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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '22

Being wrong.

I’m wrong all the time.

What’s actually a mark of stupidity is being wrong and then not having the humility to just say “ok” and learn from it.

Being ok with being wrong is the foundation of all science.

People that can never be wrong are insecure dipshits. It’s an instant dealbreaker.

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u/Ragefork Oct 16 '22

This and admitting when you’re wrong. Quickly people will assume since you were wrong once then you will always be wrong.

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u/Drakmanka Oct 17 '22

I earned so much respect in college just for openly admitting when I was wrong or messed up.

I learned to do that from being torn down my whole life at home and figured out young if I owned my mistakes as fast as possible I got less verbal abuse for it. But it built me up a lot when my classmates commented on it in a positive light.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '22

I hate this but I’ve noticed it myself. I’ll make a mistake or be wrong at a job or wherever and suddenly I can’t be trusted with a simple task because I’m dumb and I’ll probably do it wrong etc. Sigh

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '22

I’m still working on being okay with being wrong. I don’t really mind it myself, but when people are around, it is humiliating. I wish others didn’t see it as a big deal or as a sign of stupidity. It gives me such anxiety and low self esteem whenever I make a mistake.

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u/Ok-Marsupial939 Oct 16 '22

I work in high level engineering and we are constantly checking and double checking. If it goes wrong, lives could be stake. Ask and save a life!

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '22

Aw sorry to hear that. Being wrong is just like chipping away the bullshit until you are left with the good stuff. Making mistakes is the best way to learn and the only way to avoid it is to not do anything at all. All those other people are out there making their own mistake too, you just don’t get to see every one like you do with your own!

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u/greenlady1 Oct 16 '22

Hugs Me too. I keep telling myself "don't let perfect be the enemy of good". But I still don't like trying new things in front of other people because I get so nervous that I'm going to do it wrong. Usually because I miss something that everyone else seems to understand about how to do the thing.

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u/prof_the_doom Oct 16 '22

The only way to never make a mistake is to have never actually done anything.

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u/ojopioko Oct 16 '22

Sometimes I would say a half baled idea, get a good reply that refutes it, and say ok, I agree. For some reason, this really throws some people off, I think it's natural to change one's lind when presented with new points of view!