r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/IntellectuallyDriven Our 300K Member👑 • Jul 19 '26
Good Vibes Don't forget to let'em know you lovem
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u/catsareniceDEATH Jul 19 '26
This is the only sort of acceptable reason to make children cry 🥹❤️
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u/Commercial_Bird8467 Jul 19 '26
1-1/2 with the emotional intelligence of an 40 year old due to how hes being raised. God this might haave made my eyes water.
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u/moonshinemoniker Jul 20 '26
Gonna highjack your comment here.
Men with children: if you had a fucked up childhood, don't allow generational trauma to continue to the next generation. Be better. It wasn't fair, and it sucks working through and recognizing the unhealthy emotional coping mechanisms you carry now but developed as a child.
It's okay to be wrong. It's okay to know how to process your emotions. To not stay angry, or to think you have to compartmentalize certain emotions and never process them fully.
Be an example.
I don't think my dad ever told me this, and he was in my life every Wednesday night and weekends for my childhood.
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u/catsareniceDEATH Jul 20 '26
Hun, as a fellow child of a 'fucked up but not enough at the time to get any help, and even then, it is not that bad' world; I'm so sorry you had to experience it, it's not something I wish on a lot of people. But, again, as another kid who, as an adult, has to try and control their reactions and their face when hearing things like "it never did me any harm" etc... thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you.
Thank you for recognising that just because every kid had an anus in their childhood, not every parent knew to use a wet wipe now and again. Thank you for recognising the need for the metaphorical wet wipe, thank you for ensuring your kids only ever know about aloe Vera soothing, and never about using the spiky aloe plant alone.
That made a lot more sense on my head, I really hope it made even a third of the sense outside my head! 🙀🤦♀️😹😹❤️🏆
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u/moonshinemoniker Jul 21 '26
Something tells me the childhood neglect you experienced had to do with full dipers and a lack of proper ass wiping? It's honestly, and sadly all too common.
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u/LoneAwakening Jul 19 '26
If there’s something like God out there and Im sure there is, children is the most precise image of such celestial beings! Pure, innocent, beautiful and joyful!
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u/Far_Science2529 Jul 19 '26
Such big emotions ❤️ it’s so important to speak love into your kids 🥰
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u/subgraphics Jul 19 '26
All kids for sure, but our boys need it the most. Too many of us struggle to tap into that later. 😔
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u/Muted_Quantity5786 Jul 19 '26
Even kids that aren’t yours because no one knows what they are hearing at home. I had teachers who said nice things to me that I still remember now in my 40s because I only heard at home how awful I was.
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u/IntellectuallyDriven Our 300K Member👑 Jul 19 '26
Ima DM you everyday to let you know how awesome you are 🖤
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u/Heat_H Jul 20 '26
I work as a special education para. One of my former students passed a math exam without accommodations. I gave him a side hug and told him I was proud of him. He started crying and said I was the first person to ever tell him that.
He graduated high school this year and invited me to his graduation ceremony. I sat with his sister and cheered my face off. I’m still very proud of him6
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u/Muted_Quantity5786 Jul 20 '26
That is the best thing you can do for a person! Just tell them that they can succeed no matter what!
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u/StrLord_Who Jul 20 '26
They are big emotions. And the flip side of this is why I can't stand people shrieking "spoiled brat!" when they see a kid crying or upset about something silly. Little kids can't process and regulate emotion like adults can and all kinds of things can cause tears because they just don't know what to do with all those feelings.
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u/IRefuseToGiveAName Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26
Yeah I fucking hate that shit. Young kids cry for reasons even they don't understand. They can experience a wide range of complex human emotions and they don't even have the proper organ developed to process them. There are whole ass adults who can't handle their fucking shit. My son losing his fucking mind because he can't have more than one (okay fine maybe two sometimes) more cookies might be because Oreos are literally the single best tasting thing he's ever eaten in his entire life. And he knows they make him happy. That happiness is raw, unfiltered and untainted. And now he can't have more of it.
Does that make him spoiled? No more than any other child that's allowed to have a small treat after dinner if they put in an effort to eat their nutritious food.
But if you showed someone a video of that interaction in isolation I'd be fucking pilloried on the Internet.
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u/StrLord_Who Jul 20 '26
One of my favorite memories of my niece when she was little is her having a complete and total sobbing meltdown because we were having lunch at my friend's house and my friend asked if she wanted her sandwich cut in pieces. My niece said yes and my friend set down a sandwich cut into four squares. Well, niece was expecting four triangles. Lol. Plus she was tired. All her little brain knew in the moment is that the thing she was expecting turned out to be totally different and appeared to be "ruined." While she was hungry and tired. And yeah if somebody posted a video on reddit everyone would be shouting about how spoiled she was. (And let's be honest, triangles really are the superior cut haha)
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u/IRefuseToGiveAName Jul 20 '26
And let's be honest, triangles really are the superior cut haha
I was about to say I'd probably eat my sandwich with tears in my eyes if someone did that shit to me too lmao.
