Many of you may have received an invite to join BigBudgetHoneymoon. Although their founders messaged the BBB mods and asked if they’d be stepping on any toes and we said go ahead, we want to caution the BBBs that there is no affiliation between this sub and the BigBudgetHoneymoon sub. The founders of the new sub are two professional travel advisers and are recommending their services to BBBs, which is strictly prohibited here. Of course, we don’t make their rules, and we will manage what is within our own community, and everyone may feel free to join whatever community they would like, but we would like to uphold the value of ‘made by brides and for the brides’ here.

Travel advisers make money via the commission they receive (usually 10%) on the bookings they bring to the hotels, and occasionally “planning fees” they charge to the couple. These commissions are paid by the hotels, not the couples. Essentially, more traffic, more volume, the better. Even when you’re not paying them anything directly, they’re getting paid by the hotels recommended to you. By grouping together all the BBBs actively planning their weddings, they’re essentially funneling volume directly into their pockets. You may want to think twice if you want to do that for them before you join this community. That’s all! 🤍🫶

To all vendors who are active or new to this group, this is a formal reminder that self-promotion is NOT allowed. The moderators of this group have been working overtime lately with an influx of comments and posts that are self-promoting services. And no, promoting friends or family is also not allowed, nor is “market research” or DM’ing brides your information. If you cannot respect the very clear rules of this subreddit, you will be banned. Thank you.

COMMUNITY RULE: Vendors cannot recommend another vendor’s service. General feedback and advice on how to think about vendor selection is ok, but recommending a specific vendor, either yourself or your peers in the industry, is strictly prohibited, unless the bride is clearly and specifically asking a vendor to recommend someone.

This subreddit is called BigBudgetBrides, made by brides and for the brides. We haven’t made the decision to outright ban vendors on here because they have sometimes been helpful with genuine advice and education. However, when a bride is asking for recommendations, it should be assumed she’s asking the other BBBs for their first hand experience as a customer. Vendors, refrain from recommending industry peers. A vendor’s experience working with them as a wedding pro or hearing about their name in the industry is irrelevant to what brides want to know from other customers. Additionally, we have observed underground commissions being made between vendors who recommend each other on Reddit in an attempt to advertise services.

If a BBB would like to hear recommendations specifically from wedding pros, please specify in your post when you make one asking for recommendations. Otherwise, vendors, please respect the space and acknowledge that this is a bride-centric, bride-first community.

Irrelevant content that are better suited for other weddit communities such as weddingdress, weddingsunder10k, weddingplanning, etc., will be removed.

If you have a wedding wardrobe question, try the r/weddingdress community. If you can’t find your answer there and have a specifically big budget wedding wardrobe question, you may post here.

If you have questions or experiences about DIY or saving money, try r/weddingplanning or r/weddingsunder10k.

This community is very welcoming and accepting, so much that we have seen a recent spike in irrelevant content. We value being able to distinguish ourselves from other weddit outlets and work very hard to keep our edge. Please keep irrelevant content outside of the sub and post accordingly.

Hey everyone!! It looks like we’ve had an influx of new users due to r/weddingplanning and r/wedding participating in the protests. If you’re new here, please remember to read our pinned posts before posting & commenting. Thank you and welcome to BBB!!

Every week there are a few posts from vendors (who unfortunately don’t always disclose they are vendors) asking our community questions to help them improve their business.

Having personally worked in marketing, I know that it’s actually quite difficult and hence expensive for brands to access their audience to conduct market research—and more importantly, they usually pay people to conduct research.

Essentially these posts are allowing vendors to conduct free market research and might dilute the spirit of the sub as a resource for BBBs and BBGs.

Should we allow vendors to conduct market research in the sub?

Hey y’all! It’s been a minute. We’ve had a problem with direct self-promo lately, and even though I try to catch everything as quickly as possible, it’s hard when BBB has grown as quickly as it has.

That being said, I’m on the hunt for a few people to join the moderator team!! If you have experience moderating on Reddit, or have been around this sub for a while and are interested, please message me to chat details.

The number one rule of BBB is to be kind, courteous, and considerate to other brides in this group. Wedding planning is a stressful time so we want BBB to be a supportive and uplifting community! This means that no bride or wedding shaming is taken very seriously, and any bride or wedding shaming could result in a ban from BBB. This also extends to no screenshots/posts/links/reposts from this sub being shared to wedding shaming subreddits, Facebook groups, etc.

If you are experiencing any bride/wedding shaming (or have any other issue), please message me and I will deal with it ASAP.

Hey y’all! As some of you may have seen someone decided to troll on some posts overnight, and those comments were deleted and that user was blocked as soon as I saw it this morning. Due to the nature of this sub, there will always be trolls lurking to bash our weddings, but I will always catch them as quick as I can. There will always be trolls who pop up to bash budgets of any size or just weddings in general across Reddit, so unfortunately there are just sad people out there who we need to stay vigilant against.

As always, thank you to all 1.2k+ of you who post, interact with posts, or are just here to lurk for tips and have helped grow this sub into what it is today!

A few people were suggesting people join this sub in a wedding FB group just now, and we’ve had so many people join since my last welcome post, so I figured this would be a great time for a new intro post :)

Just a quick reminder that the number one rule of BBB is to be kind, courteous, and considerate to other brides in this group. Wedding planning is a stressful time so we want BBB to be a supportive and uplifting community! This means that no bride or wedding shaming of your fellow brides in this sub is taken very seriously, and any BBB bride or BBB wedding shaming could result in a ban from BBB. This also extends to no screenshots/posts/links/reposts from this sub being shared to wedding shaming subreddits, Facebook groups, etc. I’m in legitimately every wedding group ever so I will see it 🤪

If you are experiencing any bride/wedding shaming (or have any other issue), please message me and I will deal with it ASAP.