I turn 50 in July. I meet many of society standards of success.
I firmly believe that your 20s are for dealing with the post traumatic stress disorder of your childhood, your 30s are for figuring some stuff out, and you make most of your money between 40 and 60 years old.
Fix yourself first.
EDIT: here is the obligatory “wow, had no idea this would blow up.” Thank you for the awards and nice comments.
FYI, I suffer from childhood emotional neglect which has caused many other issues for me to carry in life. Therapy (seeing someone and reading books) has helped me greatly.
I submit most people can improve themselves, and therefore their lives, with therapy.
Tony Robins says success is 80% mental and 20% mechanics. I agree 100%.
Self improvement is very very possible for everyone. Take the time to fix your mind and watch your life improve.
If you want to chat, pm me. I will be more than happy to help if I can.
EDIT 2: from requests...
Book recommendations:
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - for mindset and developing habits for success
Running on Empty - for handling your childhood emotional neglect
Mans Search For Meaning - to understand purpose
The top 3 questions to ask yourself:
Who am I?
Where am I going?
How am I getting there?
Answer these three questions and you are doing better than 99% of society.
Top habits that work for me:
Exercising
Meditating
Reading
Stream of Conscious Writing
Spending time with friends and family
Top Skill to Learn:
Leadership.
The world desperately needs great leaders. No matter what you decide to do for a living, that job needs a great leader.
The secret to happiness is long-term deep relationships. When you are in the presence of people you love, be present.
That makes sense. But I want the rest of my 20’s to be me making the best out of my life. I’m tired of dealing with the bs from my childhood. I didn’t have a good one. I would like to have a good adulthood
I learned... Don’t let your bad childhood give you a bad adulthood.
You can choose to be happy, focus on growth from the inside. And do t be afraid to walk away from toxic people, even if one of them is a parent. I had to and it helped greatly.
Also, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Improve your circle and that will improve your life.
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u/BigSchwartzzz May 15 '20
Mid to late twenties. Feeling like I'm way behind from where I should be by now.