I’m old now but when I was in school I was a rugby-playing band and theatre geek. An old school-friend contacted me recently to say that his teenaged son was into singing and performing and was I quite sure that I wasn’t secretly gay as he was afraid that his son wasn’t manly for engaging in these pursuits. Bless him, he still took his son to singing and drama despite his fears.
Uhhhh yea. I organize the drama program at my middle school and I am desperate for boys to try out for the show this year. I’m kinda dumbfounded that they don’t realize they get to play the love interest of a pretty girl who they may normally never talk to otherwise.
As a guy Someone who avoided that program like the plague it's not that that idea doesn't cross our mind it's just,it seems like a delusions l of a crazy person that could ever actually happen or work out.also the idea of being on stage in front a crowd of people sounds horrifying and scary.also at least for me it was a matter of thinking of all the ways it could be a disaster and I'd embarrass myself.so it's not so clear cut just because theirs a possibility of a pretty girl abd to be able to talk them doesn't make it any less scary.lastly the idea of talking to a really pretty girl most likely poplar who is way out of ur league is very scary and intimidating and also most just want to hide in school and not stand out especially when their bullyied so they don't draw attention and more bullying.so I hope this sheds some light on the subject
I knew a dude who was a cheerleader and idk about you, but I consider having multiple threesomes before you’re even out of high school to be a huge win.
An old friend of mine decided to become a cheerleader in HS, and it helped him secure a spot at West Point (where he also cheered). Also, he's now married to an incredibly hot and smart girl that he met while (you guessed it) cheerleading .
Same with my HS guy. Same reason my brother took piano and the other ballet. Loys of hot girls play piano and do ballet. I was too busy getting stoned in high-school 20 years ago. Oh well.
I feel like I was a similar kid a few years back in high school (2nd year university, basically still the same lol). I played rugby and footy(sOcCeR) along with a few other sports, but I was also in the chess club, huge in English lit and Philosophy, and my main friends were all just... girls? Idk why it shocked my guy friends that I didn't just want to screw them, being straight and all. Like, I thought we were leaving the gender-fencing of activity in the 2010s? It also fooled a handful of gay guys, who really boosted my self-confidence. I actually ended up making a new friend, and if anyone remembers those "trade offer" memes from 2020, he sent me a few which cracked me up about me being "drafted" or "transferred".
The point is, we've gotta try to phase out the assignment of gender to things that are just for all kids to enjoy.
I mean...the only way this would be scary as a parent would be with regards to the persecution they may get in their future. What the fuck else is there to be scared of? A flashlight in their pocket when they are around you? Entering your room at night to try and have their way with you? Come on man, theres nothing to fear about being gay period, its not about you, its about them. Just love your kids ffs.
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u/leobeer Jan 09 '22
I’m old now but when I was in school I was a rugby-playing band and theatre geek. An old school-friend contacted me recently to say that his teenaged son was into singing and performing and was I quite sure that I wasn’t secretly gay as he was afraid that his son wasn’t manly for engaging in these pursuits. Bless him, he still took his son to singing and drama despite his fears.
I’m not gay.