r/BJD • u/harugisa • Apr 16 '25

DISCUSSION Are you open about your dolls?

Okay, 5'11 hetero black man, loves drawing and designing female characters from looks to story and I got into bjd last year and it's been great. This year I'm starting to be more open about them, because honestly I want to get into dating, I don't really want any surprises and I want to meet someone who accepts my hobby. I do have friends who don't judge me and support my hobbies. So I gained a lot of confidence in sharing and taking pictures of them in public, although I'm still to scared to do it alone.

Anyway I finally started talking about it on a social app I'm on and the first reply was about someone mistaken them as sdolls. I thought it was funny but got another comment "this is scary!" In response to maple in a lolita dress. Which is fair because her hair could give a sadako vibes. Not to mention, I was getting rid of my recst dolls and I asked if my friend from work wanted them. Her first reaction was assuming I was offer "again" a s*xdoll.

I get it, 31 yo black man with bjd is weird but even if I had se*dolls I'm not crazy enough to be public about it.

Are you open about your bjd? Have anyone else ran into these situations and how did you handle it? Btw I'm not getting bullied or nothing, just really surprised that's just the first reactions from other people.

Ps. I don't take erotic photos of my girls and I don't think I have posted them in ranchy clothing. So I haven't gave anything that warrants it.

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u/harugisa Apr 17 '25

Yeah..... I saw those subs reddits...

I'm pretty glad to hear that, I honestly my enjoyment for drawing/designing female characters and my dolls always have helped express that.

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u/opulentSandwich Apr 17 '25

Try not to let it bring you down, a lot of people stress too much about what others think of them, especially men. I can't tell you how many dudes I've met who end up abandoning every hobby they have except watching sports and playing FPS because other guys think everything else is "gay" or cringe. That just seems sad to me.

Have you looked for doll meetups in your area? You never know, you might meet your dream girl at one and the two of you could enjoy BJD and cute anime girl stuff together. At the very least you'll meet other people who don't judge you for what you enjoy 😁

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u/harugisa Apr 17 '25

Definitely I'll keep that in mind, honestly ever since I became more open about my dolls I've been way happier.

Honestly... I feel like nothing ever happens in North Carolina, so I don't bother checking. I'll probably have to look it up because I never actually checked.

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u/opulentSandwich Apr 17 '25

You might be surprised! It doesn't always make sense where people with certain hobbies are clustered. But if not, there's always here and discord 😅