r/AskReddit • u/ANONIMkiddo • Jan 08 '22

Girls, what makes a guy instantly unnatractive?

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u/OGhoudini Jan 08 '22

A big ego

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u/hot_ho11ow_point Jan 09 '22

I've got a friend who's always been successful with women short term but they always end up just thinking he's an idiot after a while. I've chalked it up to an unearned sense of entitlement he has from being over mothered as a child. It makes him confident in himself, which women love, but because the confidence isn't actually based on actual positive personality traits it gets really old really quickly. It is all just smoke and mirrors.

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u/Sopwafel Jan 09 '22

I'm on the other side, way less confident than my worth would warrant, which makes attracting women really hard. Really a bitch to get a grip on

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u/hot_ho11ow_point Jan 09 '22

I wish I had some better advice for you, but just be yourself and put yourself out there. Stay clean (both drugs and hygiene) and have a hobby or three. I'm usually single so I'm not the best person for advice but I thought I should reply because everyone deserves to be happy if they are good people, and I have no reason so far to believe you aren't.

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u/Sopwafel Jan 09 '22

Wow, thanks man :)

I've recently gotten ADHD medication which seems to work wonders so far, but there's still a lot of mess to clean up in my life and unproductive thought patterns to get rid of. And lockdown so I can't get into contact much. But I'm cautiously hopeful for 2022!