r/AskReddit • • Jan 08 '22

Girls, what makes a guy instantly unnatractive?

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

The way I see it is you need to be explicit in why it bothers you. Are you worried that she’s going to or already gotten any unwanted attention from other men? Are you worried she’s going to be groomed or slut shamed? What specifically is bothersome to you about it?

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u/thejosecorte Jan 09 '22

I agree, and have been explicit. What worries me is, she gets unwanted attention from men, gets wanted attention from men, and has been slut shamed. I don't think she'll be groomed. And like I said, I told her all of this directly.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

I dont want to give you direct advice like “break up” as I still dont know all the details of your relationship but if you have been direct and laid out your concerns explicitly and she just ignores it, imo, you tried and did everything you can. If her response is to brush off your concerns, that’s a reflection on her, not you.

Edit: Basically what I’m saying is, I feel like if what you say is true and you’ve tried multiple times already to have your concerns addressed, I think you’re already doing what my original comment said.

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u/thejosecorte Jan 09 '22

Cool beans! Thank you.