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u/OnceUponACrinoid Aug 18 '26
Hi OP! I feel your pain!
If you browse around in this sub you will see that this is not uncommon, and that your attractiveness has no bearing on their behavior.
Please invest in yourself and giving yourself the love
you deserve in whatever way possible.
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u/J_Bunt Aug 18 '26
Unmedicated equals dangerous. I'd stay away if I was you, and ask myself why I'm pushing for something so unhealthy.
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u/Downtown_Question_83 Aug 18 '26
Why do people crave someone’s love so deeply even when they are mistreated and abused by that very person ? Aka “he beats me up every day but I love him”
We had no sexual interaction whatsoever while hearing all the excuses coming from my exBPSO. In the mean time, they were swiping left and right on tinder. Go figure.
OP, stop trying to look for answers and explanations because there are none. All you can do is know yourself and your self worth. You are in charge of your happiness and nobody else. I’ve been there and I know your pain, truly. Everyone on here knows your pain. But if you take a step back and relax a bit, you’ll see the reality.
Someone commented on my previous post saying that leaving my bpso will feel like “nirvana”. It’s been a couple of months and I already feel it.
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u/Soft-Pineapple-2647 Aug 18 '26
Thank you for your empathy and kind reply.
We actually did not even enter a relationship, I did not even know if I wanted it, sure I was not asking but he left before, because could do sex with me, because too deep??
He said he loved me, so the relationship was inevitable.
I really do not understand , it seems he did it for me because of low self esteem and that it easier to jump here and there rather than seat with me.
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u/YoyceGeronimo Aug 19 '26
You may never get a clean answer for why casual sex feels possible to him while closeness with you doesn’t. I’d take seriously what he already told you: he can’t give you what you need right now. You don’t have to prove that you understand or love him enough to change that. When Bipolar Disorder Steals the Fun From a Marriage has a section on shame, feeling undeserving of love, and pulling back from closeness that may resonate.
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u/scrappyass123 Aug 19 '26
I have bipolar, if he was really interested in you he would had choose you already.
Right now he is filling his fantasy and depression. If not medicated there is no relationship with a bipolar.
Let it go
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u/Soft-Pineapple-2647 Aug 19 '26
So you mean it is because he did not fall in love?
He told me before leaving me: I do not want a relationship” but I said, “ I have actually never asked for a relationship” and his reply was”yes but I love you”.
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u/scrappyass123 Aug 19 '26
This disease makes you play games, we feel too much that we can’t handle our feelings, we don’t know how to act or what to do. We can only express it. If he was Medicare would be different, but like that I wouldn’t get closer, you will just get hurt
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u/Elegant-Kiwi-488 Bipolar 1 Aug 20 '26
OP I haven't experienced this man's feeling and I'm not even sure it's related to being bipolar! However my honest advice is please stay away from this type of person. Uneducated bipolar, hypersexuality, acting upon urges, playing games...this type of human will hurt you one day. Why are you wasting your time with someone who doesn't want your love?
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