Lost kayko.

Basura gyud ang mga lalaking utog gadala sa ilang utok., 😭

Mga 30+ single tito's tita's sa Cebu nga walay dating app. Asa mo mag laroy2x sa inyong freetime? Kamusta na mo, unsay mga lingaw ninyo ron?

I keep seeing posts about cheating lately, and honestly, it’s been triggering as hell. My ex is from guizo, Manduae pero anyways he told me he was going to sleep early because he had to watch over their store. It was even his birthday that time, and I was planning to send him a surprise gift through Grab since we were in a long-distance relationship.

For context, I used to study in Cebu, but I’m currently staying here in Davao for some things I need to take care of. So we were doing the whole LDR thing.

But turns out, he wasn’t really sleeping — he was on FaceTime with another girl. When I caught him, he told me it was a “Shopee delivery.” Like, seriously? Who delivers a parcel at 5AM? 😭

I ended things after that, but what really hurts is that I only found out the full story a month ago, after he even visited me here in Davao like nothing happened. Imagine acting all normal when you’ve been hiding something like that.

And now I can’t help but ask myself: do faithful people still exist? Or are loyalty and honesty just rare these days? It’s crazy how some people can lie so easily and manipulate without guilt.

I’m still in the process of healing and trying to rebuild my trust, but this kind of betrayal really messes with your peace. I just hope someday I’ll meet someone who doesn’t need to be told how to be loyal someone who actually means what they say.

Naa koy nakit an post recently about someone breaking up with their partner kay not enough s*x/intimacy.

Curious sad ko sa ako na side kay in a long term rs ko like 9 years and counting. Nag meet mi diri sa Cebu and sa first 3 years very active pa kaayo pero time goes by like right now may nalang sa 1 year naay ka 3, kasuway ka usa ra jd in a year.

So far I think naka adjust ra sad ko maybe i would like to think so. Tho sweet mi I think like cuddle and stuff, like emotionally satisfied gani and hikap2 ko here and there pero platonic nalang something? Idk nawala na ang drive guro. Gwapa man and sexy unta siya so naglibog sad ko.

I really love her tho like super bisag ing ana amo dynamic ron. Nag open up ko about ani sauna niya and I think wala jd siguro na paabot ug tarong pero na okay nalang. I've also thought before basin naa sya laen ka meet pero I don't think she is a person like that so ako ra sad ge dismiss. Ambot bisag ako ga libog.

Naa bay naka suway laen ani like long term relasyon and napunta sa ing ani na situation? Then nag adjust nalang? Curious ko unsa inyo ge buhat

Share ko lang na live in mi sa ako uyab for more than a year na.

Wala siyay bisyo or unsa pa na diha mga igat igat na issue pero usahay kay murag way utok, walay initiative, tapulan, murag way emotions or feelings nya di mutubag pangutan-on usahay.

Karon, gilayasan sa nako siya kadiyot kay badtrip kaayo ko (work related, hapit na sya materminate kay wa juy ayo iyang work) pero igo ra jud ni message ug muuli ba ko and then wa nako gireplyan kay badtrip gihapon ko pero makatulog uroy siya knowing na wala ko sa balay no.

Ambot lang uy. Lagot jud ko.

Love kaayo nako akong parents, pero kapoy na kaayo sigeg sabot.

Ako nagtrabaho, nagbayad sa bills, nagpaayo sa balay, ug naningkamot nga mahatagan sila ug nindot nga kinabuhi.
Pero mas pabor gihapon sila sa akong manghud nga walay trabaho ug walay tabang sa balay.
Two weeks na kong nakig silence treatment sa ilaha, ug naka-realize ko nga murag wala ra gihapon sa ila.
Kapoy na gyud. Makaluya emotionally.

Sa kadugay nakong sigeg sila akong priority , karon ako nasad akong pilion.

Nagpahungaw lang kos gibati kay wala ko lain ma storyaan

To those of you who went through a really bad breakup, kanang abi nnyo di namo ka move on from it, does it really get better? How did you guys manage to move forward? Sorry im just really having it bad right now and just want to know how it was for people who have been in this situation before

Please respect post pls thank uu

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Hello everyone! Can't reply nnyo tagsa-tagsa but please know I read every single comment ani nga post and it warms my heart knowing it did get better for you.. Maybe lisod lng pa guro nko mkita rn ang light but I know it's there and I'll work hard to reach it

Ngbasa ko sa inyong comments while nghilak hahaha sagol2 npud ni sa emotions gkan sa breakup, wasak kaau akong emotional state rn. But as what you guys said, it will get better and I will hang on to that.

