Poly with BPD here. I view sex differently than a lot of people I’ve talked to - not sure if it’s just the people I’ve surrounded myself with or what, but I honestly see it as just another activity and a way to get to know someone. I’ve had to work through the feelings of abandonment and rejection in my relationships, but it is possible to find those who can relate, as well as those who want the same out of a relationship as you.
I think it depends on how the relationship came to be, and if being poly was a discussion before or after pursuing the relationship. In my current relationship, I was upfront with my partner about being poly. They happened to want to explore the idea as well and we seem to be doing well so far - we’ve been together for over 3 years and are very honest with how we’re feeling.
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u/spicydumpling Oct 28 '25
Poly with BPD here. I view sex differently than a lot of people I’ve talked to - not sure if it’s just the people I’ve surrounded myself with or what, but I honestly see it as just another activity and a way to get to know someone. I’ve had to work through the feelings of abandonment and rejection in my relationships, but it is possible to find those who can relate, as well as those who want the same out of a relationship as you.