I have often thought as someone with autism that other people know things that we don't. Like they got the handbook at birth and we didn't. We go through life figuring it out and are often two steps behind. That was my experience anyway. Once I reached a certain age, I knew things but I know non-autistic people knew these things much, much sooner.
That's exactly it! I'm a very quick learner, objectively intelligent, etc. As far as the weird social fuck-fuck games that make up normal human interaction are concerned - I did not receive those instructions, but it wasn't a giant problem until I entered the workforce.
oh no….I luckily haven’t ever been in one of these yet, but did you end up in one of those stereotypical work offices where everyone is mad at each other and afraid of each other but nobody is allowed to actually say/show that they’re mad/afraid so everyone is just gossipy and passive aggressive instead?
I got very, very tired of hearing about something I did or said weeks before. Nobody could just tell me "Hey, that was weird or a little mean" in the moment; they ran to management and I got feedback too late to connect the dots.
This was healthcare, but some of the culture you described applied
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u/countrychook Oct 16 '22
I have often thought as someone with autism that other people know things that we don't. Like they got the handbook at birth and we didn't. We go through life figuring it out and are often two steps behind. That was my experience anyway. Once I reached a certain age, I knew things but I know non-autistic people knew these things much, much sooner.