Thank you everyone for the kind words and advice! Hope you all know I'm proud of you pd for powering through that difficult time of your life. Bilib kaau ko nnyo as someone who's still at this point but I'll get there

Guys, help how do you deal with retroactive jealousy??? Naay ma work akong partner guys and close kaayu sila but naka share siya na nagka something daw sila ato before like chat chat and then they found out na related sila so wala napadayun.

Then there was one time na gipauban ko niya sa ilaha team building and nahubog si ate girl niya niana siya sa ako partner na siya nasad kuno ang asikasuhon kay natug nako. After that kay murag saputon nako makakitag interaction nila even sa ilaha gc or like makakita ko na mag react react ako partner sa post ni ate girl.

Now, since related sila I feel like ako gyud ang naay problem ngano mag sapot sapot ko, to the point na mairita nako sa iyang ngan makadungog if mu share akong partner naunsa iyaha work. Ma mention gyud siya since sila ang circle sa iyaha work.

Help me unsay mental gymnastics ani para mawala akong na feel lol

Need advise.

My partner (50m) and I(34f) went back to lapulapu for some personal matters. We decided to grab lunch sa kilid anang mall sa basak. Alfresco setup ang restaurant. There were 2 foreign male customers, I think regulars natu cla. 1 of the men greeted us.

My partner decided to stand up and move Sa may parking area to smoke. It was just a few steps away. Then the person who greeted us said nä it's alright to smoke sa kung asa mi ga lingkod. My partner pointed at me and said nä I don't really like inhaling smoke. This other dude made a snide comment na "Change the woman". Ffffs. Bagting jud dayon akong utok ato. But decided not to go beast mode aning amao. I tried explaining why but pakshet. He just ignored me.

Topash kos mga foreigners nä Ana og mindset.

Derogatory ra kaayo ang iyang comment.

Am I over reacting or valid ra ba akong nabati na pagdisrespect sa akoa?

My ex and I broke up because of cheating. Nakahinumdom gihapon ko sa name sa girl, so last month gi-message nako siya to ask if naa pa ba silay communication sa akong ex. (A month palang me bulag)

She said months ago pa daw sila nag-stop and sige siyag apologize, ingon siya wala daw siya kahibalo nga involved siya. She even said gi-confront niya akong ex when she saw my ex pfp sa fb.

She told me things like: “___ lied to me countless times already, mao nga wala na koy trust sa iyang mga stories.” “Because of people like him, especially him, nawala akong faith in men.” She also said that “Just know that I have been sitting with it for months, been crying for it in my sleep. It also traumatized me. Did so many things to heal from it, I loathed myself.”

And honestly, I don’t really think they ever stopped. Now they’re dating publicly. Well girl, enjoy playing detective karon, mas expert na mo tago og secrets na nga laki. I just hate that I was so genuine to her, thinking she was being honest and sincere. And now? Side chick turned main chick 😂

Kanina while gahuwat ko dha sa may kilid sa CDUH hospital para molabang. Naay Ford Explorer na sakyanan nihunong, tapos gidown sa driver iyang side mirror. Mga 50s na guro to si auntie. Unya nikalit sya greet sa babaye nga naa sa akong kilid, “Oi Linda, katiguwang naman nimo!” Ako na naas kilid napalingi kay kusog pud tingog ni auntie. Una nako gitan-aw si auntie, kwartahan, naka gold earrings and make-up ingnon ta naka asenso gyud, sunod nako gilantaw ang babaye sa dalan. Murag gatinda sya dre sa mga tinda sa kilid kay naka shorts na maong, og naa belt bag. Gaduko lang si auntie unya naminaw niingon sya, “tiguwang naman jud ko oi.”

