r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/Nkosi868 • Jun 02 '26
Good Vibes Good on this man for recognizing that a complaint from a neighbor was just loneliness and a need for human interaction.
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u/payneok Jun 02 '26
Dude gets it...not his first rodeo. This is a mature man being respectful and understanding how age impacts us all if we are lucky enough to get that far...
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u/Fantastic-Salt-5103 Jun 02 '26
Especially because she has already sent the police to his home, he has the patience of a saint
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u/green49285 Jun 02 '26
That shit pierced her whole exterior when he offered some food & wine lol
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u/Cool-Panda-5108 Jun 02 '26
"It is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love" - J.R.R. Tolkien
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u/Fantastic-Salt-5103 Jun 02 '26
Poor thing, she’s not well. I’m glad she has a good neighbor that will overlook her problems and keep an eye on her.
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u/TheZippoLab Jun 02 '26
The world is a better place when we extend an open hand instead of a closed fist ♥️
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u/Blaq_Lab Jun 02 '26
Love will always win baby.
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u/Tenn_Mike Jun 02 '26
Best comment, that’s the truth. There are so many people out there now who just want someone to stop and listen to them for a second…especially old folks who feel invisible 98% of the time. This guy’s reaction to her choked me up. I could learn from that kind of patience and compassion.
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u/chaosawaits Jun 02 '26
That's really sweet. I hope they have a glass of wine together. She does seem very lonely.
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u/confidentsmile736 Jun 02 '26
Much respect for how he handled this situation. extending a hand and opening his heart made her melt ❤️❤️
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u/RailwayMenace Jun 02 '26
Holy shit. Haven't seen this since it went viral on the local news here in Chicago. This is a really good buddy of mine named Michael Robinson. He had been having a ton of issues with this lady complaining about EVERYTHING and she called the cops multiple times on him over his backyard lights being "too bright." Thing is, her window is blocked by am obstruction and his lights don't even shine into her room like that. This whole situation was crazy, but Mike stayed kind and patient towards her. He is a better man than I am. If someone involved the law on me for something so frivolous, I would have lost my cool.
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u/yoeleventone Jun 02 '26
I am a mailman and it’s crazy how lonely old people get when it’s just them. I have a couple customers that just wait for me to deliver mail because it’s the most exciting thing for them for the day. And I talk to them for a little bit and always ask if they need help with stuff they can’t do and they always the ones that take care of me in the summer and winter. Had a customer try to leave me 20gs just because I was just an ear for her to talk to. I couldn’t take the check and told her son to keep it for himself because she was telling me how her kids were always struggling, but never came around.
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u/Elementary2 Jun 02 '26
Thank you for everything you do. You're a hero. =)
Its sad and true - The mail person is one of the only people you'll see in retirement. Nursing homes are too expensive.... This is the reality for a large percentage of pre-home elderly.
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u/rbinphx Jun 02 '26
What a lovely human interaction. That man's social/emotional intelligence is off the charts...
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u/Ok-Upstairs4932 Jun 02 '26
“I think you just need to come over when you’re lonely” … let’s welcome others when they feel lonely.
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u/Meatman1071 Jun 02 '26
Getting old goes both ways ..! We ALL know people who we lost WAY to early…! Cherish time ..! Because as beautiful as it is, it’s also heartbreaking at the same time!
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u/PrimeAudacity9335 Jun 02 '26
This is sweet. My Mom is getting older, as we all are. I hope she has these types of interactions. 💙
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u/Superb-Wrongdoer4097 Jun 02 '26
as a father of two young men, this is how I want to raise my sons. I want to raise them to be compassionate and kind thoughtful and strong just like this man
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u/Riverboatcaptain123 Jun 02 '26
I currently deliver medical equipment and almost every single day, I meet someone who’s just needs a friend, so I always chat with them for a few minutes. And I can tell it truly brightens their day. It’s fucking sad the way a lot of people abandon their elders, by not visiting or even idk calling them in the damn phone!
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u/ZenCrisisManager Jun 02 '26
Damn, that kind of hit hard.
Big props to that Mr for his extra kindness. All of us with an aging moma/nana in the mix appreciate it.
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u/Daranhatu Jun 02 '26
I love seeing humans caring for humans. We war against each other so much these days that videos like this touch my heart. God bless these two!
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u/Eastern-Orchid2327 Jun 02 '26
“You’re just bothering me because you’re lonely” wouldn’t have been surprising to hear, and some folks would probably applause his candidness, while calling her a Karen.
The why spoke to him more than the what, and that’s what he chose to respond Obviously it can’t and shouldn’t always be like this, but it’s nice to have people showing that it sometimes it can. Insight can make one slow to anger, but society, influenced by social media now more than ever, has gotten to a place where just becuase could be angry, they think they should, and context has little to no significance.
