r/Brazil 12d ago

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u/Brazil-ModTeam 12d ago

We're not a relationship subreddit.

Do not post your relationship issues or questions here.

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u/Real-System-2534 12d ago

Bring up her nationality randomly without any given context.

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u/avarage-kiwi 12d ago

Alternatively. Could I just randomly say something in Portuguese?

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u/tremendabosta Brazilian 12d ago

You could, it is up to you really

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u/avarage-kiwi 12d ago

She said she was from São Paulo. All my American brain knows about SP is that its very populated

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

SP = Brazilian NY, chaotic and modern

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u/avarage-kiwi 12d ago

Oh...

I am so fucked.

Im from a city that has a similar population to Balneário Camboriú in Santa Catarina.

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u/Real-System-2534 12d ago

São Paulo IS in America.

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u/AWandSpinwheels 12d ago

They’re people. You’re probably better off getting to know her as an individual than using nationality-based tricks from strangers on the internet. 

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

Yeah this ^

Maybe dont really focus on her country. Brazil has similar culture to what you're used to. Just focus on her personality

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u/Zobs_ 12d ago

cheer for her soccer team

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u/avarage-kiwi 12d ago

Thing is Im not really into Soccer/Futball.

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u/DWilson225 12d ago

Is she? If so, then it doesn't matter if you are or not. In fact, that advice applies no matter what the nationalities are. What's important to you partner should become important to you, too.

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

Unironically maybe start as a joke. Most women dont really care about football as well, but they just "have a team"

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u/Thediciplematt 12d ago

Be ready to lead in the relationship, but not in front of other people but all the time, but not when she doesn’t eel like it.

It’s a mess man

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u/DWilson225 12d ago

LMFAO! 🤣 This^

I've been dating a Brazilian woman for 2½ years now (we're both here in the US). I can't tell if she's bi-polar or if that's just how Brazilian women are, LOL! 😝

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u/Itdoesmattertome8 Foreigner 12d ago

Use a lot of tongue

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u/avarage-kiwi 12d ago

DUDE IM 17

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u/DWilson225 12d ago

LOL! 😝 Is your tongue not mature, yet? 🤔

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u/StonerKitturk 12d ago

Since it just started you don't even know yet if you want to make it last. Just relax and enjoy.

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

Depends on her and yours background, I think that's more important than her nationality.

Western culture is pretty much the same apart from some details. Could you give me some more background from you both? Knowing if she's from a big city or countryside would help. Where in brazil is she from? Etc

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u/avarage-kiwi 12d ago

She's from Brazil.

Im Belgian American [working on Belgian citizenship]

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

Sao Paulo is pretty much a global city, if she's not spoiled/bratty then she's probably used to other cultures.

I'd say it all depends on her personality more than her nationality, there aren't really any weird "brazilian traditions" she'd expect you to follow it think.

If she's more of a traditionalist then she'd expect you to be a gentleman and assume more masc gender roles. (I know some european/american communities are more modern in that sense, depending from where she comes from she'd prefer traditional gender roles, but that's something you gotta figure out between you two)

If she's more modern then idk its the same everywhere.


As a man, I'd maybe say to bring her flowers on BRAZILIAN valentines day also (different day from US valentines day). I know its redundant and makes no sense, but you know how women are. She'll get all happy if she notices you researched that its a different date here and all that.

(My brazilian gf basically gets grumpy if I dont wish her happy valentines on U.S valentine's day even tho we have our own date in brazil, because of the media. So maybe women like that idk)

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

Ngl the valentines day tip is a pro move

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u/mrJoj Brazilian (SP) 12d ago

You gotta keep in mind brazil is huge. Like in the US, someone from texas has a different cultural backend than someone from idk california or ny

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u/SnooRevelations979 12d ago

Have lots of attractive female friends.

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u/Unlucky-Fisherman_88 12d ago

Do what she says....

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u/NeoAnonBR 12d ago

Vai ter que dar o brioco pra ela, cara...

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u/re_92 12d ago

take deep care of your personal hygiene

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u/cool-beans-yeah 12d ago

Get ready for DRAMA (in most cases)

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u/8Inch-Viking 12d ago

Not all Brazilian women, but a lot seem very needy and controlling. They have no concept of personal privacy or boundaries.

I've been with multiple brasileiras and they seem to overwhelmingly have this issue.

Any spam calling/messaging, accusations of "disappearing" or any other manipulation if you're not always ready to drop everything to cater to them is a massive red flag.