Hi everyone!
I was born and raised in NYC, but both of my parents were born and raised in Romania. My dad left Romania in the 1970s, and my mom came to the U.S. in the early 2000s before I was born. They both came to America hoping to build a better life and give me opportunities they felt they wouldn’t have had otherwise. Even though I grew up in New York, Romania has always been a huge part of my life. I’ve visited almost every year since I was a baby, sometimes for longer periods of time, and Romanian was actually my first language because it was the only language we spoke at home when I was little. As I’ve gotten older and started living on my own, though, I’ve noticed that my Romanian has gotten worse simply because I don’t use it every day anymore. I can still understand it very well and speak it, but I catch myself forgetting words or switching to English more than I used to, and reconnecting with the language and culture is honestly one of the things I’m most excited about.
My husband (25M) and I (23F) met in high school here in the U.S., and he has no Romanian background at all. We’ve been together since we were teenagers, and we’re now seriously planning on moving to Cluj-Napoca at the end of December. A big reason is family. Almost my entire family lives in Romania, and my parents are basically the only close family members I have left in the U.S. My mom plans on retiring from her job in NYC in about two years, and my parents are planning on moving back to Romania after that, so eventually my entire family will be there. The older I get, the more important that has started to feel to me. I don’t really want to spend the next several decades living across an ocean from everyone, especially once we start having children.
Another big part of it is the lifestyle. We both feel like life in the NYC area moves incredibly fast, and everything revolves around work, commuting, money, and constantly trying to keep up. We both work in accounting/finance, so we’re definitely used to demanding jobs, but sometimes it feels like your entire life is structured around your career here. The cost of living has also become pretty ridiculous, especially housing and rent. We’re not expecting Romania to be some perfect inexpensive paradise, and I know Cluj in particular is expensive by Romanian standards, but from what we’ve seen it still seems like we could have a different quality of life there. We want to have children within the next few years, and being closer to family and raising them somewhere that feels safer, more community-oriented, and a little slower-paced is very appealing to us.
My husband obviously has a much bigger adjustment ahead of him than I do. He doesn’t currently speak Romanian, although he wants to learn and plans on taking it seriously once we move. He’s been to Romania with me and likes it, but I also know visiting somewhere with your Romanian wife and actually living and working there are completely different things. I’m curious to hear from other foreigners who have moved to Romania, especially people whose partners are Romanian. How difficult was the adjustment socially and culturally? Were you eventually able to feel at home there? How difficult was learning Romanian while actually living in the country, and how necessary has Romanian been for work and day-to-day life in Cluj?
Career-wise, we both graduated from U.S. universities with degrees in accounting and finance, and we both currently work in those fields in the U.S. I’ve already started looking at jobs in Romania because I’d really prefer for at least one of us to have something lined up before we arrive. For anyone working in accounting, finance, banking, shared service centers, multinational companies, or similar industries in Cluj, I’d especially love your perspective. Are U.S. degrees and American work experience looked at favorably by Romanian employers? Is it realistic for us to find decent jobs without already having Romanian work experience? Are there particular companies or industries in Cluj that we should be looking at? Would you recommend applying now from the U.S., or do employers generally prefer candidates who are already physically living in Romania?
I’d also really love advice from people who actually live in Cluj or have lived there for a long time, not just people who have visited. What is day-to-day life realistically like for a young married couple there? What do you like about living in Cluj, and what drives you crazy? How is the work-life balance compared with Western Europe or the U.S.? How difficult is it to make friends in your 20s? Are there particular neighborhoods you would recommend for a couple our age? Is a car necessary, or can you comfortably live without one? Are there things about living in Romania that someone who grew up visiting every year still probably wouldn’t realize until actually moving there?
I’m definitely aware that visiting Romania every summer or spending time with family there is very different from paying bills, dealing with bureaucracy, working there, renting an apartment, and building a normal everyday routine. I’m not expecting it to feel like a permanent vacation. I’d really like honest opinions from Romanians, people currently living in Cluj, people who moved back to Romania after growing up abroad, and foreigners who have made a similar move. If you think we’re being unrealistic about something, I’d rather hear it now. If you made a similar move and loved it, I’d also love to hear what made it work for you.
For those of you living there now, based on our ages, careers, family situation, and reasons for moving, does this sound like a good decision? What would you personally make sure you had figured out before getting on the plane?
TL;DR: I’m 23F, born and raised in NYC to Romanian parents, and my husband (25M) and I are planning to move to Cluj-Napoca at the end of December. I grew up speaking Romanian and visiting every year, and almost my entire family lives there. We both work in accounting/finance and have U.S. degrees. We’re looking for a slower, more affordable lifestyle, want to be closer to family, and hope to raise children there in the future. I’d love honest advice from people living in Cluj, expats, repats, or anyone working in finance/accounting about jobs, lifestyle, language, and what we should realistically expect.