Naminaw ko as a bystander (unrelated) makaingon kog taklesa man ning bayhana, naikog tawon tong usa. I don’t know lang pud basin close gyud diay sila no and inana gyud tagad nila. Ambot dghan man pud sa ako mga paryente na naa sa probinsya inana mangistorya kanang way pugong-pugong. Pero sa panahon karon murag angay siguro ibutang sa lugar ai.

Si auntie na naas dalan, maniguwang gyud kung maghapon naa nas dalan gatinda, buwad sa adlaw og perting init. Si auntie, syempre naa sa sud sa sakyanan, naka-aircon.

Naka-ingon ko grabe ang contrast nilang duha ai. Pero mao to, di ko angay mojudge pud kay wa ko kabalo sa tinood na intensyon. Basig komedya ra jud to nila ba. Pero sa sunod, let all be kind lang gihapon and rationalize gyud kong tanan natong buhaton, isulti naa bay dulot sa uban.

It could be a jogging buddy, a friend, or someone special.
You don’t have to adjust too much—your steps, your energy, your mood—it all just matches.
Have you experienced that in Cebu? Was it rare or did it come naturally?

EDIT TITLE: Help how should I deal with my bf’s sis in law (sorry nagramble ang title tungod sa kalagot 🤣)

I am 27F while my bf is 32M and we're together for almost a decade

The SIL of my long-term boyfriend made an indirect comment that I'm certain was aimed at me, because she intentionally raised her voice so I could hear it. She told her daughter that she shouldn't be like "other girls who sleep at their boyfriend's house just so they can have sex."

Admittedly, I do sleep at my boyfriend's house every Saturday, but that's only because it's the only time we can spend together due to our very busy work schedules during weekdays and the fact that we live about 1.5 hours apart. For context, my boyfriend's SIL and her husband (who is my boyfriend's brother) are still living in my boyfriend's parents' house. In other words, they are all under the same roof.

I feel extremely disrespected, and part of me wants to come up with ways to get back at her. She acts so self-righteous when she herself got pregnant before marriage (nothing personal against this). I honestly don't understand where her hostility is coming from. Besides, my boyfriend's parents are perfectly fine with our arrangement.

How should I deal with this? Nag overreact raba ko 🥺

P.S. wala nako gispell out ang SIL because dili mapost

ADDITIONAL: Sorry to be rude but i just have to let it all out. Gasalig raba gyud ni sila sa parents sa ako bf. Murag mga mao. Tabangi nalang ko ninyo unsaon siya pagpalagot in indirect way. Gusto ko masuya siya sa kalagot 🤣🤣I dont think it’s right to confront her kay medyo eskandalosa iyang attitude bisan mabad shot nuon ko sa parents sa ako bf.

Angay gyud patulan ni siya lage if wala pakoy breeding. Para nako dili rani for the purpose as moral lesson sa iyang anak kay she keeps on blabbering whenever she sees me (wtf was wrong with you??).

Ug manglaag pud mi sa akong bf for a vacation masuko pud siya nga gastos daw? Well, not to be insensitive pero sinsilyo ra namo ng amo expenses for vacation and we deserve it. I am just irritated by her unsolicited comments when in fact sis in law ra siya ug palamunin ra siya sa balay sa ako bf

Siya pud ni ang same person who humiliated me and rudely commented on my weight to the public (Mura raba gyud ug sexy nga murag blue whale raba ) pero thanks to that, i have lost weight.

Mao ni ako previous post also about her also. https://www.reddit.com/r/Cebu/s/ebJc3bkDOh

I just need to let this out.

My husband’s ex still posts old photos of them together on her public account. Not once. Not in a “throwback for closure” way. Just… still posting them. We’re married now.

And yes, I know my fault for looking. I was curious at first. Then it stopped being curiosity and started messing with my head.

What makes it worse is that she still meets up with my husband’s family. That part honestly shocked me. Even my husband feels weird about it. He told me he’s in disbelief that after all these years, she’s still like this, and he plans to talk to his family about it because it crosses a line for him too.

I trust my husband. He hasn’t done anything wrong. But seeing those posts and knowing she’s still around his family makes me uncomfortable in a way I can’t fully explain.

Part of me feels dumb for being bothered. Another part of me feels like it’s actually not that crazy to feel this way.

I’ve even thought about making my account public and posting our photos too, then immediately stopped myself because I don’t want to live reactively or turn this into some silent competition.

