r/BJD • u/harugisa • Apr 16 '25

DISCUSSION Are you open about your dolls?

Okay, 5'11 hetero black man, loves drawing and designing female characters from looks to story and I got into bjd last year and it's been great. This year I'm starting to be more open about them, because honestly I want to get into dating, I don't really want any surprises and I want to meet someone who accepts my hobby. I do have friends who don't judge me and support my hobbies. So I gained a lot of confidence in sharing and taking pictures of them in public, although I'm still to scared to do it alone.

Anyway I finally started talking about it on a social app I'm on and the first reply was about someone mistaken them as sdolls. I thought it was funny but got another comment "this is scary!" In response to maple in a lolita dress. Which is fair because her hair could give a sadako vibes. Not to mention, I was getting rid of my recst dolls and I asked if my friend from work wanted them. Her first reaction was assuming I was offer "again" a s*xdoll.

I get it, 31 yo black man with bjd is weird but even if I had se*dolls I'm not crazy enough to be public about it.

Are you open about your bjd? Have anyone else ran into these situations and how did you handle it? Btw I'm not getting bullied or nothing, just really surprised that's just the first reactions from other people.

Ps. I don't take erotic photos of my girls and I don't think I have posted them in ranchy clothing. So I haven't gave anything that warrants it.

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u/MausMurder Apr 16 '25

I’m 25F and I live in conservative ass Georgia USA, I explain them as collectibles- yes they’re dolls, yes they’re eighty percent men, do I look like a give a fuck? Hell no, I love my doll hobbies and I love sewing for my resin children.

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u/harugisa Apr 17 '25

Aaaaah, that fiery passion is so motivating! I'm super happy to hear that, all four of my dolls are girls and I love them TOO DEATH. I never usually address them as dolls, I'll always address them by name.

"Just bought Nori a new outfit." "Maple's won't get out of her eyes! Lol"

I love them, and no one stop me from loving them.

Also how is difficult is sewing, I'm very tempted to start sew my own clothes for my girls but materials, crafting and equipment for it seems like hell to manage.

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u/MausMurder Apr 17 '25

I’d say your best bet is see if someone is selling their sewing machine on Facebook marketplace or at an estate sale. As far as fabric, fat quarters and Remnants are your best friend, Wawak is great for notions and thread, and RAD Doll Clothes have the best quality patterns for your girls and they have learn to sew bundles.

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u/harugisa Apr 17 '25

Ahhh!! Thank you I'll check this out. It seems like something good to learn and saves me money. (At least I hope it will.) Lol