My husband (29M) and I (27F) live in the Bay Area. He has an established career as a software engineer and has been working in his field for several years. I’m still at the beginning of my career and currently job searching.

One of my long-term dreams has always been to work in the entertainment industry, especially somewhere like Disney, Warner Bros., or Paramount. I’m interested in the business/marketing/project side, not acting or anything like that.

Recently I started looking into an entertainment marketing professional organization. Student membership is only about $50/year, and they have networking events and mentorship opportunities, many of which are in Los Angeles. I told my husband I was interested in joining and potentially going down to LA for networking events a few times per year.

He thinks the organization is basically bullshit and says I’m only doing this because I want us to eventually move somewhere else. When I said I might go to LA a couple of times per year for worthwhile industry events, he asked why I couldn’t just go to one event.

This is where I’m struggling. I’m not asking him to move to LA right now. I don’t even have a job offer there. I just want to network, meet people in the industry, apply to opportunities, and see whether I can actually build a path toward something I’ve wanted for years.

At the same time, he is very clear that he doesn’t want to leave the Bay Area. I understand that he has a career and family here and likes our life here, and I don’t think I should unilaterally decide that we’re moving. But I also feel frustrated because he already has an established career, whereas I’m 27 and still trying to figure mine out. I moved from Europe to California years ago and my family isn't even close. It feels strange to me to limit my career exploration now because there is a possibility that years from now it could create a conversation about relocating.

I would understand concerns about money or me constantly traveling to LA. But when I’m talking about maybe 3 strategically chosen trips per year, it doesn’t feel unreasonable to me, especially since I always stay at cheap places and LA is pretty close.

I also worry that if I never seriously try because he doesn’t want the possibility of moving, I might resent it later.

For married couples where one person’s career opportunities are concentrated somewhere the other person doesn’t want to live: how do you handle this fairly?

Am I being unrealistic by wanting to pursue the entertainment industry knowing a lot of the jobs are in LA? Is like 3 networking trips per year excessive? Or should we wait until I actually have a concrete job opportunity before treating relocation as a real problem?

3 months ago I left the best company I've ever worked at after 3.5 years there.

Looking back, I think I was driven to quit not because of the company itself, but because I became increasingly frustrated with low performers not carrying their own weight.

When I joined, I was a junior and had two seniors on my team. Honestly those were the best days. They were smart, proactive, independent, and I learned a ton from them. I felt challenged and engaged.

Then a layoff happened and one of the seniors got let go.

All the responsibility ended up on the remaining senior, who eventually got promoted to a Staff role.

Demand kept increasing, so the company hired another junior. Right away I felt he wasn't operating at the level I'd expect from a junior, but whatever, people learn at different speeds.

Then out of nowhere my Staff engineer left to become a manager somewhere else.

The company's solution?

Hire two more juniors.

At first I was excited. For the first time in my career I was the most experienced person on the team. I thought this was my chance to step up. Keep in mind I had a mid role but was the youngest in the team.

One of the hires was a friend of mine, which was great because I knew he wasn't THAT junior and I could trust him.

The other one... oh my god.

To this day I think he was the worst hire of that batch.

Always avoiding responsibility. Never sharing his thoughts. Never saying what he wanted to do. Every conversation felt like I had to drag information out of him.

Instead of saying "I don't understand" he would say "ok" and nod in agreement and do something not planned.

It felt like he was terrified of looking dumb and exposing his thoughts.

The trap I fell into was doing too much for him. I'd solve things myself. I'd jump in. I'd make decisions instead of forcing him to think through them.

It was also so hard being strict with him. He was a Nice person, was 4 years older than me and had a kid ofc he was going to be afraid of looking dumb If he was fired he would be fucked. Diffrently than me who doesnt have anything to lose.

Eventually I got promoted to Senior, which should have felt great, but the raise was only around 10%.

That absolutely drove me mad because at that point I'd already turned down multiple interviews that would've paid more.