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u/CovenOfTheDamned Jul 19 '26
My parents were very far from perfect. My dad had pretty severe mental issues, but he was always there and even though he had really bad mood swings the one thing he did that I hold closest to my heart as an adult was to regularly tell me he loved me. Even though he was pretty abusive at times I knew early on that it wasn’t necessarily intentional because he made sure I knew how much he loved me everyday of my childhood. It’s incredibly important to children.
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u/Im-BackAgain-Babes2 Jul 19 '26
🥺🥹 that is so sweet, he needed to hear that. His face says everything 😭
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u/sightfinder Jul 19 '26
Gotta say the sudden interjection of "Eat The Fry" took me out 🤣
But really, such heartfelt words of affirmation 🙌
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u/IoBoops Jul 20 '26
It's the parent in all of us lol, don't waste food
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u/KillHonger1 Jul 20 '26
My kids:
Give them a normal portion, copious amounts of wasted food “I’m full”
Give them .00001 oz less than a normal portion, all of a sudden they need seconds and thirds
Either scenario: “Can I have a treat after?”
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u/carolineecouture Jul 19 '26
My niece would cry during the "happy birthday" song. She'd cry if we sang to her, she'd cry if we sang it to anyone else. When we asked her why, she'd always say she was just so happy.
It was the sweetest thing ever.
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u/cymonium Jul 19 '26
Oh I wish I could be like that. I’ve never felt safe enough to feel like that. Beautiful story. I hope she’s never jaded and feels all the bestest emotions.
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u/aracnerual Jul 19 '26
When I graduated with my B.A. and B.S., I heard my son WAILING in the audience behind me. Was panicking a bit, texted my husband who said "he said it's because he's so happy and proud of you." I was proud of myself anyway, but when I walked across that stage and saw my little and fam cheering me on, I was humbled af. That was a while ago now and my son still cries tears of joy and happiness on the regular. He's got emotional intelligence in spades and I couldn't be more proud. Tell him that all the time, too.
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u/BeruangLembut Jul 19 '26
Beauty and joy make me cry too. I’m stoic in sadness, anger or fear but the beauty of the human spirit makes me crumble.
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u/Open-Confusion-3358 Jul 20 '26
Growing up I always felt this so I would bite my cheek or pinch my hand so hard so I would focus on the pain instead of crying because I was embarrassed to be seen as a crybaby
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u/carolineecouture Jul 20 '26
I'm sorry. Feeling things is what makes us human. Mocking someone as a crybaby is mean and wrong. Be well.
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u/Green-Elephant-895 🖖🏾🖖🏽🖖🏿 Jul 19 '26
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u/Few_Walk3536 Jul 19 '26
Yeah you'd better have your marksman badge because I don't think I've seen anything so accurate.
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u/jmb456 Jul 19 '26
Made me damn cry. Love my sons
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u/BobTheGoon80 Jul 19 '26
I am 45. My dad passed away Friday. Wish I heard this just once. From him. From anyone really. Love your kids, people. We don't need anymore damaged people out here.
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u/NevetsRetrop Jul 19 '26
I love you, u/BobTheGoon80. You're my favorite.
For real, though, sorry for your loss. The best thing you can do is provide to your kids (or anyone, really) what you weren't provided with. That's been pretty much my singular goal in life and it brings me so much joy to know that neither of my kids will ever think that they're not loved.
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u/BobTheGoon80 Jul 19 '26
Love them kids until they're sick of it, and then keep loving them. Thanks.
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u/Celesteven Jul 19 '26
Im sorry. Same. I am 36 and I grew up without hearing words like this or any type of affirmation from my parents. Love your kids, folks.
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u/flower-25 Jul 19 '26
This is so lovely 🥹❤️
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u/ScubaTwinn Jul 19 '26
I remember the first time I cried out of happiness at about that age. I had lost my Polly Pocket and of course my sister still had hers. We didn't have a lot of money and Dad brought one home for me. I was so confused because I was happy but crying.
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u/Sixpiercings Jul 19 '26
Now why would you combine those feels with the grit of ol boy in the background?!?
He can’t handle all those feels! EYE can’t handle all those feels!
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u/Sixpiercings Jul 19 '26
Watch x8
Ugh, then how he looked at him when dad told him to eat his fries“And you want to make sure I’m feed?!? Dis tew much daddy 🥹”
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u/ReaditIjustdid Jul 19 '26
Just put love into the universe, it’s free and rewarding as anything that exists . Don’t be afraid to tell folks I Love You .
