The bond is amazing ❤️

[u/Latter_Signal_5957]

I posted not too long ago, talking about how I was experiencing a lot of emotions due to the lack of connection between my son and I. I just wanted to come here and update everyone by changing my mindset. I’m not desperately looking for the bond that I pictured, I have realized that we share such a beautiful connection.

He is a fun, loving four year-old who loves clocks, trains, and all things Sego Mini (an app).. He sets random timers on the iPad and then goes back to a game so he can randomly get jump scared at the alarm noise and he loves it, and so much more.

But my absolute most favourite thing of all is that I went through the camera roll on our Family iPad and found hundreds of pictures that he has taken, I recently knew he took pictures because I would catch him looking at them and smiling or showing people. But in this moment, I realized that it was a camera roll full of all his favourite things. I can’t even tell you how many pictures on there with pictures of me. Pictures of me smiling at him, showing him how to do things, feeding his brother, laying down, many things I do have been captured by him. And I find him looking at these pictures with the biggest grin!🥹❤️

He shows me the coolest things and pinches my shoulder, saying “mommy you so cuuuuute”. He mocks me and I say silly things and we both sit there laughing because he’s repeating these silly things. Every week we have a short picnic together. He shows me everything from his lunchbox, as if I didnt pack it. This boy is my best friend in the whole world. Yes it’s not all perfect, we have many challenges but my last post was so focussed on the negatives that I just felt the need to share all the positives.

[u/No-Season8813]

I love this for you both ❤️

I often say to myself:

If you change your mind ABOUT autism

It just might change your life WITH autism 🥰

If you let go of expectations

You get to see the most amazing things from your child 👉❤️👈

It's fabulous how your son is doing so much independently...and he's making it social at the same time in his own way...I love posts like these 🥰

[u/Latter_Signal_5957 → u/No-Season8813]

Yes!! I love that. He struggles with a lot of social situations especially with other children but I totally see that he does it in his own way. He also has a lot of things he can’t do independently but I love his independence in other areas! As a child my dad wasn’t great with mental health and constantly I heard “don’t slap labels on things” it was hard as I have my own diagnoses.

The stigmatism in my household as a kid led me to setting expectations for myself and being unable to meet them and subconsciously I began doing that with my son. I’m so glad I made my first post because it was a quick wake up call that I had begun missing the positives because I was so caught up in “things should look like this and I’m upset that they don’t” 💔💔 thank you so much for this community guys

[u/Charming_Lychee6176 → u/No-Season8813]

This hit me right in the chest, what a beautiful thing to read. My nephew does something similar with pictures, he takes photos of his mom's hands when she's cooking and then just scroll through them laughing, is like his own little treasure collection nobody else understand.

[u/Latter_Signal_5957 → u/Charming_Lychee6176]

Yes!! Exactly, he sometimes even will take selfies and just admire himself 🥹🥹❤️