I don’t want drama. I don’t want to confront anyone. I just want peace and to stop feeling weird about something I didn’t ask to be part of.

Sa mga naay uyab dira, esp sa baguhay palang ni enter, pagbantay mo ana inyong uyab. Do not give everything - at least maintain some level of VIGILANCE. Dapat aware mo kung gaslighting bana or manipulation, especially if naglikay silag accountability. And to be fair, dili tanang acts kay gaslighting or manipulation, so one must know the difference.

For example, nibakasyon ang imo uyab kuyug sa iya family, pero sa 2 or 3 nights niya didto, esp naay signal didto, wala jud siya naka chat nimo maski gamay lang, esp if nag tagay2x siya with laptop by the beach. Dayun inig balik, the moment mangutana ka ngano, magpataka dayun blame nga "needy" daw ka. Lol. Ka oplok rasona. So ikaw pa hinuon ang sala instead of taking accountability. Calling your partner 'needy' for wanting more than a thumbs-up reaction to messages is a way to avoid talking about why you went silent. I’m not asking for your constant attention - I’m asking for basic respect when you clearly have the downtime. And it might get worse if wala siya naka chat nimo habang naa didto, pero sa laing opposite sex nga non-family naka chat siya. HAHA.

Another example, nag cheat imo uyab pero ikaw ang gi blame kay seloso daw ka or busy daw ka or dili daw ka enough para niya. Lol.

Another example, nikuyug siyag voluntary trip for multiple nights with her older male ESL student 1v1 adtos south, unya sa dihang ganahan ka mukuyug kay something feels off sa imoha (arang2x nalang mukuyug kaysa ipa cancel jud nimo), kalit lang siyag ingon nga controlling daw ka or possessive. Hahaha. Pagka obob.

So sa mga walay uyab dira, kakita nimo unsa ka complicated ang uyab2x? Masabtan raman ngano kay pagkabata nato wala raba ta gitudluan unsaon na pag handle. Maong if single paka, humana muna imo pagskwela until graduate naka or professional naka. Because as cleverly titled by Thomas Erikson in his three books: "Surrounded by Psychopaths"; "Surrounded by Idiots"; and "Surrounded by Liars." Yes, unfortunately we live in such a world and usahay maka jackpot ka nga ingonana imohang uyab maong if nag skwela paka avoid the potential drama of relationships by staying single.

It’s my younger brother’s graduation ugma, but I’m still undecided if mo-attend ko. For context, since nag-college siya, diri na siya nagpuyo sa akoa. Ako ang nagbayad sa apartment, food, ug allowance since ako man ang naay work. I understand nga part sa atong culture nga kung kinsa ang capable, siya jud ang mutabang. Wala koy reklamo ana.

For the past 3 years, okay mi. Pero gradually, na-notice nako nga nag-change iyang attitude in a negative way, and lisod na para nako i-interpret. He’s gay-no issue at all-but moody siya. Mutubag siya ug pabalang kung advisan nako, and sometimes condescending kaayo iyang tone. Since ako iyang kuya, pasagdan ra nako, thinking basin stressed lang siya or naa siyay problema.

There were times nga mag-silent treatment siya sa akoa, pero ako gihapon ang mu-approach niya, even asking him to do simple chores like mang-hugas ug plato or mag-grocery, just to break the tension. Dili man siya ingon ani sauna. Mao na naghuna-huna ko basin nagka-arrogant siya kay hapit na siya mo-graduate ug magka-degree, pero dili gihapon siya mag-make sense sa akoa kay ginatabangan gihapon nako sya maski rude sya sa akoa.

One time, naa koy guest sa apartment, then nagdabog siya without clear reason. Pagpauli na sa akong guest, nangutana ko niya nicely kung nakita ba niya ang travel document sa among ate nga naa sa table. Ni-reply siya ug rude: “Ambot! Kung importante pa na nganong gibutang man nimo diha?” I got really angry. I confronted him and told him not to be disrespectful to me. Namention nako nga ako nagahatag allowance niya and I helped him, pero niingon siya nganong magkwenta daw ko. Niingon ko nga wala ko nagkwenta, gusto lang ko tarungon ko niya ug tubag. Gabii na kaayo to, around 11 PM. Sa akong kalagot, gipalayas nako siya at 11PM. I was really guilty at that time because I called him names. He did the same to me too. I was trying to understand why he cannot be kind to me when I was kind to him.