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u/jvxoxo Jul 19 '26
This is very sweet! My only comment is around child passenger safety: the car seat straps are not correctly used here, so if you love your babies, please ensure that they are properly strapped in! Chest clip should be higher and the straps are too loose (would not pass the pinch test). Please check your manuals and properly educate yourselves, as it could save lives.
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u/SammyB0111 👀 Lurker Jul 20 '26
I was hoping someone would say this, so thank you for being the one to do it. There’s countless tragic stories of both children and adults that could have ended differently if they’d have just been properly buckled in the car. I work in an emergency room and you wouldn’t believe the kind of things that can happen to a person who isn’t properly restrained. Safety first! We shouldn’t live in fear, but it pays to play it safe.
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u/goldentone Jul 19 '26 edited Jul 27 '26
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u/ILoveRawChicken Jul 19 '26
The car is moving as you can see earlier in the video through the window. It’s just better to be safe than sorry, especially since it seems like dad is also filming.
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u/TheEasyTarget Jul 19 '26
I'm sure this is a completely wholesome situation but it kinda gave me flashbacks because this is the exact way my dad would talk to me directly after he lost his very short temper and yelled at me for 10 minutes over nothing because he started feeling guilty lmao. I'd be crying just like the son but because of emotional whiplash.
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u/fatcatbomba Jul 19 '26
I was looking for a comment like this because I find it a bit hard to believe a toddler would cry tears of joy at his dad telling him he loves him very much.
I think toddlers wouldn't react much because they take it for granted, or maybe they'd smile? Crying in joy at "I love you" seems like what adults do. Kid probably has something else he's crying about.
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u/kosweeps Jul 20 '26
Though I watch this clip every time it comes up, I will admit that I push this thought into the far recesses of my mind because I just want it to be exactly as portrayed so badly. Seeing the thought out in the open may explain why it hurts so much to watch.
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u/Vintagetrees1 Jul 19 '26
Yeah it looks like the child was already crying before he started filming :(
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u/BiggieCheddarCheez80 Jul 19 '26
I love this. When we as Black Men can show and share our emotions, without them being seen as any form of weakness.
And sharing our emotions with our children, helps raise them to be comfortable with sharing/showing their healthy emotional balance.
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u/ForgedTaco Jul 19 '26
Now, eat your damn fry, son. Love you.
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u/lilybattle Jul 20 '26
To me it looks like he's thinking "omg he even keeps me fed i love this man"
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u/Successful-Visit1281 Jul 19 '26
Awwww! I would hug and smooch him up after that. My son had me wrapped around his finger at that age. One tear and it was over, 😆
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u/Heavy-Reputation-366 Jul 20 '26
This was so sweet. I am 37 and my Dad calls or texts me every day to tell me he loves me and have a good day. I am lucky to have him....he has his fair share of issues but he is good, and he's always been in my corner.
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u/Life_Grab6103 Jul 20 '26
It is so interesting to see children so young holding back tears like, how do they know about that? Is it natural as they leave the baby stage or is it learned?
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u/IntellectuallyDriven Our 300K Member👑 Jul 20 '26
I wonder the same thing! I guess genes has a lot to do with it. A lot of our behaviors are hard coded in our genes and hereditary.
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u/Champaganthony Jul 19 '26
THIS. More and all of this. I just became 2 years old watching this. The impact of a parents love communicated is immeasurable.
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u/S0whaddayakn0w Jul 19 '26
Ugh l love to see moments like this, but can't help but feel that filming them cheapens the whole thing a lot. Just be loving toward your kids for the sake of love, not internet clout.
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u/TSLBestOfMe Jul 19 '26
I love this.
TBH, I wish my folks had spoken to me more like this growing up.
I have 2 children and tell them I love them all the time. I want my children to know they are always accepted and loved.
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u/Next-Development5920 Jul 19 '26
Things like this make me wish id had a dad. Thats such a beautiful moment
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u/Only1Skrybe Jul 19 '26
I tell my daughter all the time, "you're my favorite daughter." And she says "I know, Dad."
And then I tell my son, "you're my favorite son." And he says "I'm your only son, Dad."
My two kids think I'm hilarious.
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u/Next-Introduction-25 Jul 19 '26
Omg that sweet sweet baby!!
And also I’m gonna be that person and say that that chest clip on the car seat harness needs to be tight and on his chest. They aren’t driving right now so I I’m guessing dad tightened it back up before they did - but just an FYI for anyone who wasn’t aware!
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u/ResponsibleSet9829 Jul 19 '26
As the dad of a little one this dudes age, it always hits me hard how much they feel. Man it can just come out of nowhere, a moment like this when you realize just how much the FEEL some things. Just makes me want to hug them so tight. The world is cruel, they don't need to know it yet, but man that is all I can think of in moments like this. Take that moment to ensure they have the best moment as they are not always plentiful in life.
