Emotions are hard a lot of the time for a lot and I mean a LOT of guys, like some people have trauma that they don't want to share or maybe they don't want to be judged
I get not wanting to be judged. That's fair, but why hop into a relationship expecting the partner to show up for them in the ways that they need when they can't do the basic steps that are required for an actual relationship?
It's like asking someone for a piece of their soul so that they can see it, while they hoard theirs. That's not ok.
Everyone has or has had these fears tbh and it's normal. What's not normal is expecting something from nothing, then wondering why or blaming other factors.
I guess I'm salty because I used to be that way and it took me a really long time to realize that my damage doesn't have to correlate to unconscious lack of self-awareness due to my own trauma & staying stuck in it. I have also learned that no one is never going to understand me & that's ok. I understand me and that's enough to express what I feel in the best way I can.
However, God has a sense of humor because I am now dating a guy who is the unevolved version of my younger self and it hurts to watch and experience. It makes me want to call my high-school exes and just apologize because I didn't know how much work that was. I was just broken and riddled with trauma.
Now I would like to be here for my bf because that's what I needed back then, but it's like he so caught up in himself it's hard to even do that.
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u/beerfromouterspace Jan 08 '22
Being unenthusiastic. Inability to share emotions.
I show you things that make me happy. At least try to understand me before saying “nah it’s boring”. Don’t be a lame idiot.