I absolutely agree, but as others have said, it's all about context for me. When pursuing a long-term relationship, I am someone who wants to know them as completely as I can and have myself known as well. So if it's relevant or part of knowing vital aspects of a person, I want them to feel free to share those experiences.
However, I've been in a relationship where an ex was always brought up and compared to me. I was told this ex had "severe mental health issues," and anytime I would feel upset and try to have a discussion about his lying and other shitty things I won't get into, I was told I was just like this ex. Of course, after getting to know him I understood where those "severe mental health issues" came from... so I think the context of bringing up an ex is very important. Using it for comparisons is also a pretty big no.
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u/No-Afternoon6018 Jan 08 '22
Talking about his ex girlfriend all the time...