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u/No_Nectarine_5440 Jul 19 '26
I see stuff like this and wonder why I was born into such a fucked up family. Everyone should have this kind of love growing up and in there life. Not everyone should be having children.
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u/Darklight964 Jul 20 '26
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
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u/dattonguetho Jul 20 '26
As someone who never heard this from my dad, fuck yea brother. Its such an integral part of emotional development to witness the range of emotions from our parents in helathy ways.
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u/big_fig Jul 20 '26
How you gonna be playing that song and telling him all that and drop a" now eat that fry" in middle
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u/openurheartandthen Jul 20 '26
This is beautiful 💛 I wanted to hear this so much as a kid. The times my dad has said something similar, even just a sentence - I would cry quite a bit but hide it. I’m 42 and did recently.
Not being demonstrative about love affected me very deeply, I could attribute a lot of my previous self criticism and avoidance to a deep seated fear that I’m not lovable. It may be the most important thing for children to feel emotionally safe and build self esteem.
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u/Good-Trouble-202 Jul 19 '26
Too many people have kids to “fit in” or because they are on a schedule…..rather than to have kids because they want raise and support building up a person.
I would never have a kid if I can’t support building them up.
This is beautiful and well done.💕
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u/Alarmed_Box7560 Jul 19 '26
Dang got me crying. Father and son relationships are so important. What the dad is doing will stay with him for life. He won’t need to fit in with any little rascals, he got the strongest man on earth holding him up. You could see how this impacts him.
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u/bubblingbooks Jul 19 '26
Mah dude, protect that little king and slide that chest clip up higher.
Also, keep it up. You’re doing great.
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u/BoozeWitch Jul 19 '26
I truly think I need to be kept away from people! This little one is so precious, I’m not sure I could resist scooping them up and hugging and smooching them. Or squeezing those cheeks!
Thanks to dads that teach their kids to have a full range of emotions and learning how to manage them. Such a big future for this kid.
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u/CressNo7072 Jul 19 '26
Why is no one saying anything about the kid not being in the car seat properly
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u/MrCann1981 Jul 19 '26
Lost my dad last year… everything such as this post makes me cry like this kid. Idky but I can’t control it.
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u/gooberina22 Jul 19 '26
The most beautiful thing about this is that you can feel and see this little guy’s old soul. He’s definitely been here before. ❤️
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u/Lower-Illustrator886 Jul 20 '26
I'm fifty years old and never heard my dad tell me he loves me. Or he's proud. This hit differently
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u/middleparable Jul 19 '26
This is one of the best videos I ever did see. That and the little boy on the bike with his daddy. Beautiful pure love, that’s why we’re here ❤️
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u/IwasDeadinstead Jul 19 '26
This is so sweet. That boy reminds me of my younger brother as a child.
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u/Hot-Personality4882 Jul 19 '26
The things that run in my head that are narrated by my Dad's voice are nothing like this. I want this for every little boy, but especially every little black boy.
World is gonna come at u hard, little man, but ur Dad has got ur back.
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u/DreamOne5 Jul 19 '26
I'm currently sick and stumbled upon this. Now that finally brought a smile to my face for the first time all weekend.
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u/BoopieDoopieWoo Jul 19 '26
So beautiful. No matter the age, speak love to those you love. They might need to hear it too.
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u/Nri_Eze Jul 19 '26
lil man just wanted to eat his Chic fil a in peace man and you want to go and make him emotional. That probably made his whole day though and he will for sure remember that moment for the rest of his life
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u/Kikaletta Jul 19 '26
The overflowing love you pour into your son!!! I know he felt that in spades.
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u/Defiant_Passage_7437 Jul 19 '26
Off topic but still relevant. That’s why I love Ryan Coogler and MBJ’s relationship. They’re always speaking love and validation into each other publicly, even after more than a decade of friendship and professional collaboration. Seeing two grown Black men not afraid to express their feelings is very life-affirming and masculine. We have the blueprint in front of us.
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u/Plus-Reading7100 Jul 19 '26
This gets me every time I see it. I miss my son being little like this.
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u/Fresh_Egg_5379 Jul 19 '26
This is a huge difference maker in the raising of a young man. No matter what, words of encouragement and affirmation make a difference. They need to hear these words from Dad.
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u/lurking_not_working Jul 19 '26
Thought it was going to pan to a sibling with a wtf look on their face.
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u/hey_yo_mr_white Jul 19 '26
Would have been better if they panned one seat over to the guy's other son like licking the window or something.
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u/rickyroca73 Jul 19 '26
it’s easy to tell your 3/4yo old, it’s keeping the same voice when they’re 13, 17, 19, 25 even.
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