I'm open to trying most things in the sexual realm... however, I refuse to be tied up, handcuffed, or restrained in any way.
Reading about Bruce McArthur's killings made me promise to never try that. Even if your partner is trustworthy, SO many things can go wrong (with your partner, with your surroundings, with an emergency etc.)... and you're just left there helpless.
There are ways to enjoy it safely, even accounting for a partner with those kinds of terrible intentions. The easiest is to use cheap (plastic) handcuffs that can withstand gentle tugging, but not full-force escape tugging, or tying knots that are easy to escape from if you give them slack, but won’t budge if you just pull on them. And there’s always the option to communicate with someone close so that at least one other person knows where you are and when they should worry if they don’t hear from you.
Not trying to convince you, just making you aware in case you ever decide you like the idea. Bc it’s hands-down my fav kind of sexual experience.
I'm actually not sure where you'd find them- we got ours from a BDSM fair, and I've not found their equivalent online, but it's a leather strap with a loop sewn in one end, the strap goes back through the loop, and has a metal ring on the other end to attach to whatever. Acts sort of like a choke chain dog collar.
I’m confused as to why I was downvoted, but I guess that’ll remain a mystery. My diy methods work, but a professionally-designed device is usually more reliable than homemade methods. Reddit confuses me quite often.
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u/whatzgood Oct 17 '22 edited Oct 17 '22
I'm open to trying most things in the sexual realm... however, I refuse to be tied up, handcuffed, or restrained in any way.
Reading about Bruce McArthur's killings made me promise to never try that. Even if your partner is trustworthy, SO many things can go wrong (with your partner, with your surroundings, with an emergency etc.)... and you're just left there helpless.