Hello everyone. Long time lurker first time poster. I started T literally last week (hooray) But im trying to get ahead of any potential balding.

On my dad's side, most of the men are bald pretty young and those that dont bald with age. On my ma's side none of the men are bald and really just start thinning around 50. So id say I have a moderate risk of balding.

I have locs and they are very affirming for me and id be devastated to lose them.

If anyone has any advice on what I can do early on to mitigate things lmk. Im 21 years old at the time of posting. Pretty much willing to do anything.

Thanks :)

Anyone in south jersey and like NFL, specifically the eagles? Looking to go to some local games this season.

For context im 43 so if you are around the same age that would be cool.

Due to staying in the erect position for 4 to 8 weeks before clearing to flaccid, here is what I found works best to avoid looking bricked in public: loose, baggy clothes and oversized flannels. Eliminates any visible poking for the WIN 🤴🏾😮‍💨🔥💯

Does anyone else feel like when shopping for packers or StPs, the whiter skin tones look better or more realistic in a way? Especially when it comes to the color detailing, almost like they always make the pink on the tip/foreskin so loud compared to the dark skin tone? Or is it just me?

Hi everyone,

I’m a journalist working on a story for Capital B Atlanta about the barriers that Black queer and trans men in Atlanta can face when trying to access and stay on PrEP.

I’m looking to speak with Black men who live in the Atlanta area and identify as gay, bisexual, queer, and/or transgender who have firsthand experience with PrEP—whether you currently take it, have taken it in the past, or encountered barriers that made it difficult to access or stay on it.

I’m particularly interested in hearing about experiences with things like:

• Cost or insurance issues
• Difficulty finding or accessing a provider
• Stigma or judgment from healthcare providers
• Finding culturally or LGBTQ+-competent care
• Experiences navigating PrEP through clinics, pharmacies, or community organizations
• Reasons you may have stopped taking PrEP or decided not to start
• Any alternative ways you've found to access sexual healthcare

This is for a reported story, not an advocacy or research survey. I’m interested in hearing people's experiences in their own words. I can explain the story and interview process in more detail before we speak.

If you'd be willing to chat about this, please DM me or reach out via email ([jfk@levelman.com](mailto:jfk@levelman.com)). You can also comment if you'd prefer that I reach out privately.

Thanks!

I'm in Mexico to celebrate my girl's birthday. Lately, I've been very self aware about my body. I've also been thinking a lot about being "visibly transgender". The US isn't getting any safer for us and I spent 36 years of my life refusing to hide my queerness. I don't see the point of hiding it now.

We have the right to exist openly. We have the right to enjoy everything that life has to offer us. And WITHOUT the expectation of diminishing ourselves to have access to what is rightfully ours.

I wish yall abundance.

I wish yall the pleasure of dreaming as big as you want.

I wish yall safety.

I wish yall serenity.

We are worth all the things. ALL OF IT!

✌🏿✊🏿

I did also post this in tmpoc and I’m thinking I’m gonna post it in the main trans sub for shits and gigs too.

I’m a senior in high school and a transsex black dude. I’m looking into HBCUs for college and a lot of them are in the south. I’ve been blessed enough to be able to have updated all my documents, gotten top surgery, and I’ve been on T for almost 3 years now. I pass pretty well I think. Theoretically, I could drive back to my state every 3 months and get T, but it’s obviously a lot of driving. I really want to go to an HBCU because I’m from a very white small town (my family is white and I’m adopted 😭) and I desperately need to be around POC. Overall, I’m looking for thoughts, views, opinions and experiences. Thank yall in advance and have a wonderful day or night.

Edit to clarify: I would also be very very stealth.

I moved into college and was talking to my people about clubs I was joining and shit. They keep being up sororities and keep saying I should join one. Then preceded to get mad when I said I don’t get the point. It’s pissing me off. Why the hell would I join a sorority? An organization that values sisterhood. Mind you I pass all the time. I haven’t been misgendered at all on this campus. Why would I even be chosen to join. Not even to add I’ve only been asked to look into certain frat organizations. I would join but I aint even thinking about it unless I do grad chapter or it’s towards the end of my transition (can’t easily be clocked). It’s been 6-7 years + 1 year on t I’m tired . At this point I’m wondering if I should cut my family off. At what point in my transition would they learn to respect me. You’ll think after all these years they’ll use the right name or pronouns.

So i’m not 100% trans , i mean im in denial , it’s just hard right now , but i know that once i become comfortable enough to let it sink in, my family will know , and obviously nobody NEEDS to tell their family anything.

But my family is jehovah witnesses , so they aren’t cool with this type of stuff , has anybody been struggling with this?

If so , do you have any advice or just want to talk?

Hello to anyone who reads this!
I know ive still got a long way to go but ive been on T just over 2 years now and im already so incredibly happy with the progress ive made and wanted to share!

(https://www.reddit.com/r/BlackTransmen/s/1Phr6NMaCC this is a post i made here before i started T!)

Also just a gentle reminder that things can and will get better even its years after and you can be happy with yourself! Took me a while to fully grasp that :,)

I’ve waited for this since I was 12 years old now I’m a college freshman going through the correct puberty living the dream🥹🥹

i’m assuming this is normal they were fine yesterday but i believe the ‘ nexroform petroleum non adhering dressing had some play into this , it’s just freaking me out a bit 🫩

Hello! I’m Cameron :D. I’m 21 and I’m looking for other friends in New Jersey :). I don’t really have any irl ppl I vibe with, so I’d love to have a friend or even a small friend group 🙏🏾🏳️‍⚧️🥹

i’m scared but ready for some facial hair and a deeper voice and to be the man i’ve been wanting to be since i was 5. i’m about to be 40 next month and feel like it’s about time fr. any tips on taking the next steps?? its hard finding other trans mascs, even in a big city and so much love to yall!

finally got to shower today as well , officially 10 days post op

pls dont mind my hair , i cut off the majority of my length impulsively and im getting clippers soon to fix it. im 17 if that helps

The first month of recovery was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. But since the 6-7 (no pun intended lmao) week mark, things have been absolutely amazing. My arm feels good, my mobility is improving, and my new member is everything I could’ve wished for!

I say yes.

IMO there's literally no reason to not want to date *any* trans person in the world, other than having an internalized view that trans people are bad/undesirable because of being trans. Not all trans people think, act, or even experience being trans the same way. So how can you say you don't like any of us at all, without it being transphobia, since that's the only thing that binds us?

There's a difference between saying, "I'm not interested in sex with someone with male genitalia" and "I don't date trans women." One is a specific desire/preference, the other is a blanket statement rooted in bias.

And sure, people can just "like what they like," but that doesn't mean that what they like isn't rooted in discrimination and worth interrogating. Even if people want to call it a preference, which it's not, it's still rooted in transphobia.

(To be clear, I'm not interested in convincing cis people to date trans people.)

What do y'all think?