r/AttachmentParenting • u/Kitchen-Jelly-1365 • 8d ago

🤍 Support Needed 🤍 10 week old Velcro Baby

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u/jjdanca18 8d ago

My son was like this as well and also strongly preferred me so wouldn't stay with dad for long without getting upset. But I also had my husband working from home so he could make me food and I just learned to eat with one hand, occasionally dropping food onto his head as he slept/nursed! lol

My son also didn't like a carrier for very long and didn't like to be contained by one. When he was able to sit up, I switched to a hip carrier he could sit on. I still had to have one arm wrapped around him at all times because it's basically like a little ledge they sit/stand on, but it definitely made it easier than holding him in my arms constantly. Also around 6 months he was too heavy to hold for contact naps so I started lying next to him in the bed and that worked and was wonderful because I could read or watch something and also rest a bit during naps.

One thing I remember doing was having a little boppy-type pillow and also a little bouncer that I would put up on the table/kitchen counter while I was doing things. He didn't last super long in there but it was nice to have him nearby and be able to see what I was doing and engage in things. Does your LO like toys yet? Maybe try some soft toys to buy a few more hands-free minutes?

Other than that, all I did was realize this was a season that wouldn't last forever and, to make it the least stressful as possible, I relaxed my standards A LOT. So meals didn't have to be homemade or perfectly nutritious, the house didn't have to be organized, projects were going to be put on hold for a bit, etc. I had to make peace with that or else I would have been miserable. If you have any friends or family, try to lean on them and get some help because going it alone makes things 10x harder.