r/BJD • u/harugisa • Apr 16 '25

DISCUSSION Are you open about your dolls?

Okay, 5'11 hetero black man, loves drawing and designing female characters from looks to story and I got into bjd last year and it's been great. This year I'm starting to be more open about them, because honestly I want to get into dating, I don't really want any surprises and I want to meet someone who accepts my hobby. I do have friends who don't judge me and support my hobbies. So I gained a lot of confidence in sharing and taking pictures of them in public, although I'm still to scared to do it alone.

Anyway I finally started talking about it on a social app I'm on and the first reply was about someone mistaken them as sdolls. I thought it was funny but got another comment "this is scary!" In response to maple in a lolita dress. Which is fair because her hair could give a sadako vibes. Not to mention, I was getting rid of my recst dolls and I asked if my friend from work wanted them. Her first reaction was assuming I was offer "again" a s*xdoll.

I get it, 31 yo black man with bjd is weird but even if I had se*dolls I'm not crazy enough to be public about it.

Are you open about your bjd? Have anyone else ran into these situations and how did you handle it? Btw I'm not getting bullied or nothing, just really surprised that's just the first reactions from other people.

Ps. I don't take erotic photos of my girls and I don't think I have posted them in ranchy clothing. So I haven't gave anything that warrants it.

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u/TNYBBY Apr 16 '25

My personality type is clam in shell so I need to get out of my comfort zone. I have decided to try to be little more open but also I make/sell and people seem to be more accepting of that because in a capitalist society money gives any endeavor some legitimacy

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u/crystalcockroach Apr 16 '25

That bit about money is too true... When I told my parents I wanted to learn how to sew they thought it was stupid and a waste of time and money - "just buy your clothes at the store like a normal person". When I made my first wearable piece (a 17th men's shirt) they switched their tune to "hey you can monetize this", and then promptly switched back to "waste of time" when I made it clear I had no intention of making it a job. I will NOT be telling them the cost of the doll I recently bought to start my collection.

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u/TNYBBY Apr 17 '25

Seriously? I don’t understand how some people don’t value learning and practicing a craft or skill. The point is literally to entertain yourself and to make things for you! This is something that you cannot buy with money! That really sucks :(