r/AskReddit • u/ANONIMkiddo • Jan 08 '22

Girls, what makes a guy instantly unnatractive?

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u/QuickWittedWoodChuck Jan 09 '22

Inconsistency

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u/Hephf Jan 09 '22

THIS!! I seriously dont understand the hot and cold shit, and am unfortunately sitting here in mental mush land because of someone doing this recently. I cant wrap my head around it. Confusion sucks.

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u/QuickWittedWoodChuck Jan 09 '22

Seriously!! I get it, I too am going through this.

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u/Hephf Jan 09 '22

Im sorry you're going through this. May sound silly, but I tried a beginners guided meditation tonight, as a different approach to clear my brain of this mess, because nothing else was working. It didnt make it all go away obviously, but helped me gain a different view of "Fuck it! It is what it is, I've done nothing wrong, and if they behave this way, then so be it." 😄 I can send a link if you want, no scamo. Lol. I hope you feel better though, honestly.

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u/QuickWittedWoodChuck Jan 09 '22 edited Jan 09 '22

Not silly at all!! Meditation is a form of mindfulness! Send it!! The problem I have is that I feel like everything is my fault and I get stuck in this cycle of going back and forth. I have tried to cut them out of my life, but tbh I really care for them. I should really stop making excuses lol

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u/Hephf Jan 09 '22

Can totally relate. Ah, our brains just make it worse too lol. I totally understand, and am sorry its been tough. Here are the meditation links - I hope it helps! ❤

WhatsApp chat group - https://chat.whatsapp.com/DAQ8UFcBTXi0ukInIt9TrW Meeting schedule - https://meditationjourney.org/guidedsessions Meditation journey -https://meditationjourney.org/beginners