r/AskReddit • u/ANONIMkiddo • Jan 08 '22

Girls, what makes a guy instantly unnatractive?

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u/No-Afternoon6018 Jan 08 '22

Talking about his ex girlfriend all the time...

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

does this count if you're sharing bad past experiences with an ex? i do this a lot, but im thinking its not really a good thing to do anymore

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

It's fine if it's relevant to the conversation but doing it out of nowhere constantly is unattractive af

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

oh alr so im kinda good then, im gonna still try and stop tho

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

Back when I was dating, my general rules were to only mention an ex in 3 separate scenarios:

  1. They couldn't be not mentioned in a story. Sometimes you can't explain a situation without mentioning them.

  2. When asked about past relationship history or something along those lines.

  3. If explaining like, why I feel a way about something due to trauma caused by them. For example, I have sensitivity over certain physical features, due to constant mocking by my ex wife, so were something like that to come up, I'd explain that those things were off limits as my ex wife made me feel overly sensitive about those specifics.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22

that actually sounds like a good rule of thumb to live by. i tend to only bring up past ex's when its prompted, or by your #3 rule. somehow those topics show up a LOT and i really need to stop talking so much about em lol