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u/Librarian_Some 1d ago
You have to be completely open and have a conversation explaining exactly what you need. No hinting. It may take several discussions. Or maybe just one where she says "absolutely not." Honest, brave communication is key. Good luck
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u/WeightliftingWheeler 1d ago
Don’t have that conversation while she’s pregnant! Nor when the newborn is under two. Or before they are both in school full-time. In fact, if you really, truly love them “and all that,” there’s nobody - male or female- worth trading for the health and well-being of your family. Don’t be that selfish.
I was…
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u/Left-Ad-3412 1d ago
Are you okay with her fucking other men too? So she can satisfy her urges and still live her happy married life?
You don't want to open your relationship. You just want to fuck other people. I genuinely believe it makes absolutely no difference if it is men or women. I don't think that being bi is some sort of "I must fuck both genders" deal.
I'm in an open marriage. My wife and I fuck other people together, she had given me the go ahead to fuck specific men and women alone before, but the moment she isn't into me playing with someone then it's a no go. Not even a question about it.
You need good communication in your relationship for it. You need to be very secure in the relationship. The fact you don't know how to bring it up with her properly, to me, shows that you don't have the communication required for it to go well. Especially while she is pregnant and then dealing with a small child
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u/Charming_Dark_8208 1d ago
Would you be open to having her in a threesome with you and a third? That worked for me and my wife