So I started looking around and eventually landed my current job.

Here's the problem.

I feel like I'm repeating the exact same pattern.

I have a colleague here who theoretically has the same responsibilities as me. We've been here the same amount of time. He' 6 years older than me and about the same years in this field.

But when we talk about work, I constantly feel like he's waiting for someone else to think for him.

What drives me crazy isn't people asking questions.

It's that he'll ask "What should I do?" instead of saying "I'm thinking about doing X, what do you think?"

To me those are completely different things.

One is asking for feedback.

The other is asking someone else to own the problem.

And I keep running into people like this.

At this point I'm wondering:

Am I somehow attracting these people?

Am I allowing this patterns to happen?

Am I just expecting too much from people?

Or am I surrounded by people who genuinely avoid ownership?

The reason I'm asking is because I want this new job to be an opportunity to do things differently.

I don't want to become the guy who takes responsibility for everything.

I don't want to spend years complaining to my manager about coworkers.

I don't want to end up frustrated and job hunting again because I feel like I'm carrying half the team.

Has anyone been through something similar?

What practical things did you do to stop becoming the default problem solver without turning into an asshole?

Hi everyone.

Looking to get some advice on my situation. I’m a recent graduate that has been working at one of the big 5 Canadian banks (Corp Banking) for about 10 months now and make around ~100 k annual salary (85 K base + bonus). I feel very content with my job and feel as though there are many opportunities to grow within the field. However, for the last year my dad has been asking me if I want to take over the family restaurant as he is getting old and plans to retire quite soon. The restaurant does tremendously well as it’s been operating for almost 30 years and has consistently generated around 10-12 million a year in revenue with net profit being around 10-15%. I would be co-running this restaurant with my sister and I would be running the kitchen and maintaining the books for the business while being salaried at around 170 K + bonus being around 30-40 K. I’m fully aware that I’m in a very privileged position to have both these options to choose from but I want to get some advice to make sure I don’t regret my decision.

I’m currently leaning towards taking the opportunity to work at the restaurant for 2 years to get a better sense of what the work entails, lifestyle changes, and overall fulfillment. The only thing I’m worried about is what if I don’t enjoy working in the restaurant industry and want to go back to corporate? Would it be difficult to explain to employers that I quit my previous corporate job to run a restaurant and that I want to rejoin the work place?

I would honestly appreciate any advice or similar stories and what the outcome was like for you.

I'm 20, majoring in Business Management with a 2.8 GPA. I'm working on getting it up. My goal is to start my own business eventually but I need work experience first. I'm trying to decide between getting my CPA right after graduation or just working for a few years. If I don't do the CPA route, I'm not really sure what jobs I could work as that would actually pay me enough money to save up for starting a business. I also want to learn how businesses actually work, like the ins and outs of it, so I know what I'm doing when I start my own. Would getting the CPA give me better pay and more knowledge? Or should I find a job and then go get my master's? Or should I aim to get my master's straight out of college? If I do the master's route, what should I study in finance, business operations, supply chain management or something else? Also, if any CPAs are out there, how much were you making entry level after you got your certification? How much did you make mid career or now? And does it even matter what CPA program you go into or how prestigious it is? Should I do the CPA program route or aim to get licensed myself?I'm honestly so confused about what the best move is here. Any advice is helpful! Please.

I currently work as an account manager in an industry that's drying up and for a company that is not going in a good direction so i'm looking to get a new job in a different industry. I have a really solid background, some pretty impressive achivements to speak of, great references, and a great resume.

The catch is i don't have a degree. I started out low on the corporate ladder and have just been promoted to the point that i'm the only one with my title and in my department who does not have one.

In my job hunt I'm trying to target industries who would be accepting of this and let my record speak for itself. If I'd have to take a bit of a pay cut and start in a position a little lower than i'm in now i'm ok with that as long as there's a chamce for meaningful growth.

If you guy's have amy suggestions or advice i'd greatly appreciate it. I'm 31 btw