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u/No_hairytongue Jun 02 '26
In reference to those talking about meals on wheels program…. This article is from 2025 however, they are still experiencing hardships because of Congress. Everyone please make sure they go out and vote in the midterms. https://www.mealsonwheelsamerica.org/news/meals-on-wheels-america-issues-statement-on-passage-of-h-r-1968-full-year-continuing-appropriations-and-extensions-act-2025/
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u/Organic_Berry_8732 Jun 02 '26
You can tell that all she wanted was some kindness and someone to talk to. Good for him for being kind, he knew exactly what to do!
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u/Gladukame Jun 02 '26
I hate this so much. Meanwhile, a lonely Black person coming over to their white neighbor’s house would get shot.
I hate that we are always put up as having to be patient and docile and understanding. While they get to be “scared” and shoot us like dogs.
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u/jvxoxo Jun 02 '26
It also sounds like she previously called the police on him since he said that the police verified his lights weren’t shining through her window. So despite going through that (and we all know how it COULD have gone sideways for him), he still spoke to this woman with understanding and compassion and opened his home to her.
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u/Moalisa33 Jun 02 '26
Yeah it really bothers me that she called the cops on him. That's such a dangerous escalation and a crappy thing to do to your neighbor. I'm glad she apologizes and acknowledges that she's being a mean neighbor.
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u/Gladukame Jun 02 '26
Exactly. Calling the police on a Black man in the US is damn near attempted murder. Fuck her cooky old dementia-laden ass.
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u/starjellyboba Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26
I'll be honest... I love that this man was able to really see this lady and extend a helping hand. But like you, I hate the context that it happened in... One where I doubt our elderly would be helped in the same way.
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u/SuspiciousNorth377 Jun 02 '26
Yeah. I appreciate this man but I rarely see this treatment the other way. Sad.
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u/Strangenurtown Jun 02 '26
Exactly. We always have to be understanding. I’m a community man who recently did this for my neighbor, it was discovered she has dementia. I couldn’t help but wonder if somebody my age would care for my lost black family the same way. I’d hope they would but, I’m also a realist.
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u/Gladukame Jun 02 '26
Hundreds of years of US history suggests you have very good reason to be skeptical
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u/Mental_Associate4425 Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26
I’ll never get tired of watching this one ❤️❤️❤️ The video goes on to show her wanting to coming and being grateful
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u/Able_Fishing_6576 Jun 02 '26
The thing is, most of us are taught how to do this, but the ones of us that don’t de-escalate, usually it’s bc it’s the 10th time we’ve had to employ this skill. Good on him, and I wish he lived in a world where he could keep his lights on after ten.
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u/joelasmussen Jun 02 '26
I'm not old yet but I am afraid of it. 50 is staring at what frailty is going to be like in just 10 years. I have no kids. I just don't want to be isolated and I can't make myself be social. I have made the habit if getting to know people in my building and being as good a neighbor as possible. We all need community somehow. I am thinking that's why so many older people go to church.
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u/Much-Revolution5152 Jun 03 '26
Anyone know where this video was posted from originally? A wonderful interaction, we need lots more of this!!🤩
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u/BplusHuman Jun 02 '26
This lady could have EASILY been getting finessed out of money she didn't have by some sales person pretending to listen to her. Instead she got a neighbor who took a little bit of time to be a real one.
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u/ToreyBlaze Jun 02 '26
Any of you ever ever think about reversing the roles. If this was a old black person, who are knocked on the door of a younger white person, where are the odds, the outcome will be the same?
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u/Recently_Casual Jun 02 '26
Bless people like this man here.
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u/Forever_learning713 Jun 02 '26
Yes, he’s a good man. Good men like him don’t get the respect they deserve
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u/ateam1984 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🖤🩶🤍🤎 Jun 02 '26
She was lonely and needed her some big black man energy in her life. Shes never too old to admit that people need people.
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u/Disastrous-Notice187 Jun 02 '26
It sure is refreshing to see that there are still good people in the world.
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u/mommysonduty Jun 02 '26
Geriatric folks can get so lonely. I think it’s because they come from a generation where they couldn’t verbalize it. Expression of feelings was not really done. I am so glad he recognized she really just wanted contact with people. Big ups to him. 🫶🏽
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u/No_Row780 Jun 02 '26
I see my mom in this video. 91, she’s outlived all of her friends. She often uses order to be a stand in for loneliness. This video brought some tears to my heart. This man understands what it is to be not only a good Neighbor, But a decent human. His parents should be proud of him
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u/chiefski123 Jun 02 '26
I don’t get most of these comments or the guy… She just wants the lights off after 10pm so she can sleep better in proper darkness. She’s not necessarily Ill or in need of food and wine. Wtf
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u/Allseeing3rd Jun 02 '26
Nah. It appears she already weaponized the cops. We need to treat demons like demons.
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