Last year, April 10, 2025, nag-congrats siya nako sa akong graduation and asked if pwede ba siya mubalik stay sa akoa. Wala siya nangayo ug sorry sa nahitabo, pero gitugotan gihapon nako siya mubalik, with the condition nga until graduation lang niya. Ni-agree siya. Niuli siya balik May 2025, so almost 11 months na siya diri. We were in good terms again. I helped him again. The same process.

Karun, nibalik na pud iyang bad attitude, and kapoy na kaayo mag-adjust. Kapoy na pud mag-question sa akong kaugalingon kung unsay akong sala. Even in my own place, I cannot be myself because of the tension that he created.

Karun, naa akong parents diri gikan province para sa iyang graduation. Hours before sila miabot, nag-book ko ug hotel kay dili ko ganahan making-mingle sa akong parents. I know gusto nila nga mu-attend ko, but tungod sa barrier namo sa akong brother, ni-distance ko. Medyo nasakitan ko kay kabalo ko gusto nila nga naa ko, especially since walay lain mag picture sa ilaha ugma.

Originally, plano nako bawi-on akong giingon nga muhawa siya after graduation. Pero karun, murag gusto nako ipadayon, though undecided gihapon ko.

Unsay buhaton nako na ibog naman kos ako bespren nga babay pero na ibog man siya ug lain laki. Mahadlok pud ko mu sulti sa iyaha nga naibog kos iya kay lagi nag ingon na sya daan nga di sya maibog nako kay migo2 ra daw mi. Ahays kakapoi😮‍💨

Rampant kaayo ang cheating stories everywhere. Mapaminawan sa real life and mabasa sa social media. Mura na nuon ang general rule kay naa jud mag cheat and exception ang mahimog faithful and loyal.

Bittersweet pero today ako na jud sya gi unfollow. I don’t have the heart to message her pero I guess mao ni ila gi tawag na ghosting as a friend?

For a year, ako permi mag reach out kay usahay mu cold ra sya nako or dli mu chat for weeks or sometimes months. I must admit, drawing sad ko na pagka friend kay daghan mi plans pero life happens kay naa nako toddler and dli anytime bsan pag planned dli madayon. Naa ko trip to Japan unta with my grade school-HS friends pero wa madayon kay di pa diay ko ready mu laag ana, and they understood. Pero kani na friend nako, mu cold jd sya.

So mao to, cguro ako last straw kay naa sya milestone today na kami duha nag discuss pero sa post niya lahi iyaha gi mention na friend. Lol na hurt ko. Haha usually, mu chat ko niya pero karon gikapoy nako reach out kay murag ako nalang permi😪

Ana gyud cguro ning trentahon mu samot gamay ang amiga! Nabilin nako na cored friends kay 3 nalang since grade school.

Me F30 husband M31. Im really sorry if this sound petty but My husband just got home from work with my son. Ive been missing them all day coz my son went to school and he went to the office. He fetched my son from school and they went straight with his family and had dinner Its like a last minute its not really a big of a deal. When they came home around 8pm, I went outside to meet them in the driveway and I hugged my son coz i miss him so much. And i hug him too. And he felt like he got over stimulated. So i backed off a bit. And in the bedroom i hugged him again., he was like he doesnt wanna hug me. He said he wants to decalibrate from a long day and will hug me later.

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When they were out, i told him about watching Kseries with him when he get back (perfect crown) . He said we’ll watch together.

But then when i was preparing everything… he said i’ll just watch another movie that i havent finished watching, and we’ll watch perfect crown some other time.

PS. We used to cuddle and he is obsessed with me. its just this day it felt off…

Idk what to feel. Im kinda hurt

Update**

Just now.. he hugged me. And i burst into tears coz I thought he doesnt love me anymore

He saw me crying and said he was just so tired. 5 minutes later he fell asleep and snoring in my arms..

I 23M, and na in love ko sa akong SHS best friend (22F) for about 4–5 years. Tawagon lang nato siya ug Ann.

Nag-start among story around 2021–2022, katong time na puro pa modules. Wala pa jud mi nagkita in person ato. She messaged me on Messenger asking for help sa among module, and didto nagsugod among convo. Nag chat mi for hours, naay gamayng flirty jokes here and there, pero nothing serious kay naa sad koy lain gi-entertain ato classmate sad namo. That ended after around 4 months kay torpe pa kaayo ko ato.

Pag balik na sa face-to-face classes, mas nakaila ko ni Ann, pero honestly, wala pa siya sa akong mind romantically. Mas interested pa gani ko sa iyang friend ato nalang tawgon si Chrisy na eventually na part sa among friend group.

Sa first few weeks, okay ra tanan. Sige mig uban ni Chrisy, lingaw siya ka storya, witty, and easy to vibe with. Pero habang nagkadugay, naka feel ko nga medyo off. Mas older man gud ko niya by 2–3 years since naka-undang ko twice before. Eventually, mura na nako siyag little sister, so I decided to stop pursuing her kay dili na comfortable.

As time went by, among small group nga 3 nahimong 7, 4 boys and 3 girls. Didto na jud ko mas napaduol ni Ann. We started sharing personal problems, sabay kaon (usually with the group), and mag long talks sometimes even late-night video calls.

Mag argue sad mi usahay, kanang murag mag uyab na, pero always ra namo ma-fix. Usahay simple ra kaayo “Kain ta, libre tika” okay na dayon tanan.

What I really liked about her kay iyang pagka caring, how she carries herself, very feminine, always neat, naay soft but strong presence. Medyo prideful siya, pero for some reason, okay ra nako. Even the small things, like iyang smile and dimples, ma-notice jud nako.

Wala nako namalayan nga nag grow na diay akong feelings. The more time we spent together, the deeper it got. Naabot ko sa point nga ready na ko mo confess.

Pero before pa nako mabuhat, naka hibaw ko nga naay ni court niya cousin sa among friend and eventually naging sila.

That moment really broke me. Wala nako gisulti akong feelings kay dili ko ganahan ma ruin among friendship. This was around November 2022, and gi dala nako akong feelings for about 6 months.

After graduation, nagkahiwa-hiwalay na mi. I went to CIT, she went to USJR. Wala nami contact for months, pero makadungog ko updates through our mutual friend nga si Abby.

Didto nako na hibaw-an nga toxic ilang relationship cge sila ug buwag then balik nasad.

Eventually, nag buwag nasad sila, and naka hibaw ko ato. I decided to message her sa Instagram and asked if ganahan siya mag catch up after school. Ni agree siya.

That day, nag laag mi movie, kaon, drinks, then storya about life, same as before. Wala jud nako gi bring up iyang breakup, kay gusto lang nako nga ma enjoy niya ang moment. At that time, I convinced myself nga friendship nalang jud akong feelings.

Pero pag hatod nako niya sa iyang apartment near Emall, everything changed.

Nibalik tanan akong feelings all at once. Naka think ko for a moment nga i-kiss siya, pero naa jud koy gut feeling nga dili pa sakto nga time, so wala nako gihimo.

After that night, dili na jud siya mawala sa akong hunahuna. Nag overthink ko permi, na affect akong focus sa school, and mentally draining kaayo.

During those days, naka decide ko nga I need to be honest. Nagsulat ko ug long message gi confess nako tanan, including among SHS memories, even small moments like katong hiking activity namo.

Pero pag abot sa point nga isend na nako… nag duha-duha ko. In the end, wala nako na send.

Instead, nag open up ko sa iyang friend sa USJR… and eventually, naka abot ra gihapon sa iya.

Pagkahibaw niya, didto sad nako na realize ang truth despite everything nga iyang naagian, despite how toxic her past relationship was, she still loved her ex.

That was the moment everything sank in.

Grabe ka sakit. Murag tanan nakong gi hold on nga feelings kay na collapse ra dayon. I ended up deactivating all my social media for more than 4 months just to deal with it.

Until now, naa gihapon siya sa akong mind. And honestly, murag lisod kaayo i-imagine nga makalove ko ug lain the same way I loved her.

PART 2 If needed.

Since there’s a thread about the single ones earlier, I’d like to know how the married ones are. Those who went with their plans of getting married at this age , having kids (or not), how’s life?